Any spouses with separate bedrooms?

This could never happen for us.. Our favorite time of the day is getting into bed together and just letting the stress of the day melt away into nothingness as we drift into sleep. A lot of the time, we hold each other during the night and when one person rolls over, the other usually follows. Maybe it's because we've only been sleeping in the same bed for a year and half, but I'd like to think it will always be this way. Waking up together is pretty great too.

My man and I have separate bedrooms, and I doubt either of us would like it otherwise.

Nooooooooo....

We share a bedroom, but we have a spare/guest bedroom that either of us will use from time to time. He snores and I talk in my sleep, so we can seriously irritate each other some nights (plus, there are some days he has to wake up at 4 AM for work, which doesn't always go with my schedule). There were a few instances where one of us would wake up the other person to shut them up, and at that point we came to the agreement to just go sleep in the other room if we couldn't sleep in our bed.

I do really like that we go to bed together, though. That bit of time to talk and cuddle (and whatnot) before bed is very important to us. But, it's also nice knowing that we have an alternative option so that we can both get a restful night sleep after that.

I would be miserable. I snore, now I snore less, but she snores too!. I miss being far from her...

My boyfriend of 12 years works nights (for the past 7 years) so we rarely get to sleep in the bed at the same time, I love the weekends and early mornings when we actually sleep at the same time, even if we fight horribly over our 10 pillows and full sized quilt, and apparently I wake him with my snoring and he wakes me with his flatulence, I wouldn't trade it for anything, I love those rare occasions when we are both in the bed at the same time.

eta: I meant to add that I would never consider making him sleep in a separate room, he does annoy me because we're not used to sleeping together but I like being close to him so it just wouldn't work for us.

We sort of have that. I have three kids and we idiotically failed to do sleep training so they now all sleep in the bed with my wife and I end up sleeping either on the couch or in one of the kids' beds. It's actually fine and occasionally I get motivated and take each of them into their respective rooms so that we can snuggle. But it involves stairs, so I have to be *really* motivated.

My parents had separate sleeping arrangements because of his snoring. They ended up more like roommates than husband/wife... then my dad started cheating... then they got divored. Just a thought.


my thoughts too...

I can see how it may start off as a good idea for a good sleep- sleep is important but I cant imagine not being in bed without my partner....

Well I guess I'm strange because I like having my husband in the bed next to me. I would not do a separate bedroom...even on days he gets on my last nerve.

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Tim Burton and Helena Bonham Carter have separate houses (next door to each other though, and they just built a connecting hall or something like that). If one had the money, that would be interesting :happy:

My parents have had separate bedrooms for around 10 years or so. Mom needs a CPAP to sleep and is pretty ill, so she needs a really good night's sleep. My dad's snoring and tossing and turning woke her up all night and made her feel worse. Plus, they weren't comfortable in their queen-size bed anymore. So, she put a queen-size bed in my old room, and Dad kept their room. They both have a TV/DVR and painted their rooms in colors they like. Hers is full of frilly pillows and flowers, and his is a man cave. His room (the master) has a half-bath, so they even have separate bathrooms now. It works really well for them. They sleep better, which means they're happier and get along better.

I worked a different schedule from my boyfriend for a long time, and he snores like a freight train. I'm a really light sleeper, and if I wake up, it takes forever to get back to sleep. Nothing worked - I tried earplugs and sleeping pills, and he tried those Breathe Right strips. For a while, we had separate bedrooms. It was either that or argue all the time. Now that I'm sleeping better and working a better shift, we share a room again. Still, there are times he wakes me up with his snoring, and rather than smother him with a pillow, I go and sleep in the spare room. I always feel bad when I leave him, but he says it doesn't make him sad to wake up alone. He feels bad that he wakes me up, so he'd rather have me in another room sleeping well than next to him ready to kill him.

I cant even imagine not sleeping with my husband when he is home. He is deployed right now and I hate being without him. Even when he is home he wakes up way earlier than me but I like to wake up and get him coffee and say goodbye before he leaves for work. Sleeping in separate bedrooms seems like crazy talk to me.

Exactly how it is at my house. We've been married for over 10 years and he has deployed so many times during our marriage that when he is at home, we cherish the moments we get together. I love laying close to him and hearing his heart beat (makes me so grateful that he came home safely) and although he gets up earlier than me in the mornings, we don't leave the house without kissing each other goodbye and telling each other "I love You". I know this sounds mushy but life is short and you don't know how much time you might have together!

This seems downright strange to me. My husband works midnights, and I work afternoons. We rarely get to sleep together except for the weekends. Both of us totally miss one another when we have to sleep alone. I couldn't imagine him being in another bedroom seperate from me.

I work away from home and am usually only home every 3rd weekend, when I was at my heaviest I was (APPARENTLY) snoring something terrible...and more often than not I was sleeping on the couch or when our daughter went to college her room. Well, since I have lost 60 lbs, I DON'T snore anymore and we sleep together ALL the time (unless one of us us sick). Being on the road, I sleep on a lot of harder mattresses so when I am home I have hard time adjusting to the soft pillow top mattress right away. But I cherish the time I spend with my wife and can deal with the pain for the next day as long as I sleep with her! I could be wrong but I think some of the spouses on here need to join MFP as well...I know when I was 295 and I dropped to 271,. my snoring was GREATLY resduced and when I yo yo dieted and gained a pound back (yes, 272) I started snoring alot more. Then I found MFP and am at 235 and NO SNORING.

Good luck to all on here!