Guys would you date someone with specail needs?

Yes, there is someone out there who will love and appreciate you for exactly who you are! My oldest brother is profoundly deaf and although we worried years ago that he may not find someone to love he is happily married to a wonderful woman and they have a beautiful baby... You are who you are supposed to be and somewhere there is a person who will love you for that.

Oh sweetie there is someone out there for everyone, that I believe.

There are men out there that date people with special needs as well as women who date men with special needs.

Just be yourself. You don't need to have a disclaimer of "Hey I'm special needs" and what not, at least not in the beginning stages of meeting someone, learning about them, and growing a bond. That first stage is hard for anyone...but once you get to a solid ground of trust with the right person, whatever special needs you have will not matter to them.

I'm going to be 100% honest here in the hopes that it somehow helps give you insight.

Physical disablities would give me pause... simply because i would be affraid that i couldn't enjoy all the things with my partner that i otherwise would. But if we connected in every other way, it really wouldn't stop me.

Mental disabilities it would depend greatly on the nature of the disability. If its some kind of major learning disability (and again, if i'm otherwise connecting with this person) i could get past that. If its something that creates a real gap in maturity, communication, or emotionally connecting then i'm not so sure i could fall in love with that person.

And then there's the 'what will everyone else think'. If it was a physical disability, i could happily tell everyone to fo F themselves, its none of thier buisness anyway. but when it came to a mental disability (and again it depends on the nature of the disability), if someone expressed disaproval of the relationship, it might cause me to second guess myself and wonder if it was in fact somehow inappropriate. maybe its terrible for me to say this but i think you just want truth

I just heard on the radio this morning the story of a lady with cerebral palsy who just got a baby with her long time boyfriend. Dont despair! Everything is possible!

I wonder why guys are not wanting to date someone with special needs are they scared that they scared something wrong will happen to the person they date?
Reason why im asking is because i am special needs and i have been single all my life .

I'd like to think that I would, I have aspergers myself, and do not have much luck at all in relationships, but I do not think its my aspergers that impacts the relationships...

Depends on the "special need." I can definitely love, care for, and be friends with someone with special needs.

Although honestly, some needs are a bit overwhelming for me. I haven't had a lot of experiences with many of them, so I'm at a loss for how to react sometimes.

I've been "trapped" in a conversation with a special needs person on a number of occasions that was, for me, really uncomfortable. It's depressing (her foot problems, her weight, her money concerns, her romantic issues, family abuse, etc). Sometimes it's just too much information for me. I care, but it burns me out. I'd have that same problem with someone who wasn't special needs who shared too much, but I think she lacks the mental filter to know when enough is enough. I try to be polite, but often times I'm looking for an out to get out of the conversation when my attempts to steer the conversation to something more neutral (like recent events, how nice her new outfit is, etc) fail. If she were a man and I were single, I would not be attracted to her because of these things, even though she is very sweet.

Likewise, if the special needs meant that the person didn't get an advanced education, I would have trouble being emotionally attracted to the person. I have the same issue when I talk to old friends from high school who never went to college. That sort of kindred experience and world view just isn't there with some of them. I remember one guy I occasionally went to the movies with in HS being disappointed in the army as an adult because it was "boring" and "not enough like Halo." :grumble: I catching up with them, but it feels like they got "stuck" and I "kept going." Often I feel like they are just as uncomfortable with it is as I am, so we're not as close as we were back in the day.

For me, personally, honestly, in a romantic sense, I could handle a physical special need (like wheel chair, epilepsy, blind, deaf, amputee, etc) a lot easier than a mental/emotional one.

I have family with mental/emotional special needs and I love them dearly as family. They aren't any less of a person for the need and they know it. But romantically, I really want someone who is a bit more similar to me in conversation and the like. (On that note, one family member with special needs does have a girlfriend and they are very happy together. I'm happy for them, too. Although we do worry about them from time to time because neither has a degree or a well paying job, and sometimes they don't handle strong emotions in a very healthy way. I'm not sure how well they'd be able to support and raise a kid without a lot of help--at least financially. I'm pretty sure they are *active* so we just play the "big brother/sister" roles and try to encourage life skills for them that help them be more independent... like passing a driving test to get a license and changing to a job with full time hours, etc.)

If my husband were psychically handicapped or mentally handicapped by an accident, I would still love him dearly and romantically. I think that would be easier because I could remember what it was like when I first fell in love with him. I would mourn for the loss of what used to be, but I think I'd be able to handle the new because I'd already had the good old days.

I have Charcot Marie Tooth , its a neurological disorder and am always the "best friend guy" , Its not just guys , women too are apprehensive about dating some one who's physically challenged , one must listen to the ,excuses when I ask some one out , i mean hardly any kind of creativity ....i have stopped ask out all those able bodied women .Now i am on a look out for a woman with special needs but i never come across one

Every woman has special needs

This is true

Definitely set your expectations realistically. Don't expect some very hot guy who is athletic and healthy to fall in love at first sight.

Wow. Anyway...

Sorry but life is not a romantic comedy.

I have 5 auto-immune diseases, one is now being compared to having the pain as a Stage 4 Cancer patient. I honestly think that a woman (or a man!) would have to be completely comfortable and happy with how their life is before getting into a relationship. Sometimes patients feel like they bring others down simply because they are sick or may have to do things in certain ways that takes a lot of patience for other people. I can definitely see why many people are often hesitant to get involved with a person who has disabilities like myself. They really have to educate themselves and know a lot about the diseases/illnesses so they can be aware of symptoms and complications that may occur. But having a special need shouldn't be considered as 'unattractive' to anyone!