Hubby threw out all my "healthy food".. WTH

For grocery shopping, my SO and I go together and he picks out things he wants so there's no complaining about not getting to eat things he wants. And if he wants fast food, he'll have it-- he just knows not to expect that I will be eating it with him. There's not a rule about us having to eat the same things.

I'm the one who wants to lose weight. My bf says he could lose 10lbs, but its not an issue for him. In my fridge I have pop (soda), in the cupboard I have chips.. I don't eat them, he does.. I am the one who cooks the meals in our home and I keep things healthy, but I dont deprive him from his real food.

I make changes to the meals.. I use brown rice pasta.. He doesnt care that it is gluten free and healthier.. (whole wheat pasta I think tastes gross, so if you are using that, then I'd complain too) but pasta from quinoa or brown rice tastes great! I buy extra lean ground beef. He wouldnt be able to tell when I cook it up and add the garlic he loves so much to it that it is extra lean. We have 1% milk in the fridge and we also have almond milk.. He can drink what he wants and I have what I want. When I cook or bake with it, I chose, and he has no clue..

I steam veggies or make a salad. He will chose to eat it, but I usually will eat more of it and less of the carb on my plate..

You dont have to force your spouse to be on a diet just because you are... Its unfortunate that he is being unsupportive, but I know my guy would freak out as well if I forced my meal planing on him.

Divorce is not an answer.. And I think its stupid for people to say you should leave him. Communication is the answer. He needs to be supportive of your commitment to lose weight and you cant deprive him of the foods he needs and loves.

Instead of buying that 4 liter of milk, buy a 1 liter of skim for you and a 1 liter of 2% for him.. He gets his, you get yours.. Have salt available for him to add to his food. Have pop (or soda if you are in the USA) available in your fridge.. Real coke, not diet coke.. Make sure to have frozen eggo's in the freezer or what ever it is that he is needing...

If you are the one cooking the meals you need to make sure you are creating well balanced meals. With veggies, grains, meats and dairy.. I highly doubt he is complaining about the light cheese or the 25% less sodium broth... He is complaining about the lack of hearty foods for him to feel full on.

You need to have the will power to not eat the foods that he wants/needs..

Was it right for him to throw out the healthy food? Nope! But dont deprive him of eating what he wants just because you cant..

And also the only place where people take an OP at face value. I'd bet a million dollars that the husband asked for better food at least 30 times before finally blowing his lid. This is the reaction of someone that reached their breaking point but still wasn't being heard. There are two unreasonable people in this story, not one

See? I could almost understand if the husband had bought a joint of meat or whatever and some veg, or some other kind of manfood and cooked it up and said that hed like to eat that once in a while.

But what he did was bring in some take away crap (I have since googled nachos - they look like they are crisps with cheese on), and then proceeded to throw a wobbly.

I don't even care what's going on with OP and her husband---- you didn't know what nachos are??? What a sad day! Where are you from and remind me to NEVER come visit!! (KIDDING, BUT SERIOUS---GO MAKE SOME NACHOS)

I'm English - but I am very rural. I have seen nachos - once I googled them, I knew what they were. They sit under heat lamps in the cinema looking greasy. Don't look like they have ever seen anything that grew other than the corn for the crisps-bit. Even a burger has some salad in it.

What you described are NOT nachos, lol! Unless you know a really good Mexican restaurant, you should never BUY them, you MAKE them! MY nachos are loaded with beans, ground beef, guacamole, tomatoes, salsa, jalapenos cheese and sour cream. *kisses fingertips* amazing.

Am I the only who thinks "throw a wobbly" is like, the best comment in this thread? :laugh:

Naw I'm totally with you on that one :laugh:

I'm English - but I am very rural. I have seen nachos - once I googled them, I knew what they were. They sit under heat lamps in the cinema looking greasy. Don't look like they have ever seen anything that grew other than the corn for the crisps-bit. Even a burger has some salad in it.

They're not doing it right over there.

Right.You can't go by the ones at the cinema.And there can be absolutly no healthy version of nachos if done correctly.

I love how this thread has moved onto nachos.

Nachos are the single greatest food on this entire planet. Nigh impossible to gro wrong with nachos,

I'm the one who wants to lose weight. My bf says he could lose 10lbs, but its not an issue for him. In my fridge I have pop (soda), in the cupboard I have chips.. I don't eat them, he does.. I am the one who cooks the meals in our home and I keep things healthy, but I dont deprive him from his real food.

I make changes to the meals.. I use brown rice pasta.. He doesnt care that it is gluten free and healthier.. (whole wheat pasta I think tastes gross, so if you are using that, then I'd complain too) but pasta from quinoa or brown rice tastes great! I buy extra lean ground beef. He wouldnt be able to tell when I cook it up and add the garlic he loves so much to it that it is extra lean. We have 1% milk in the fridge and we also have almond milk.. He can drink what he wants and I have what I want. When I cook or bake with it, I chose, and he has no clue..

I steam veggies or make a salad. He will chose to eat it, but I usually will eat more of it and less of the carb on my plate..

You dont have to force your spouse to be on a diet just because you are... Its unfortunate that he is being unsupportive, but I know my guy would freak out as well if I forced my meal planing on him.

Divorce is not an answer.. And I think its stupid for people to say you should leave him. Communication is the answer. He needs to be supportive of your commitment to lose weight and you cant deprive him of the foods he needs and loves.

