(To the ladies) Is it really for us? C'mon man........

i like for him to think i look good in stuff, but i dress up for me

Being a stay-at-home-mom I do try to dress for my husband every now and then. I don't like feeling and/or looking frumpy and I'm sure he doesn't find frumpy sexy either. That said, I don't get my nails done or my hair colored etc. and there is NO WAY IN HELL I'd let it strain our finances and/or relationship. I want my hubby to remember why he chose to marry me (yes, yes there are many reasons but attraction is what starts it) and not someone else less frumpy.

lol!!! when I dress up it's for a reason! lol!!! I wear capris (not even fancy ones... they cost me at most $8.00 as Ross' and I have a uniform for school that's optional, but it's my daily wear unless it's dirty.) at work.

I have 1 little black dress. everything else in my closet are pants/capris/some jeans and shirts/blouses.

I am not a clothes horse nor am I a fashionista. I've never even been to TJMax. lol!!!!


I dress for comfort. for me.

"My husband always says that the way a woman looks reflects on her man, who he is, and how he treats her (I know he has very weird opinions, but oh well, my bed is already made…)"

He's not weird. He's old fashioned. (though to be honest, it isn't his place to tell a woman how to look, it's his job to choose a woman who shares that notion)

I am VERY old fashioned and I follow this line of thinking as well. The woman on a man's arm IS a representation of him, whether she means to be, wants to be, or aims to be, she is. This means that if a guy goes out with a girl who is going to end up on the People of Walmart website, that reflects on his own character. He chose that woman. That woman chose him.

I never leave the house with my honey unless I'm in a dress, makeup done, hair as I wish it to be. I want to look like a woman who has her **** together, a woman who cares about her appearance, her worth, herself, and shows it. And on the flip side, if I look good, he can wear carharts and come straight from work and still gain the respect of others when they see the woman on his arm, because a good woman, a woman who cares for herself and respects herself reflects highly on the man she chooses as hers.

My grandmother never left the house without lipstick on and once told me, "You don't take the time becuase you're trying to impress someone, you take the time because you want them to know that not only do you respect yourself, but you respected THEM enough to want to look your best when you encountered them. That goes for your mate as much as the bus driver in Somerville. Show up with respect for others and for yourself, and show in the way you present yourself. Period."

This is why I cringe when I see girls in jammy pants in public. It's an old fashioned way of being, I know, but it's how I am... Grammy would be proud.

I like to look nice but when I really doll up it's for my man, he feels proud to be out with me when I'm looking super cute! Heels and manicures are 100% for him, I keep my nails a lot longer than I did before we were together because he likes my hands to look sexy, and I wear heels out with him so he gets a good show walking behind me :blushing:

I wear a lot of stuff that he likes because it makes him happy, like yoga pants with leg warmers 90% of the time at home ❤ Not even speculation on my part, it's all input from him.

I dress up for me, but I do put a lot more effort in what im wearing and makeup and hair when I am going to go out or I am going to see my boyfriend.

Come on...YOU be honest, would you really want your gf or wife wearing jeans and t-shirts or sweatshirts all the time?

This!

I have never said that, its always for me.
My husband hates some of the things I do, but its not for him its for me.

I dress for me. Heels, skirts, pretty tops, jewelry, scarves.....all for me. With that said, no man works for me to be able to afford to do so. Even more than my clothes, I appreciate my independence. And as another note, nobody would ever mistake my work clothes for going out attire. What is with the sheer amount of inappropriate clothing that people wear in a professional setting?!? Leggings are not pants, shirts with cutouts are not for work, and cleavage and fishnets are not for the office....it's not a tough concept.

If women put a lot of effort and money into their appearance, they're high maintenance. If they don't, then they've let themselves go.

I wish I had money for regular manicures and pedicures, and a good wardrobe. I do what I can to make me feel better and more confident. This definitely projects to my mood, productivity and general well being. My husband and kids benefit from me feeling like a woman, not just a mom all the time. Happy wife, happy life.

I find that makeup, manicures, eyebrow waxes and purchasing clothes are for me. But I think that we both are better off if I take care of myself because it makes me more confident. When I'm more confident I get out there and do more, accomplish things I probably wouldn't of attempted otherwise, and these things lead to more opportunities. Employers will want me more if I look good, am confident, and well-rounded.

I also eat well, take care of myself health wise, and am happier because I like how I look and have fun maintaining myself. My husband finds this important too but does it in different ways.... mainly through nicer shirts, good cologne, and keeping himself groomed.

Personality plays a huge part in this as well of course. As long as you aren't hurting anyone or obsessive compulsive to an extreme I see nothing wrong with it.

It is expensive, takes more time, and maybe more work then needed but the pay off is huge.