Boy do I need to move out.

Seriously?! I just love when people blame others for what food is around them!! It's sad you sit here and run your mother down because of the food she buys. you're the one who wants to change, deal with it! smh

Um, her mother is buying poor food choices that only the OP will eat. I don't know but I think that's kind of jerky.

OP, don't listen to this crap. You're better than they are and they're just jaded and bitter they didn't amount to anything.

Good luck figuring things out. I know the principle of the situation bothers you, but if your mother INSISTS on buying it, just throw it out, donate it, give it to someone else, whatever the hell you need to do. You got this!

You are correct. I am judgmental - and I have a right to use my judgment; and the fact that you are proudly bragging about living on food stamps helps me make another judgement.

We once played cops and robbers, now it is producers and parasites. LOL

why don't you have a big party - in Boston if you like - and throw yourself overboard with the rest of the tea.

*Sigh.* For a community that promises to be so supportive and motivating, some of you guys can be a really rude bunch.

OP, I know it can be frustrating when your mom buys things that you specifically ask her not to buy, but I don't believe that necessarily means she's trying to sabotage you. My mom does stuff like this all the time, but it comes from a loving place where, even though I say I don't want something, she knows it's something I enjoy from time to time and wants to let me have foods in the house that I enjoy. Case in point: every Christmas she gets me a little 12 count box of Ferrero Rochers, delicious they are, healthy, not so much.

For everyone telling the OP to simply throw the food in the trash, that really seems disrespectful to me. The mom is purchasing it with her own money, I hate to be one of those, "children are starving over in Africa," (Children are starving in America too, though), people, but it's true. Throwing perfectly fine food in the trash because it doesn't fit in your diet is so wasteful, hell, give it to your neighbor if you have a point to prove. But, honestly, I think having that food there is a good lesson in life. You can still enjoy these foods, allow yourself some "unhealthy" snacks every so often, but eat them in moderation, consume a small percentage less throughout the day and allow the snacks to fit in your macros and be a realistic addition to your healthy and active lifestyle.

I would move out the sooner the better. If she is buying food that only you like is sounds to me like she is tring to sabotage you.

My mom knows i'm counting my calories and going to the gym (since we go together, lol) and i've told her numerous times not to buy certain food items.

Is it her money that she is spending? Is she forcing you to eat what she buys? Why are you "telling" her anything? If you have grocery money, why don't you buy what you want to eat? Don't you think that is rude?

Yesterday she walks in the door with one of the items i didn't want. Today? Did it again with another one i mentioned. I scold her for it and she just laughs and says "don't eat them" when she knows how hard that's going to be for me, as they're my favorite and i'm the only one in the family that eats them.

She is not forcing you to eat the items. YOU control what goes in your mouth.

I feel like the only way to stop this is to move out and buy my own groceries. yikes..

If you have the money to move out then why don't you? You just need first, last months rent for security and pay the first real month. If you have money to buy foods you like, then why don't you buy your own groceries? Did you ever think that perhaps she wants you to be out on your own and that's why she buys what she wants to have in HER house. Grow up and take responsibility for your own actions. It might be your tone or your lack of respect. Personally, you couldn't live in my house. Oh, and after you have moved out for at least 6 months, come back and read your post. An apology might be in order on your part. Grow up.

Such a bad mommy. Lets you (an adult) live under her roof, pays for your groceries but will not take your instructions as to what to buy. Your sense of entitlement is amazing.

Glamchicka makes some really good points. Lots of moms fall into showing their love by giving them treats - things they know the kids like. Grown ups forgive them for it and eat what they need to fuel their bodies.

OP, I know it can be frustrating when your mom buys things that you specifically ask her not to buy,

Please reread the original post--OP did NOT ASK anything according to the person. The word used was "TOLD".

Motivation and support does not mean that you can just rant and expect people to just agree. Use some common sense. Was the OP asking anyone's opinion? Just making statements. The mother in this case could save money and have an extra room at home if the person moved out.

Not being rude, I am a mother who works hard for the things I have and what I provide for my family.

I think the OP has a point if, like she said, she is the only one who eats the items she has asked her mom not to purchase. If that's the case, what is it, other than sabotage?

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So let me get this straight, you don't pay for the groceries and you're complaining about what your mommy buys :huh:
Gee Whatta hardship ....
Have some self control and be thankful

Yes, wasting money on food items your child - who is the only person who eats said item - doesn't want is quite intelligent. Her mother needs to grow up and stop being wasteful at the expense of being immature.

The nerve of your Mom. You should probably make out the grocery list yourself, go with her, fill the basket yourself. Go ahead and let her be involved a little. Like pulling out her checkbook at the checkout counter.

Seriously...when you are living in someone else's home, you should be grateful. If you want something special, buy it. Prepare your own meals. Prepare some of the family meals. Until you contribute, you should just be thankful.

You are 21! I can't believe your mom hasn't kicked you out yet! Not to be mean but I booted my boys out at 19 only because I love em and wanted then to be independant individuals. You cannot expect your mom not to buy the groceries she wants to buy in her home, thats just rude. Now, go find a nice little apt and start buying your own groceries, you are a big girl now

Learn to deal with temptations; they're always going to be there.

Yup! ^^^^ That's life. Always some sort of temptation around. Don't eat whatever it is. If you are the only one that eats them and she bought them anyways to tempt you. Open it up infront of her, and dump it in the trash. Let he know that it was a waste of her money and you are serious about sticking to your goals. But if other people are eating them, then just be strong and pretend you don't know it's there.

Seriously?! I just love when people blame others for what food is around them!! It's sad you sit here and run your mother down because of the food she buys. you're the one who wants to change, deal with it! smh

Um, her mother is buying poor food choices that only the OP will eat. I don't know but I think that's kind of jerky.

I think that self control is important and if the mom has to fork out $ on food her grown daughter doesn't eat will teach her a lesson. Stop blaming others for your lack of control, just teach her a lesson. Say, thanks mom but I don't eat that junk anymore so you are wasting your money