Instead of buying that 4 liter of milk, buy a 1 liter of skim for you and a 1 liter of 2% for him.. He gets his, you get yours.. Have salt available for him to add to his food. Have pop (or soda if you are in the USA) available in your fridge.. Real coke, not diet coke.. Make sure to have frozen eggo's in the freezer or what ever it is that he is needing...

If you are the one cooking the meals you need to make sure you are creating well balanced meals. With veggies, grains, meats and dairy.. I highly doubt he is complaining about the light cheese or the 25% less sodium broth... He is complaining about the lack of hearty foods for him to feel full on.

You need to have the will power to not eat the foods that he wants/needs..

Was it right for him to throw out the healthy food? Nope! But dont deprive him of eating what he wants just because you cant..

^^^^ This is awesome!
So are nachos....but they're off the safe food list. Sadly

If it's anything like some men, the actual situation was she decided to make changes to her diet, so made small adjustments. He has been complaining about how she looks for a long time, but doesn't believe it's going to last more than a few days. he only really said things to bring her down a peg or two, anyhow.

She keeps it up for a whole week. Oh well, that won't last much longer. He eats junk when he's out.


He catches a glance at her as he comes in one evening. She's looking a bit slimmer. This might actually be something she is intending to keep up. That could be a problem. He prefers her at home doing his cooking and caring for the children. No other men there. He looks for something unhealthy in the cupboard. He knows she loves savoury snacks. But there's nothing there.

Never mind, once the salary goes in, she'll get the stuff she usually does. The novelty of dieting will wear off.

But she buys a couple of things in a smaller size instead of chips. She means to keep this going. He still eats crap whilst out at work, but he comes in and there's this woman looking good and happier on this food. She looks hot when she smiles. Hot enough for another man to take a fancy to her.


Couple more weeks go by and she still isn't eating the old stuff. She's talking about joining a gym, putting the kids into daycare so she can go and work out a couple of times a week. He'd stop her, but he isn't there all day. There are loads of men at gyms.


So he asks if she'd like something special. 'No thank you' she says. She's not falling for it. He decides he's just going to have to bring it into the house and wave it under her nose. He picks some foul snack food that looks as though it's the content of the Mexican takeaway's scraps bin (I'm English too, and even the 'good' version sounds vile). But she refuses.

She's going to keep this going. She's going to get slim and hot and realise he's not the only man in the world.



So he goes absolutely radio rental (sl. for mental) and, not only does he upset her, he takes away the food she has been eating in the hope that starvation and sadness will trigger her into bingeing on the utter crud that keeps her fat and dependent upon him.


Throughout this whole time, he has still been eating the same food out of the house, so he hasn't lost any weight, still has access to every bit of crap imaginable outside. He's just doing it to force her to go back to how things used to be where he was the slim one, she was the fat one indoors away from other men.

If it's anything like some men, the actual situation was she decided to make changes to her diet, so made small adjustments. He has been complaining about how she looks for a long time, but doesn't believe it's going to last more than a few days. he only really said things to bring her down a peg or two, anyhow.

She keeps it up for a whole week. Oh well, that won't last much longer. He eats junk when he's out.


He catches a glance at her as he comes in one evening. She's looking a bit slimmer. This might actually be something she is intending to keep up. That could be a problem. He prefers her at home doing his cooking and caring for the children. No other men there. He looks for something unhealthy in the cupboard. He knows she loves savoury snacks. But there's nothing there.

Never mind, once the salary goes in, she'll get the stuff she usually does. The novelty of dieting will wear off.

But she buys a couple of things in a smaller size instead of chips. She means to keep this going. He still eats crap whilst out at work, but he comes in and there's this woman looking good and happier on this food. She looks hot when she smiles. Hot enough for another man to take a fancy to her.


Couple more weeks go by and she still isn't eating the old stuff. She's talking about joining a gym, putting the kids into daycare so she can go and work out a couple of times a week. He'd stop her, but he isn't there all day. There are loads of men at gyms.


So he asks if she'd like something special. 'No thank you' she says. She's not falling for it. He decides he's just going to have to bring it into the house and wave it under her nose. He picks some foul snack food that looks as though it's the content of the Mexican takeaway's scraps bin (I'm English too, and even the 'good' version sounds vile). But she refuses.

She's going to keep this going. She's going to get slim and hot and realise he's not the only man in the world.



So he goes absolutely radio rental (sl. for mental) and, not only does he upset her, he takes away the food she has been eating in the hope that starvation and sadness will trigger her into bingeing on the utter crud that keeps her fat and dependent upon him.


Throughout this whole time, he has still been eating the same food out of the house, so he hasn't lost any weight, still has access to every bit of crap imaginable outside. He's just doing it to force her to go back to how things used to be where he was the slim one, she was the fat one indoors away from other men.

This is an incredible work of fiction. Nothing to do with this post, but incredible all the same.

This is an incredible work of fiction. Nothing to do with this post, but incredible all the same.

You've never walked into the kitchen to find your so called partner secretly stirring a pack of butter into a tin of beans. Or tipping the chopped chicken breast into a bowl of mayonnaise so you could pour it onto your plate whilst your back was turned, getting some lettuce out of the fridge. Or taking your money to buy some fresh salmon and salad, to come back with deep fried cod, a pound of fries and a tub of Ben & Jerry's instead. Or had them scream at you that you were only dieting to be able to go and pick up men. Solely based upon you not wanting a chocolate biscuit.