Pregnancy weight gain.......some are gaining too much
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I love when men nag about **** that has nothing to do with them.
i agree,
Sorry he's concerned with the health and well-being of both mother and child. He works in the fitness industry, it's his job to care about the health of others.
It's nice he cares so much about the health and well being of women he's never even met, instead of focusing on his actual clients and posting information without preaching.
I don't think he was "preaching" at all. He just made an observation from a fitness standpoint. He's not claiming to be a doctor or health professional, so stop accusing him of doing so. I don't think he had any mean intentions when writing this post, so no one has a right to be mean to him.
Actually, just as you have the right to speak your mind and agree with him, we have the right to disagree and speak our minds. Unless you've been pregnant yourself, you wouldn't understand.
I completely agree with that. I just wish disagreeing didn't always have to come in the form of being mean and rude.
I wasn't being mean, I was expressing my opinion. I didn't say anything negative about the poster, I said he tone was preachy and he maybe doesn't have the credentials to be talking about this topic from an "expert" perspective. Period.0 -
Yep. And for some odd reason, I'm inundated in my inbox daily asking for FREE advice that's FREE on the internet. Why? Maybe because I've actually helped people here achieve some goals. But really that's not worth me opining about with other people who ask because I should just say, "Hey, it's free info on the internet, go find it".You mean FREE information anyone can search the internet and find on their own if the topic is of interest to them without the added benefit of you "opinions".
Totally!
Yep.
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Point is: Most people don't appreciate advise they didn't ask for. By all means, help they people you ask you -- but maybe consider that general posts in forums shouldn't be given in the same way, if you feel so compelled to help EVERYONE.0 -
So I was at Kaiser today for my DD's standard checkup at 8 years old. While I was waiting in the lobby (DW was in with DD and doctor), I saw several mothers with new babies who were very overweight. I'm not talking 40lbs, but in the realm of 80lbs and higher.
A lot of my clientele are females who are losing baby weight, but all of them are only trying to lose 25llbs-35lbs. This should be the normal amount a female should be gaining when pregnant.
To moms to be: you aren't eating for two. Your nutrition should be much better, but realistically, calories shouldn't really exceed more than 300-350 calories per day on average. It's not a free for all to eat everything. Trust that more you gain, the harder it will be to take off and if that weight doesn't come off, then chances are HIGH that you will end up that weight the majority of your life.
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True maybe if I hadn't gained all the weight I did (70lbs) when I was pregnant I maybe wouldn't have caught my husband emailing other women.....0 -
So I was at Kaiser today for my DD's standard checkup at 8 years old. While I was waiting in the lobby (DW was in with DD and doctor), I saw several mothers with new babies who were very overweight. I'm not talking 40lbs, but in the realm of 80lbs and higher.
A lot of my clientele are females who are losing baby weight, but all of them are only trying to lose 25llbs-35lbs. This should be the normal amount a female should be gaining when pregnant.
To moms to be: you aren't eating for two. Your nutrition should be much better, but realistically, calories shouldn't really exceed more than 300-350 calories per day on average. It's not a free for all to eat everything. Trust that more you gain, the harder it will be to take off and if that weight doesn't come off, then chances are HIGH that you will end up that weight the majority of your life.
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I gained 50
not proud of it. But after the weight fell off - by her first bday i lost all that I gained plus 10 more pounds. Have since gained back 25 though ( 0 -
i gained 80lbs with my first two pregnancies and that wasnt my fault...i had a medical condition that made me retain water like crazy! so given i agree with no gaining that much but at same time some ppl cant help it if they develop something they cant control.
There's a difference between gaining extra weight that is baby and fluids and piling on fat. I gained 50 lbs with my first but the day after she was born I was 20 lbs over my prepregnancy weight and 6 weeks in back to normal. I carried a large baby and a LOT of amniotic fluid. Now if 6 months after the baby is born you've still got the 50 lbs hanging around, that's just plain over eating.0 -
True maybe if I hadn't gained all the weight I did (70lbs) when I was pregnant I maybe wouldn't have caught my husband emailing other women.....
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What a dirtbag! Girl - i was HUGE -that's no excuse!0 -
I love when men nag about **** that has nothing to do with them.
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True maybe if I hadn't gained all the weight I did (70lbs) when I was pregnant I maybe wouldn't have caught my husband emailing other women.....
