Married men answer this.........

Warning - Femaile butting in...

Please compromise, not conform! Be an individual! Have passion about stuff! Have an opinion! If the women you are with is a confident, capable, individual she will appreciate it!

My husband got me a tshirt that says "I may not always be right, but I am Never ever wrong".
Enought said? LOL,

This just made me wonder, if a husband saw that his wife was wrong about something on the internet, would that cause a paradox that would destroy the universe?

Yeah, it does....................................you're whipped!!

Mutual whipping anymore. Power in a relationship always falls with the person least in love at the time, and love wans and crests throughout the years. Interesting dynamic.

even though I am a married-like woman ( and also once divorced) I agree with this statement..

Not sure what my husband would say about this. I'm sure we both think we are conforming sometimes and compromising sometimes. I tend to do what I want and expect him to tell me if he wants me to stop or change, and plenty of times he doesn't, so there's no way I can either conform or compromise in that situation. I am more forward and vocal about what I want or don't want and usually what I don't want is extreme behavior on his part, so when I tell him about it, he usually conforms. When he tells me what he wants or doesn't want, I usually give him what he wants unless it's insanely unreasonable, like asking me NOT to comply with fire prevention and safety measures when it comes to trees on our country property. I won't conform in that case and I don't what compromise there could be. Most of the time when he tells me something he doesn't want, that's how I decide if I conform or not. How reasonable is it, whatever it is? If it's reasonable, I usually conform.

[/quote]The toilet seat, cleaning the house, having sex......................that about covers it.:laugh:

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Really? That's it? I do all the cleaning, all the laundry, AND I don't care about the toilet seat (although I will have a fit if I step in pee in the middle of the night cuz he "missed" the bowl)...and I never will be able to have sex at the pace he wants plus do all this and work my full time job, workout and keep up with my 3 and 5 year old...

Compromise at best.

Since we met, I was pretty hard on "you are who you are, I am who I am, if we like each other for that GREAT, otherwise, move on

We're still together! Happy too!

I don't "conform" and don't expect her to as well, but when it matters we can compromise.

Lol, yeah marriage is a different story altogether.:laugh:

We are married....

I am a huge fan of men, but this common line of thinking does not make sense to me. My husband would agree that I have final say on lots of things. But, be honest guys. Is it really stuff that you feel passionately about? Women care about a lot of details that escape the notice of men. Give me a specific example of what sort of things you "compromise" on.
thanks.

Sounds like a challenge.....

Ok, so I compromise when it's my cheat night and she wants to have chinese takeout, and I want pizza, we end up getting chinese takeout and I make a frozen pizza. Even though it's my cheat night. And I am very "passionate" about pizza, and I really can't stand the frozen crap. But I do it because I love her and I'd rather make her happy than satisfy my craving for ooey-gooey fatty goodness. :sad: We still ate horribly, we just compromised on where we ordered from.

Or I compromise when I say: Let's go to Vegas for a vacation, and she says let's stay at a bed and breakfast with flowery bedding and ruffles on the bed and tea time every day in the garden. :huh: We hit the bed and breakfast, and the tea is average, and the bed is lumpy, but she's happy we went so I'm happy. We still went on vacation, we just compromised on where we went.

Would I have been happier if we went to Vegas and had a good time?

Not that I'm going to admit on a public forum. :bigsmile: :bigsmile: :drinker:

I think most people have a huge misconception of what marriage is and the expectation of what we "get" out of it. Marriage is work. Marriage is difficult. Marriage takes time. A lifetime to do it right. Focus more on what you can give your spouse rather than what you can get from him/her and you will find your marriage much more enjoyable. Make it your goal to make them happy and they will make sure you are happy. Now of course there are some self destructive, extremely self centered individuals out there which are the exception, no doubt...

My husband and I rarely fight. I think in the almost 4 years we have been together we have faught less times than you could count on one hand. I would like to think it's because we pick and choose our battles wisely. He may say it's because he conforms...lol He is kinda cross between confident and cocky so I'd like to think it's more because of equal compromise.

I think most people have a huge misconception of what marriage is and the expectation of what we "get" out of it. Marriage is work. Marriage is difficult. Marriage takes time. A lifetime to do it right. Focus more on what you can give your spouse rather than what you can get from him/her and you will find your marriage much more enjoyable. Make it your goal to make them happy and they will make sure you are happy. Now of course there are some self destructive, extremely self centered individuals out there which are the exception, no doubt...

Someone has been reading the Love Languages....

Making a woman happy isn't about conforming and compromise. It's about listening to what want and understanding what they need. I try and buy my wife a gift or do something special every month or so. A nice full body massage goes a long way. Never buy gifts when you did something stupid. Suck it up, apologize and take it like a man. Help out with the laundry, cooking, dishes and other chores. If you follow that recipe you are on your way to a happy mariage.

In our case we have an understanding that the person who feels the most strongy about the item prevails. This is worked for us for the last 17 years

There is lots of discussion going on in our house and a heck of a lot of compromise. If one of us has very strong feelings though, that one will say so, and the other will usually give in.

Its called a give and take relationship, I give and she takes. LOL. Really it’s about a 70/ 30 split and yes it’s in her favor.