How do you know someone is the one?
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unlocks the driverside door for you while they are inside the car...duh. sheesh havent you watched "a bronx tale"?
Thought I was the only one left that knew this was the true test!!!!!
"Alright, listen to me. You pull up right where she lives, right? Before you get outta the car, you lock both doors. Then, get outta the car, you walk over to her. You bring her over to the car. Dig out the key, put it in the lock and open the door for her. Then you let her get in. Then you close the door. Then you walk around the back of the car and look through the rear window. If she doesn't reach over and lift up that button so that you can get in: dump her."
"Just like that?"
"Listen to me, kid. If she doesn't reach over and lift up that button so that you can get in, that means she's a selfish broad and all you're seeing is the tip of the iceberg. You dump her and you dump her fast."
Words to live by.0 -
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unlocks the driverside door for you while they are inside the car...duh. sheesh havent you watched "a bronx tale"?
Thought I was the only one left that knew this was the true test!!!!!
"Alright, listen to me. You pull up right where she lives, right? Before you get outta the car, you lock both doors. Then, get outta the car, you walk over to her. You bring her over to the car. Dig out the key, put it in the lock and open the door for her. Then you let her get in. Then you close the door. Then you walk around the back of the car and look through the rear window. If she doesn't reach over and lift up that button so that you can get in: dump her."
"Just like that?"
"Listen to me, kid. If she doesn't reach over and lift up that button so that you can get in, that means she's a selfish broad and all you're seeing is the tip of the iceberg. You dump her and you dump her fast."
Words to live by.
That mighta worked in the 90's. but I generally unlock my own door by pushing the button on my key. .0 -
He fell in love with me fat. And stayed by my side through my worst struggles, death, me being sued my panic attacks. I stood by him through open heart surgery, health, job loss. And we still married, because when all else is gone and you stand there with each other and there is literally nothing to give, physically and emotionally but love and you still love each other. That is the one.
And don't do it yourself unless you can give the exact same thing back.0 -
That mighta worked in the 90's. but I generally unlock my own door by pushing the button on my key. .
I know right?
But key fob or no, I still always open the door for her.0 -
If they had a disabling illness or injury and needed to have diapers or wound dressings changed, would you care for them with love and without resentment? Even if they no longer recognized you? Would they do the same for you if the roles were reversed?0
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When you dont have to ask yourself if the are the one
What gets me is when I see couples that have been together for years breaking up. Surely at some point they thought of each other as 'the one' and then they've ended up apart so what makes my situation different? Did those people always know they weren't right for each other?
Also, as someone who questions everything, I think it's perfectly healthy to ask yourself if someone is right for you. Maybe more people would have successful relationships if everyone thought more about this and decided they were sure before making a commitment.0 -
If they had a disabling illness or injury and needed to have diapers or wound dressings changed, would you care for them with love and without resentment? Even if they no longer recognized you? Would they do the same for you if the roles were reversed?
If you really loved someone, you wouldn't want them to spend the rest of their lives looking after you when you don't even remember them. I'd want my fiance to go on without me. x0 -
When you can live without them, and still be awesome, but you'd just really rather damn not, cause you're always more awesome and can go a bit farther with them, than alone.0
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I don't know how it is for everyone, but I knew my husband was "the one" the first time we were apart (temporarily - he went out of town to care for his sick mom), and I realized that he'd become so much a part of my life that the possibility of him NOT being a part of it just wasn't there anymore. He came back, feeling much the same way, and we were engaged within a month. 15 years later, and I still feel the same.0
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I have no idea this is basically a bump.0
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Please tell me. Because I'm so confused lately....
You tie them up and weigh them down with cinder blocks and throw them off the bridge. If they float, they are not the one. If they sink and drown...they are the one. Simple.
(What do we burn, apart from witches?)0 -
When you can poop in front of them.0
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My ex-husband was "the one". Then we got married and he was abusive and mean and treated me like crap. When I got pregnant he left me for another woman.
Obviously my radar is inaccurate.0 -
If they had a disabling illness or injury and needed to have diapers or wound dressings changed, would you care for them with love and without resentment? Even if they no longer recognized you? Would they do the same for you if the roles were reversed?
If you really loved someone, you wouldn't want them to spend the rest of their lives looking after you when you don't even remember them. I'd want my fiance to go on without me. x
I'm thinking back to when my mother was dying of cancer. Should my dad have walked away after 41 years of marriage? Hell no! He was honored and determined to be there for her right through it all. He would not have wanted to abandon her to avoid a few weeks of particular unpleasantness.0 -
well,,,,it brings butterflies to your tummy every second you look at them,,,
you walk, talk, sleep them,
if you do not feel DEEPLY
they are not for you.0 -
Do you want to spend the rest of your life with them? Do you feel this way even on the bad days? Do they make you happy 95% of the time? Do they love you completely the way you are but are okay with your changing and evolving? Can you say the same thing about them?