Or he may just be a d1ck. Sorry that happened, but your weight gain isn't any excuse for your husband to disrespect his marriage vows.0 -
So I was at Kaiser today for my DD's standard checkup at 8 years old. While I was waiting in the lobby (DW was in with DD and doctor), I saw several mothers with new babies who were very overweight. I'm not talking 40lbs, but in the realm of 80lbs and higher.
A lot of my clientele are females who are losing baby weight, but all of them are only trying to lose 25llbs-35lbs. This should be the normal amount a female should be gaining when pregnant.
To moms to be: you aren't eating for two. Your nutrition should be much better, but realistically, calories shouldn't really exceed more than 300-350 calories per day on average. It's not a free for all to eat everything. Trust that more you gain, the harder it will be to take off and if that weight doesn't come off, then chances are HIGH that you will end up that weight the majority of your life.
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True maybe if I hadn't gained all the weight I did (70lbs) when I was pregnant I maybe wouldn't have caught my husband emailing other women.....
MeStacey - What a dirtbag! Girl - i was HUGE -that's no excuse!0 -
So I was at Kaiser today for my DD's standard checkup at 8 years old. While I was waiting in the lobby (DW was in with DD and doctor), I saw several mothers with new babies who were very overweight. I'm not talking 40lbs, but in the realm of 80lbs and higher.
A lot of my clientele are females who are losing baby weight, but all of them are only trying to lose 25llbs-35lbs. This should be the normal amount a female should be gaining when pregnant.
To moms to be: you aren't eating for two. Your nutrition should be much better, but realistically, calories shouldn't really exceed more than 300-350 calories per day on average. It's not a free for all to eat everything. Trust that more you gain, the harder it will be to take off and if that weight doesn't come off, then chances are HIGH that you will end up that weight the majority of your life.
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True maybe if I hadn't gained all the weight I did (70lbs) when I was pregnant I maybe wouldn't have caught my husband emailing other women.....
Aww don't say that! That was HIS fault!0 -
How eager were you to come back to the board to tell us about those " several mothers with new babies who were very overweight. I'm not talking 40lbs, but in the realm of 80lbs and higher" under the guise of "giving advice" You know what? N'er mind. **Ignored**
*eyeroll*
I swear, ppl sometimes.0 -
I love when men nag about **** that has nothing to do with them.0
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I thought through my first pregnancy (at 17) that I could eat like I always did (typical teen) gained about 30 lbs, lost 20 of it and got pregnant again when my son was 2 months old, continued to eat the same, but gained 80lbs with the second! took me about 10 years to lose it all, then quit smoking and gained alot again... lol. Mom always said eventually my metabolism would not be so efficient!0
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With my first kid I gained like 60-80 pounds. The doctor said not to worry about it- you are eating for 2. Don't worry the weight will come off easily once the baby is here. I think he was trying to be supportive or something. With the next 3 kids whenever someone said you are eating for two, I would think yes, but one of them is less than a pound. Eating healthy is much more important. Wish I would have started earlier to get back to my pre baby weight.So I was at Kaiser today for my DD's standard checkup at 8 years old. While I was waiting in the lobby (DW was in with DD and doctor), I saw several mothers with new babies who were very overweight. I'm not talking 40lbs, but in the realm of 80lbs and higher.
A lot of my clientele are females who are losing baby weight, but all of them are only trying to lose 25llbs-35lbs. This should be the normal amount a female should be gaining when pregnant.
To moms to be: you aren't eating for two. Your nutrition should be much better, but realistically, calories shouldn't really exceed more than 300-350 calories per day on average. It's not a free for all to eat everything. Trust that more you gain, the harder it will be to take off and if that weight doesn't come off, then chances are HIGH that you will end up that weight the majority of your life.
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I agreee!! I actually just gave birth 1 month ago, I used this site my whole pregnancy and exercised my whole pregnancy. I still managed to put on 34lbs, but i know I did everything I was suppose to do. I still have 15lbs to lose, but its prooving to be difficult to lose. ugh0
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Here's why excessive weight gain in pregnancy is a valid concern for ALL.
Babies are growing too big and needing caesarians to be removed.
We could not have thrived as a species if this was normal.
I used to work in a big office. 6 women were pregnant, 5 had caesarians.
It is not the only reason caesarians are more common(pain killers are a big reason too), but it is one reason.
