*sigh*Partner losing weight?They are planning to leave

One time I lost a half a pound and immediately had sex with everyone

People who lose weight while they're in an apparently steady relationship are secretly preparing to dump their other halves, says a new relationships study.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/science/science-news/8873954/Beware-If-you-partner-is-losing-weight-they-are-probably-planning-to-leave.html

My husband sent me this article link this morning, saying he hopes this isn't us.

I thought he knew better than that!

Discuss.

Funny, my wife and I are losing weight to look better for each other AND to ensure we stay together as long as possible.

I can only speak for myself. I have been with my boyfriend 3 years on the 17th. I have been losing this weight for the last year. I have NO plans of leaving, if anything I'm trying ti get him to join me.

please...so not true...there were problems prior to the partner losing weight...i have lost weight...getting compliments..but does my husband think I am going to leave him?..absolutely not!...

This is what my husband thinks

Keep in mind, this is a newspaper article, and not the complete research article. The author has probably just taken a few lines out of the context of the whole article. While yes, people put more effort into getting in shape when they want to attract a mate, there are other circumstances in which a person in a relationship might just want to lose weight because they've gained and don't feel as good about themselves.

I'm only going to say, bullsh!t. People are not stupid and we all know why this has gotten so much attention on this board, I shake my head at such a horrible thing.

I think that the worst thing you can do is simply let yourself go. We have this idea that once you "catch" a partner you're done, you can relax. That's really stupid. Do you have so little respect for yourself and your partner that you would intentionally allow yourself to become less attractive to them now that they're "stuck" with you? I take every opportunity to appreciate the work my partner does to maintain her health and fitness, and I'm doing my best to ensure I'm around a long time in order to appreciate it.

If I were going to leave my husband, I'd just leave him.

I'm losing weight because I want to lose weight and do more, preferably with him

If 'the majority' is losing weight to leave their partner, I'd say that this 'majority' has some insecurity issues that getting thin is not going to help in the slightest.

I just read this article, and even though I don't wholeheartedly disagree with its premise, it is written terribly, and doesn't really seem to be about what it purports to be about. The article's title would suggest it's about couples separating when one of the pair starts losing weight. But it gives nothing to back that up - instead it goes off on a tangent about how couples gain weight together when they get more comfortable with each other. What does the one have to do with the other? I totally agree, that it's often times the case that when people get into relationships they have a tendency to 'let themselves go', for lack of a better phrase. But how does that signal that if one starts to get into shape, it means they want to leave the other? Now, simply stating that people want to look as thin or as good as possible when looking for a new partner, while true in some instances, doesn't necessarily (or likely) refer to people in relationships as much as single people. My point with all this is that they really gave no proof to back up the actual point they were trying to make. There was a loose connection put forth at best, but even that is a stretch. That being said, I don't necessarily disagree with the idea that when one person loses weight in a relationship it can cause a problem, more specifically make the partner who is getting into shape more interested in other people (or the idea of being with someone else, or, more likely, the idea of not being with their partner anymore). I think the reasons for this are complex - much more complex then simply stating that if your partner starts losing weight it's to find someone else. Actually, I think it's more likely that people might start becoming more interested in others (or not being with their current partner) after they've begun getting into better shape, as opposed to starting to get into better shape to find someone else. My reasoning is this - if you, like the article points to, are in a moderately happy relationship where both couples have put on weight, if one starts focusing on their health, and it's something that becomes very important to them - and their partner doesn't share that, I think it could absolutely become an issue. Furthermore, a lot of things occur when people start getting healthier and in better shape. They may start receiving more attention from the opposite sex, which might be the most obvious thought, but I actually think there is a more powerful reason why one person getting in shape while the other isn't can be a relationship killer. Happiness. There's that old saying, misery loves company. So does fatness and unhealthiness. When you exercise, when you eat healthy, there is a large chance you might become and overall happier person. If you were in a relationship with someone, and were sort of at the same level of happiness, but then something changed, and you began to look at things differently, that could have a huge effect on your situation. Who wants to be with someone that's bringing them down? Especially when you are working hard to make yourself better - and your partner isn't. Of course, this wouldn't apply to couples where one partner is already in shape, and the other decides to join in on the fun, but those aren't the couples the article was referencing. All that said, there is nothing that applies to everyone, or even every couple, of course, but I don't think it's completely ridiculous to entertain the idea that people can grow apart, and one of the causes of that could be a lifestyle change.