Secretly Wishing Your Ex Gets Fat/ter

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  • rockangel8907
    rockangel8907 Posts: 429 Member
    My ex is overweight and I wish him nothing but health and happiness. I do hope he is able to lose weight, not for my sake at all but for his health and overall well being. I was hurt deeply by him and tried to forgive and forget but couldn't, for a while I wanted him to hurt as badly as I had been hurt, but then I realized that w/ everything going on he had hurt enough.
  • sissiluv
    sissiluv Posts: 2,205 Member
    Y'all are sick. It isn't normal, it is twisted and WRONG. That is the true definition of hatred. Wishing evil upon another human being. You should all be ashamed, and go pray for ex-whatevers. And pray for them every day that they will have all good things until you actually mean what you are praying. Resentment will kill you. Don't give these people all that free rent inside your head.
    Because fat=evil...?
    Neat! I need to buy a super villain costume.
  • mhcoss
    mhcoss Posts: 220
    thats pretty immature. Get over him and move on with your life

    /thread
  • TheConsciousFoody
    TheConsciousFoody Posts: 607 Member
    My ex lost 60 pounds when we were together but a few months after we broke up he had emailed a picture of himself and he had gained it all back and then some. I thought it was amusing at first but at the same time it made me sad for him because it meant he went back to an unhealthy lifestyle and was back to being depressed.
  • Topher1978
    Topher1978 Posts: 975 Member
    Y'all are sick. It isn't normal, it is twisted and WRONG. That is the true definition of hatred. Wishing evil upon another human being. You should all be ashamed, and go pray for ex-whatevers. And pray for them every day that they will have all good things until you actually mean what you are praying. Resentment will kill you. Don't give these people all that free rent inside your head.
    Because fat=evil...?
    Neat! I need to buy a super villain costume.
    Yes, it is an evil. All illness is an evil. This does not mean that fat people are evil. Death is an evil. Vices are evil. This is not indicating that people with vices are evil.
  • Mutant13
    Mutant13 Posts: 2,485 Member
    I didn't really think I cared with my ex.

    Until I found our he got fat.

    I definetly got some guilty pleasure from it. In my defender he was a really bad dude
  • Mutant13
    Mutant13 Posts: 2,485 Member
    Y'all are sick. It isn't normal, it is twisted and WRONG. That is the true definition of hatred. Wishing evil upon another human being. You should all be ashamed, and go pray for ex-whatevers. And pray for them every day that they will have all good things until you actually mean what you are praying. Resentment will kill you. Don't give these people all that free rent inside your head.
    Because fat=evil...?
    Neat! I need to buy a super villain costume.
    Yes, it is an evil. All illness is an evil. This does not mean that fat people are evil. Death is an evil. Vices are evil. This is not indicating that people with vices are evil.

    In my opinion, there are people in this world who deserve to have evil happen to them
  • jamie610811
    jamie610811 Posts: 1,735 Member
    No can't be bothered with all that...... I just leave it to my Voodoo doll to get back :-)
  • sissiluv
    sissiluv Posts: 2,205 Member
    Y'all are sick. It isn't normal, it is twisted and WRONG. That is the true definition of hatred. Wishing evil upon another human being. You should all be ashamed, and go pray for ex-whatevers. And pray for them every day that they will have all good things until you actually mean what you are praying. Resentment will kill you. Don't give these people all that free rent inside your head.
    Because fat=evil...?
    Neat! I need to buy a super villain costume.
    Yes, it is an evil. All illness is an evil. This does not mean that fat people are evil. Death is an evil. Vices are evil. This is not indicating that people with vices are evil.
    It sounds like you're making a bit of a generalization. Being fat doesn't automatically equate to being unhealthy just as being thin doesn't automatically make someone fit. Considering that fat is crucial to living a healthy life (and having more of it can be beneficial to low-food situations as the body turns to it for energy) I'm surprised you find it to be an 'evil'.
    If I would be calling anything an 'evil' I'd be calling out the society that vilified a natural process of the human body and TURNED it into something to be seen as evil.

    However I'll grant you that wishing bad things on people is a jerky thing to do, even if I wouldn't necessarily call 'getting fat' a 'bad thing', so much as exposing them to the pains of a society that body-shames people like it's a religion. I do however retain the right to express a keen lack of sympathy.
  • Topher1978
    Topher1978 Posts: 975 Member
    The causes of being overweight are either disease (an evil) or gluttony (an evil). So to wish someone overweight is to wish evil upon them. It is very simple. It is like wishing lung cancer on someone, or alcoholism.
  • HotMummyMission
    HotMummyMission Posts: 1,723 Member
    Nope.
    Honestly I think that is an awful way to think. Why bother with negativity?

    Work on YOU. Eff the rest.