Really..... this is interesting, I was overweight before I got pregnant with my son(about 245), I gained 40 pounds over the course of the pregnancy and needed a caesarian, why.... not because I overfed my baby, but because my birthing canal was too narrow to push him out, your comment is just another assumption..... Also, I went 2 weeks overdue, and in those 2 weeks, my baby continued to grow in size and gain weight, not because I ate like a pig, but because he was overdue and continued to grow in size. Just because you pass your due date doesn’t mean they are going to just induce you when there is no activity going on down there, I had to wait 10 days to get induced....0 -
So I was at Kaiser today for my DD's standard checkup at 8 years old. While I was waiting in the lobby (DW was in with DD and doctor), I saw several mothers with new babies who were very overweight. I'm not talking 40lbs, but in the realm of 80lbs and higher.
A lot of my clientele are females who are losing baby weight, but all of them are only trying to lose 25llbs-35lbs. This should be the normal amount a female should be gaining when pregnant.
To moms to be: you aren't eating for two. Your nutrition should be much better, but realistically, calories shouldn't really exceed more than 300-350 calories per day on average. It's not a free for all to eat everything. Trust that more you gain, the harder it will be to take off and if that weight doesn't come off, then chances are HIGH that you will end up that weight the majority of your life.
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True maybe if I hadn't gained all the weight I did (70lbs) when I was pregnant I maybe wouldn't have caught my husband emailing other women.....
Aww don't say that! That was HIS fault!
it can be both ...0 -
So I was at Kaiser today for my DD's standard checkup at 8 years old. While I was waiting in the lobby (DW was in with DD and doctor), I saw several mothers with new babies who were very overweight. I'm not talking 40lbs, but in the realm of 80lbs and higher.
A lot of my clientele are females who are losing baby weight, but all of them are only trying to lose 25llbs-35lbs. This should be the normal amount a female should be gaining when pregnant.
To moms to be: you aren't eating for two. Your nutrition should be much better, but realistically, calories shouldn't really exceed more than 300-350 calories per day on average. It's not a free for all to eat everything. Trust that more you gain, the harder it will be to take off and if that weight doesn't come off, then chances are HIGH that you will end up that weight the majority of your life.
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While I agree with you, I also would suggest that you give these new moms a break. Pregnancy REALLY messes with our bodies, and then the hormones add to our emotional psyches. Being a guy, you will NEVER, EVER, understand the extreme changes that take place. And until you can push a cabbage patch doll out of your nostril, you might want to keep your thoughts and comments to yourself. Plenty of us who have been through pregnancy don't care to hear a MAN's opinion or judgmental comments. Even husbands need to know when to keep their mouths closed.
And of course, once those babies are BORN, and the majority of the care is left to the mom, the LAST thing mom cares about is her weight (unless she is very vain to begin with). Add sleep deprivation and we're basically hot messes until things settle down again.
It takes about 6 months before our heads are back on straight. So, again, while I think women shouldn't use pregnancy as a opportunity to eat whatever, whenever, and as much as possible, POST pregnancy women deserve a little more patience and understanding.0 -
I was 125 pounds when I became pregant. I lived with my in-laws who kept telling me EAT, EAT, EAT, we want a healthy grandbaby. ugh. I ate ate and ate and every single time I went to see my ob he told me I was gaining too much, too fast. I developed pre-eclampsia and had to have a c-section at 32 weeks. I had gained exactly 50 pounds on my 5'2 frame. My weight had never bounced around before I was pregnant and now it does. i work out and eat mostly healthy and lean portions. I wish I had listening to my doctor, not my mother-in-law:-(0
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What was your pregnancy like? Oh wait you're a bloke! Are you a midwife, doctor or gyno? No? Then why are you dictating what these women should do? You come across as judgemental because you can't relate to the situation and if you can't relate then keep your opinion of these women to yourself. They are carrying a life inside of them, is that not enough pressure for them? Not all women will be yummy mummys and they don't have to be.
Amen. I am currently 30 weeks pregnant, and I know that I have probably gained too much weight. You try being pregnant, and exhausted all the time but also starving. I lost 60+ pounds before I got pregnant, and while I haven't gained nearly that back, it has to be at least half. To go along with the exhaustion + constant hunger, there are enough other emotional stressors and issues that go along with being pregnant that I think sometimes weight gain is put on the back burner. I do not advocate eating for two, but stressing about your weight and how much you are gaining can be just as detrimental to the health of your unborn child.0 -
I gained nothing with my first pregnancy. The day i found out i was pregnant i weighed exactly the same the day i went into labor. I gained 8 lbs total with my 2nd pregnancy. I was also obese. Now that i'm nearing the "normal" weight category i'm curious to see what would happen if i decided to have another child. I agree, you are not eating for 2.0
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So I was at Kaiser today for my DD's standard checkup at 8 years old. While I was waiting in the lobby (DW was in with DD and doctor), I saw several mothers with new babies who were very overweight. I'm not talking 40lbs, but in the realm of 80lbs and higher.
