Why are there so many crabby pants on MFP?

Some people do seem to use this as a springboard to attack and harass others. This site seriously needs a block button. One thing to note though is that all some of us have in common is a desire to weigh less and be healthier.

So take what works and ignore the rest. Failing that, imagine anyone you dislike being dragged nekkid through a stadium full of used cat litter.

I agree this site can be a amazing tool and i look forward to using it more. holding my self accountable. like i also said meeting people who have a common focus or goal is A Remarkable thing. i wont lie either some of the stuff here is So High school or Middle School. i am going to check out more of the forums in other category's maybe they are better fun and games was something i thought would be a fun place to start i was some what wrong


ok as for Game of Thrones truly one of the more epic Tv Events Ever

Why are the forums on MFP so hostile? It's just a weight gain/maitenance/loss tool that has the option of being able to share in a community of others who are interested in the same thing ie. fitness.

people are crabby everywhere; mfp is no different. put a man behind a monitor & keyboard and he's suddenly not accountable for politeness. it happens sometimes, especially with people who are "giving up" things they're emotionally connected to (like certain foods/ drinks)

so be patient with them. and be kind yourself. and then you'll find that most people are just people, like everywhere.

have a sweet day

I know what post you're referring to, because i saw you on it. I think people just get tired of the whining. And to be honest i can't stand people that get on here and whine. It will not do anything for weightloss. When she said "if i don't lose a pound this week i'm quitting!" that was a whine. I tried to offer her support and not be mean, but at the same time, you can only take so much advice from others. No one can hold your hand when you go to the fridge. She needs to buck up and get on it and stop taking so much energy whining. PUt it to the treadmill instead. GEEZ!!

I agree sometimes you want to shake a person, but then I can see the other side of the coin. I'm working so hard and the results are slow. I feel frustrated I feel defeated. I need help! I mean if your hungry you will be a bit whiney.

Repost!!!!

I have been here almost 2 years and I pretty much seen it all. This is how I see the life cycle of MFP (this tread is not about you personally….those are generalities. No hate mail please)

Newbie!!! This is sooo exciting, they are ready to do whatever it take to lose the weight once and for all.

-They cut calories as far as they can.

-Plan to lose 10 pounds in 4 weeks

-Go to the gym 2 hours a day and do cardio to burn calories,

-Do not eat their earned calories back (because what is the point then and think that all of us to tell them to eat, please just eat are out of their minds)

-Panic because a have a meal with family at a restaurant and oh my god how will they fit the calories in (hint…..exercising for hours)

-Post a tread about how nasty the old timers are.

-Burn out

Option A

-Quit

Option B

-Learn as much as possible about TDEE, BMR, The science of nutrition, Heavy strength training, learn about body fat%. Up their calories, care less about the scale; get healthy.

-turn around and try to help the newbie

-Get tired of fighting with the newbie and start answering in a way the newbies find rude.

-Get tired of being called rude but are in the best shape of their life, enjoy life, eat a lot and stop the hamster wheel of weight loss

Only problem with this post is that some of us have been around for more than 2 years. And this ^^^ little cycle didn't apply much before about a year & a half ago. That's when a big group (I lovingly call "the mob") came in & just loved to throw around the insults & "snarky" comments at those that weren't a part of their group. They pretty much took over the Chit Chat section. Mike (the developer of this site) tried to cut down on their behavior by creating groups in MFP, where you could create your own private groups that are much less moderated than the rest of the forums. It didn't have the desired effect.

Before that time there were plenty of us who learned a ton here, got in the best shape of our lives & still found ways to not insult everyone here that was new or just didn't do things our way. And jerks were actually pretty rare; yes, even in the Chit Chat section. In fact many of those folks have since left because of a lot of the nonsense that's so common now. It's just one the growing pains of site with a growing social network. Sad, but true.

I'm gonna go out on a limb & say this post might incite the mob a little...