    What she said ... Bunny boiler may be?
  • Kaathmandu
    Kaathmandu Posts: 129
    I reckon, although it is unsaintly, it is human to take secret, guilty pleasure when karma kicks someone who did you wrong.
    Chill people! We know it is not saintly, that's why it's secret and guilty!
    You're not being rude to him openly, like he was to you.
    Now, if you were secretly sugaring his vegetables or putting heavy coke in his diet coke bottles ... :laugh:
  • Zazzymo
    Zazzymo Posts: 4
    I have to disagree T .... many people become overweight nowadays because their environment encourages them to be inactive and they are unaware of the calorie density of the food they consume. Weight creeps on over time and with education and a few lifestyle changes the problem can be reversed. People also experience changes in eating habits and hormones from stress and/or depression. It is often not 'Gluttony' that is the problem.
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    Yeah, and he did. But so did I, so it's the whole three fingers point back at you rule I think. Stop thinking of anyone but yourself. Go burn his pics at the beach flush a letter to him down the toilet or whatever just get him out of your system and the hate or whatever it is and focus on yourself.
  • Topher1978
    Topher1978 Posts: 975 Member
    I have to disagree T .... many people become overweight nowadays because their environment encourages them to be inactive and they are unaware of the calorie density of the food they consume. Weight creeps on over time and with education and a few lifestyle changes the problem can be reversed. People also experience changes in eating habits and hormones from stress and/or depression. It is often not 'Gluttony' that is the problem.
    Gluttony or disease. Both are evils. If you give laziness the credit, that is simple. It is a vice, and thus an evil. Just like pain is an evil, bronchitis is an evil etc.
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    I guess I've been lucky. I've only been in 2 romantic relationships. The first one ended peacefully and I'm happily married to the second one, and have only ever been treated well by both, so I can honestly say that I wish my ex well. However, I'm the type that once I'm done, I'm moving on, so I don't have any idea what ever happened to him. It's not a concern of mine. I supposed if he'd been an A-hole I would maybe hold some ill will and think nasty thoughts...That's pretty natural, but it's not really healthy, either. Bitterness will eat you up. Don't let some old has-been control your feelings. :flowerforyou:
  • disdatdude
    disdatdude Posts: 118
    I wonder why, if you consider your weight a problem, you would wish that on your ex? Is it that you you weren't appreciated because of your weight or is it your wish to be more desireable while your ex becomes less desireable?

    That's a weird wish. I've never wished it and I've never been overweight. I've dated both thin and thick women and I've never subconsciously wished them to be physically less desireable when the relationship ended. I have wished, on the occasions that the lady left me, that she were lonely or something of that nature. Most times if I end a relationship I pray that my ex meets someone more desireable or to their liking. I don't know, maybe that's just me?
  • Hollisss
    Hollisss Posts: 88 Member
    My ex actually gained a lot of weight and nw he's on blood pressure medication (he's in his early 30's now) it breaks my heart.
    Despite a horrible break up, I want him to live a healthy and long life.
  • mjhedgehog
    mjhedgehog Posts: 249 Member
    I guess since I've been fat and know how it feels, I wouldn't wish it upon anyone. :/
  • angelique_redhead
    angelique_redhead Posts: 782 Member
    I wish my ex-boyfriends and ex-husbands well.
  • IsabellaC45
    IsabellaC45 Posts: 137 Member
    YES! So badly. Last time I saw him he commented on how good I was looking, and asked if I'd lost weight.

    In my dreams, I'm a swimwear model, and people ask how he ever got a girl like me.

    A bit shallow I know, but I don't care. He was a knob!!
  • _the_feniks_
    _the_feniks_ Posts: 3,412 Member
    Nope.
    Honestly I think that is an awful way to think. Why bother with negativity?

    Work on YOU. Eff the rest.

    /thread.
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,021 Member
    I tend to think that if you care at all whether or not your ex is overweight, you're still not completely over him/her.
  • KANGOOJUMPS
    KANGOOJUMPS Posts: 6,474 Member
    funny.
  • Puggy33
    Puggy33 Posts: 300
    I used her as motivation to look how I do now, I'd hit the treadmill and just think of all the things she did to do me wrong. I wanted nothing to do with women I just wanted to work out and hit that treadmill and just look like something she could never get in her life and every ****ing chance I get i rub it in her face. I was bitter, still am, but I turned my bitterness into the lifestyle I wanted for myself so in a way her cheating on me and treating me like a piece of **** motivated me in ways I couldn't do myself and I couldn't have asked for anything more.
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    no, not at all. I could honestly care less what he does.
  • ZombieBubbles
    ZombieBubbles Posts: 110 Member
    I do the same. In fact I saw my most recent ex an he's gained a lot if weight. Can't say I didnt get sick enjoyment out of it.
  • moosegt35
    moosegt35 Posts: 1,296 Member
    Well I gotta say overweight=/=unhealthy, just like skinny=/=healthy.

    But now that that's out of the way seriously, thats pretty normal I think. Moreso if it was a relationship turned sour vs a mutual parting of ways for some reason.
    Hell, I gotta admit...Its not even ex-specific! I had an old coworker who promised me she'd help to put me out of my misery if I ever gained more weight.
    Needless to say I find the fact that she's since gained 20-30 pounds whereas I've been losing is absolutely hilarious, based on that comment alone, and will be delightfully smug if I ever see her when I get to my goal weight.

    Actually overweight does = unhealthy, it's just an excuse fat people give to remail fat by saying "i'm overweight but am perfectly healthy". No, you aren't.

    disclaimer: The use of the word "you" in my post does not mean you, just anyone in general.
  • moosegt35
    moosegt35 Posts: 1,296 Member
    I do not wish for them to become fat or fatter either, ex's become great FWB's, why would you want them to be fat?
  • jesz124
    jesz124 Posts: 1,004 Member
    What a load of saintly people there is on here. Never thinking a bad thought about an ex, only ever wishing them well. In the land of bunnies, candy floss, rainbows and special snowflakes everything must be perfect.

    OP there's nothing wrong with you, if your ex was a **** who said nasty things to you you think what you want. Your not weird or horrible, just human x

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