A lot of my clientele are females who are losing baby weight, but all of them are only trying to lose 25llbs-35lbs. This should be the normal amount a female should be gaining when pregnant.
To moms to be: you aren't eating for two. Your nutrition should be much better, but realistically, calories shouldn't really exceed more than 300-350 calories per day on average. It's not a free for all to eat everything. Trust that more you gain, the harder it will be to take off and if that weight doesn't come off, then chances are HIGH that you will end up that weight the majority of your life.
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True maybe if I hadn't gained all the weight I did (70lbs) when I was pregnant I maybe wouldn't have caught my husband emailing other women.....
Aww don't say that! That was HIS fault!
it can be both ...
It can be, my husband is an athlete, and I am not, its not that fun to be with someone who is overweight.0 -
Just curious, he has his credentials in his signature. Has anyone ever bothered to confirm them?0
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And until you can push a cabbage patch doll out of your nostril, you might want to keep your thoughts and comments to yourself. Plenty of us who have been through pregnancy don't care to hear a MAN's opinion or judgmental comments.
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I've got a reliable source that says childbirth is a walk in the park compared to passing a kidney stone.0 -
I've seen documentaries where pregnant women/young girls are so terrified of gaining weight they start to bind their stomachs and use calorie deprivation as a way to keep from getting "so disgustingly fat". NOTE THE SARCASM HERE.
These women are putting their health and the health of their unborn child at GREAT risk. There are extremes to both sides -- knowing how to create a great balance can be a problem for women already worried about the weight gain.0 -
So I was at Kaiser today for my DD's standard checkup at 8 years old. While I was waiting in the lobby (DW was in with DD and doctor), I saw several mothers with new babies who were very overweight. I'm not talking 40lbs, but in the realm of 80lbs and higher.
A lot of my clientele are females who are losing baby weight, but all of them are only trying to lose 25llbs-35lbs. This should be the normal amount a female should be gaining when pregnant.
To moms to be: you aren't eating for two. Your nutrition should be much better, but realistically, calories shouldn't really exceed more than 300-350 calories per day on average. It's not a free for all to eat everything. Trust that more you gain, the harder it will be to take off and if that weight doesn't come off, then chances are HIGH that you will end up that weight the majority of your life.
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True maybe if I hadn't gained all the weight I did (70lbs) when I was pregnant I maybe wouldn't have caught my husband emailing other women.....
Aww don't say that! That was HIS fault!
it can be both ...
It can be, my husband is an athlete, and I am not, its not that fun to be with someone who is overweight.
I didnt mean it can be both peoples fault .. not directly anyway. What I meant was .. it's possible that the guy is a jerk AND started looking around due to the wife's weight gain.0 -
In a perfect world, maybe. When you have out of control hormones and morning sickness to the point of desperation, the voice of reason hardly stands a chance.
My body has been through a lot, gaining 50-60# with each pregnancy. I wouldn't worry so much about the pregnancy weight as I would about my everyday lifestyle.0 -
My OB would be all over this. I LOST weight the first half of my pregnancy. I did not have morning sickness, I did not have nausea, and, except for plain milk, I did not have food aversions. My body just refused to gain weight. I was told to eat whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted, and I did. I ate all the things. It wasn't until halfway through that I started gaining again, but I was still 10 pounds under where I started when I went into labor.
I understand you are trying to help, but the whole "one size fits all" stuff in the OP is not particularly helpful. It's too generalized and doesn't take into account individual circumstances. I would hate to see someone like me take that advice and have serious complications just because they were fearful of gaining too much weight.0 -
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And until you can push a cabbage patch doll out of your nostril, you might want to keep your thoughts and comments to yourself. Plenty of us who have been through pregnancy don't care to hear a MAN's opinion or judgmental comments.
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I've got a reliable source that says childbirth is a walk in the park compared to passing a kidney stone.
I have had a kidney stone. And yes, I'd go through natural labor with a local anesthetic before I EVER go through another kidney stone. The pain was beyond unbearable.0 -
Wait a minute - it's challenging to lose weight?! Shut the front door. I'll keep that in mind if I ever become pregnant and am tempted to eat double and triple what I normally do.0
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