Any spouses with separate bedrooms?

We have separate rooms for sleeping. My hubby is a very loud snorer and he used to think I didn't want to sleep with him. He thought I was being overly sensitive and too light of a sleeper. We went camping two summers ago and some people came to talk to us in the morning and casually mentioned the snoring that wouldn't allow them to sleep. And they were about five sites away, across the street. Over the past two years, overnight guests have started to also comment on the snoring. He finally had to admit that maybe he has an issue.

He was tested for sleep apnea and it turns out it is severe. He got a CPAC machine, which works like a charm. However, he doesn't wear it often. He is having a hard time getting used to it and doesn't want to keep me awake. I suggested that he get used to it in the spare bedroom and then move back in our room when he does.

Nope. My husband snores but even then I love cuddling with him. Separate bedrooms to me is strange.

Sounds odd to some, I know, but I am considering proposing this to my husband. He travels a lot and when he's home, we have the hardest time being able to sleep together. Literally. We have a healthy relationship, etc., and for the most part, he's already got his own "separate" bedroom where he gets dressed in the morning so he won't wake me up, AND he's slept in there a few times already since our "readjustment" period takes a toll on both of us.

Just wondering if that's worked for anyone else ~ and hear any pros and cons.

After eight years, I've gotten very used to sleeping with the BF and I have a tough time when he isn't there. BUT ... he snores. Not every night, but the nights he does, it's awful and I end up on the couch. So, I can see the benefit!

I do have a friend who sleeps in a different room from her husband and has since they got married. It works for them just fine.

Hey, if sleeping in separate bedrooms works for you and you are in a happy, healthy marriage - more power to you IMO.

I wouldn't mind a few nights a week to sleep on my own, but honestly most nights I don't even notice my hubby is there. We stay on our same sides and he doesn't snore (and I don't think I do!).

I'm kind of surprised by how many of you there are that sleep in separate rooms. I have no opinion on it... Whatever works for you guys!

First off... I am 40 & he is 41 years old and we have been married for 20 years (together for 24). So we are pretty "used" to each other (kind of grew up together). I think this bears weight in the equation because we went from sleeping in our childhood single beds to sleeping together... so we don't know any different! If he is away for the night I don't sleep at all. Luckily that doesn't happen very often. LOL

Hubby and I sleep together every night (we generally watch TV in bed together for an hour or two before going to sleep). I used to snore but have stopped since dropping weight (he never seemed that bothered by it but has mentioned it after I stopped). Hubby snores occasionally, but generally a poke will get him to stop. He's a bit of a blanket hog but likes the bedroom cool, so I have my own little electric blanket to cuddle up in if I'm cold. Or I just wiggle my butt over against him (he's like a furnace when he sleeps!

Now the part that drives me nuts is that he tosses and turns ALOT! (it's really really bad if he's been drinking!). He is 6'4" and about 240lbs so not little by any means. So sometimes I would get an elbow to the side or a leg thrown over top of me. The perfect solution? Upgraded to a king size memory foam mattress! Now he has his space, I have mine and we can still be together. For us this was the best decision. I don't feel him tossing & turning (and I no longer get elbowed).

We ended up getting a king bed, and it really does help a lot. It's like having separate beds when we need space (or I need to roll the covers over my ears to block out the snoring), but we can also cuddle if we want to. We have separate blankets since he tosses and turns and rolls up like a tortilla, and that helps a lot too.

But like I said, on the nights his snoring wakes me up every 30-45 minutes and keeps me up for an hour at a time, I just give up and go into the spare bedroom. I see no reason to lose sleep, especially when it means I'll be angry the next day.