Observations on Body Shaming

kerfufflers gonna kerfuffle.

Thank you! :drinker:

I understand what you're saying, but when somebody throws pictures out there, they should expect comments that run the gamut from good, bad, and indifferent.

When someone is down 50 pounds and has another 50 to go, people are all kind of supportive. The problem is how rough the comments are on pics of people who really have achieved their goals and have reached envy-enducing figures. That of course is the problem IMO, envy.

And yes, all my usual snark aside, body shaming is against the rules.

I wish everyone was supportive for progress posts but as I mentioned yesterday, there were a TON of people defending the very fit girl and accusing others of body shaming. A post a week or so ago came up with a girl who lad lost 30lbs or so and she posted pics of herself fin her underwear. She still had a ways to go but by now means was wearing plus sized clothes. I saw many people who cried 'body shaming' yesterday making comments on that girls post such as, "that was scary", "it was not pretty" or "I am scarred by her underwear pics".

The hypocrisy is what really p!sses me off.

If you're addressing the thread I think you are, it was an exception and yes she was barely wearing any clothes with the "oh snap" attitude like she had conquered world hunger. Clueless arrogance isn't attractive either

That whole thread was not about body shaming. It was about being shocked by someone topless in a thong, which is a clear violation of the TOS. Topless in a thong with inappropriate body hair protruding from what little she chose to wear is not pretty no matter what size a person is.

She would have gotten kudos in a bikini, in a jog bra, in yoga shorts, in larger underpants, etc. But that was exhibitionism. If I want to see that, I would go to Craigslist or some other place where that is considered fine.

And yes, I'm in a swimsuit. That's my whole point. And yeah, I have many areas on my body that I'm still ashamed of. But I'd never tell someone else to be ashamed of those areas.

I agree with you Patti! I had wls over 10 years ago. I lost alot of weight, and gained about half of it back. Over the past couple of years on here I have managed to get rid of the weight I regained by eating better and moving more. I recently had someone say to me, "I bet you feel even better this time than you did before, because you lost it the real way this time. You can't rely on the surgical quick fix anymore." Excuse me? I lost it the real way? Does that mean I lost it the fake way the first time? Haters gonna hate. :glasses:

I understand what you're saying, but when somebody throws pictures out there, they should expect comments that run the gamut from good, bad, and indifferent.

When someone is down 50 pounds and has another 50 to go, people are all kind of supportive. The problem is how rough the comments are on pics of people who really have achieved their goals and have reached envy-enducing figures. That of course is the problem IMO, envy.

And yes, all my usual snark aside, body shaming is against the rules.

I wish everyone was supportive for progress posts but as I mentioned yesterday, there were a TON of people defending the very fit girl and accusing others of body shaming. A post a week or so ago came up with a girl who lad lost 30lbs or so and she posted pics of herself fin her underwear. She still had a ways to go but by now means was wearing plus sized clothes. I saw many people who cried 'body shaming' yesterday making comments on that girls post such as, "that was scary", "it was not pretty" or "I am scarred by her underwear pics".

The hypocrisy is what really p!sses me off.

Okay... that chick was damn near naked which violates forum rules. I didn't see all those comments, but I suspect that they weren't necessarily referring to her body.

No. What happened was she posted pictures of herself bra-less and everyone wondered why no bra. She got defensive and made the remarks that people were hating on her and jealous of her boobs. No matter the suggestions or support, it came back constantly to everyone hating on her when no one really was. The underwear was a thong, to note..and included butt shots...with some curlies hanging out (if you know what I mean).

Many people told her nice progress but that her pictures were violations and not appropriate. And as I said, her attitude provoked a lot of the snarky response. And this happened on BOTH threads she posted, one day after the other. She went in for a third, but quickly changed her mind, thank goodness.

Topless in a thong with inappropriate body hair protruding from what little she chose to wear is not pretty no matter what size a person is.

I agree. No one wants to see topless in a thong. Totally unattractive. Yuck. Eww. No way, Jose.

:noway:

ew, gross, and disgusting should not be used when describing a body type you may not prefer.

those words make me hissy.

Exactly.

I understand what you're saying, but when somebody throws pictures out there, they should expect comments that run the gamut from good, bad, and indifferent.

When someone is down 50 pounds and has another 50 to go, people are all kind of supportive. The problem is how rough the comments are on pics of people who really have achieved their goals and have reached envy-enducing figures. That of course is the problem IMO, envy.

And yes, all my usual snark aside, body shaming is against the rules.

I wish everyone was supportive for progress posts but as I mentioned yesterday, there were a TON of people defending the very fit girl and accusing others of body shaming. A post a week or so ago came up with a girl who lad lost 30lbs or so and she posted pics of herself fin her underwear. She still had a ways to go but by now means was wearing plus sized clothes. I saw many people who cried 'body shaming' yesterday making comments on that girls post such as, "that was scary", "it was not pretty" or "I am scarred by her underwear pics".

The hypocrisy is what really p!sses me off.

If you're addressing the thread I think you are, it was an exception and yes she was barely wearing any clothes with the "oh snap" attitude like she had conquered world hunger. Clueless arrogance isn't attractive either

That whole thread was not about body shaming. It was about being shocked by someone topless in a thong, which is a clear violation of the TOS. Topless in a thong with inappropriate body hair protruding from what little she chose to wear is not pretty no matter what size a person is.

She would have gotten kudos in a bikini, in a jog bra, in yoga shorts, in larger underpants, etc. But that was exhibitionism. If I want to see that, I would go to Craigslist or some other place where that is considered fine.

And yes, I'm in a swimsuit. That's my whole point. And yeah, I have many areas on my body that I'm still ashamed of. But I'd never tell someone else to be ashamed of those areas.

Yet how many people bringing the underwear belonged to the 'Boobie Friday' group or have posted similar pics until the mods started cracking down on that hardcore? I know I have posted pics like that before and lest we not forget who all participated in the 'Snarky fat chics in bikinis thread'. Since some people have received warnings or strikes over pics like that it's ok to make crappy comments about that girl? Maybe she was new to the forums or had seem people posting similar pics, maybe she did it intentionally but I don't think that makes the comments ok. . Let the mods deal with the TOS violations.

Do I belong in a bikini? hell no, but I had confidence for the first time in years. I went from refusing to go out in public because I was so ashamed of my body to liking what I saw in the mirror and it was an incredible feeling.

ETA: I only saw one thread, and she was wearing a bra and nude colored underwear, but it was front facing so I never saw that it was a thong. IMO, it wasn't a bad pic, even if it was against TOS.

I love your original points Pattie!