In my opinion these are the critical questions. Once you can answer "yes" to all of them, you have probably found The One for you.0 -
When you don't wonder what else is out there...0
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LOL!0
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IS there a such thing? =(0
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Watch 'A Bronx Tale'.
All you need to know.0 -
With only 3 posts in over half a hour, the answer is, there is no answer.
^^^ This.0 -
unlocks the driverside door for you while they are inside the car...duh. sheesh havent you watched "a bronx tale"?
Thought I was the only one left that knew this was the true test!!!!!
make that three.When you dont have to ask yourself if the are the one
Pretty much this.0 -
If they had a disabling illness or injury and needed to have diapers or wound dressings changed, would you care for them with love and without resentment? Even if they no longer recognized you? Would they do the same for you if the roles were reversed?
If you really loved someone, you wouldn't want them to spend the rest of their lives looking after you when you don't even remember them. I'd want my fiance to go on without me. x
Well, we marry for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, til death do we part. At that point, its about whether love and marriage is a commitment, or whether its about convenience. I understand your point, and I'm not pointing fingers at you or anything like that...but I've been through it, and it was in my early 30's fwiw. I hope that it showed character to stay with her, no matter what, because there is no possible way I could have NOT been by her side to look out for her, to take care of her, etc. I would hope that she would have done the same for me, and I'm pretty positive that she would have. Would I want her to be happy and move on versus devoting her life to care for me? Of course. Would the character of the person I chose to spend my life with allow for that? Nope.0 -
When you dont have to ask yourself if the are the one
What gets me is when I see couples that have been together for years breaking up. Surely at some point they thought of each other as 'the one' and then they've ended up apart so what makes my situation different? Did those people always know they weren't right for each other?
Long marriages don't necessarily mean happy marriages. There was a great article on the AARP website that I read the other day that addressed the reasons why many long-term marriages fail. I know communication, trust and intimacy are very important parts of a relationship and are the main contributors to the success of long-term relationships.
http://www.aarp.org/relationships/love-sex/info-06-2010/naked-truth-long-term-marriages-end.html
Like I said before, I have been with my husband for 23 years. It wasn't always easy, but we worked through everything and came through even stronger than when we started. I knew he was worth the investment and he knew I was, because we were the "one" for each other.0 -
When you love them more every year .......even after 22 years.0
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well,,,,it brings butterflies to your tummy every second you look at them,,,
you walk, talk, sleep them,
if you do not feel DEEPLY
they are not for you.
This is more like stalker obsession...0 -
When someone cuts off the head of the Kurgan with Juan Sánchez Villa-Lobos Ramírez's sword and goes through the quickening.
Wait, am I the only one who went right to the highlander reference?
I think I u....:flowerforyou:
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i dont believe there is necesarily such a thing as "the one", I am happily married but believe there's a lover round every corner for each of us. When you decide to be with someone i think you have to make it work. it doesn't just happen. xx0
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I feel like all of these are right...You feel like your best version of yourself when you are with him. You have similar goals and lifestyles, and want similar things for the future. You have similar ways of handling money (if you don't, you're going to be fighting about it for your entire marriage!). He is supportive of your hopes and dreams, and you are supportive of his. You have known him long enough to have had time to observe his behavior in a variety of settings, and admire his character. His actions match his words (does he say he loves you but then screams and yells at you? If so, maybe think twice!). How does his father treat his mother? Remember, that is his role model for marriage!
Yeah, that heart-pumping attraction has to be there, too. But don't let it sway you from looking at the issues of compatibility! Just because someone makes your heart throb doesn't mean he would make a wise marriage choice.
Good luck!He will make you want to be a better person. You will feel like you are getting the better end of the deal (not in a selfish way). You will want to negotiate rather than fight. You will know without doubt that they love you. You won't even wonder if they would ever cheat on you. You won't be able to picture a life without them.It's cheesy but I saw something that said "don't marry a man unless you'd be proud to have a son exactly like him" and I realized this was true. I would've hated to have had a son like my ex but would love to have ones like my boyfriend.
^ This, along with, would you be proud of this person parenting your child, being an influence in your child's life? Even if you don't want kids, I feel this is a good question to ask yourself.Its so frustrating, I know, to hear people say "you just know it"....but, in reality, you really do "just know it".If anybody has to "change" to make it work..... then he is definitely NOT the one. Just my two cents' worthWhen you don't wonder what else is out there...The short answer is, you just know. There's no attempts to try to convince yourself of it.0
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