Why do men sabotage wife or girlfriends weight loss?

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  • surromom2010
    surromom2010 Posts: 457 Member
    Him enjoying his junk food is not sabotage. You're on a diet, not him.

    However, if he is waving food in your face knowing you dont' want it and making you uncomfortable, make it very clear that is unacceptable. That's just rude.

    I agree with this, Offering something to someone is one thing, shoving it in their face after they say no thanks is a di** move.

    It's also extremely rude to spend a ton of money making a dinner that is extremely unhealthy when you know your SO is dieting, and then complaining when they make something else. It's fine that they make it, I'm happy to cook something different, but I shouldn't catch an attitude for not eating something you KNEW I wasn't going to want before you made it
  • ladymiseryali
    ladymiseryali Posts: 2,555 Member
    Take the chocolate bar he is "waving in front of your face" and stick it up his nose!

    Ouch......but then he will always smell chocolate...
  • AngryDiet
    AngryDiet Posts: 1,349 Member
    Perhaps he's a closet chubby chaser.
  • Ibarra951
    Ibarra951 Posts: 19 Member
    Being responsible for my own life is hard...

    Well said. I don't think it's men sabotaging wives, or vice versa. This is purely a case by case basis. Address the issue directly with your partner, and if he/she doesn't want to compromise, your going to have to make a change somewhere. Whether it be partners, or diet. It's your life, take the helm.
  • doubleduofa
    doubleduofa Posts: 284 Member
    Your boyfriend sounds unsupportive and immature. I lived with a man like this and it was terrible. He was manipulative and eventually many "behaviors" like this turned into flat out emotional abuse. I'm kind of surprised many people think this is ok behavior. I would never flaunt food in someone's face, whether they were dieting or not. Yes, I'd offer to be nice, but to guilt someone because they said no? Ridiculous. Not funny.

    You have to take responsibility for yourself now. Tell him no and walk away. If he gets mad, oh well. Yes, this is difficult when you've been conditioned to feel bad for everything. Sometimes, you need someone else to say, "yes, I agree, that's messed up behavior," because you don't trust yourself anymore. So yes, it's messed up. Now it's your turn to determine why you are putting up with it.
  • DeeVanderbles
    DeeVanderbles Posts: 589 Member
    I really think guys can't win. If he didn't offer to share he'd be selfish and uncaring about your needs. Just cause your on a diet doesn't mean he is. Have self-control, say no thanks and move on with your day.

    I love your tattoo!!


    OP - that's when you break out your own snack of something deliciously healthy and shove it in his face. :wink: like some celery or air popped popcorn.
  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
    Threads like this make me happy I married the woman I did...

    Thread like this make me happy I don't have a girlfriend.
  • fatemaali4
    fatemaali4 Posts: 3
    He's probably just happy with the way you look already and doesnt feel the need to push you to lose weight :)
  • ravenstar25
    ravenstar25 Posts: 126 Member
    I'm sorry, I disagree with all the people who say it isn't sabotage. It really is. It doesn't mean you can't resist it, but if you know someone is watching their weight and are constantly pushing fattening food in their face after they ask you repeatedly to stop, they are trying to sabotage you. I'm dealing with it at home and I have to be polite because we've been married 9 years and I don't want to fight about it but it's very frustrating.
  • hannyz08
    hannyz08 Posts: 31
    Well my boyfriend is 6'4, 180 pounds, and in pretty good shape, and can eat whatever he wants. Sometimes when I m around him I feel tempted to eat junk food, because he usually is, but I have that problem when Im around everyone. He does help though sometimes, he knows Im dieting and will ask, "are you sure you want to eat that? are you actually hungry, or are you bored? I mean I dont care if you eat it or not, Im just sayin" and then I go dammit you are right.
  • RhonndaJ
    RhonndaJ Posts: 1,615 Member
    You are not being sabotaged, you are being whiny because life isn't exactly the way you want it to be so you won't ever face challenges.

    Frankly, if you have a problem ignoring your guy's teasing, I suspect you're going to have a wealth of problems when life hits you with other big challenges.
  • heyjay31
    heyjay31 Posts: 79 Member
    Is it sabotage when my 10 year old was licking his cream filled donut in front of me going, "but mom it is soooo good"?! Little crap head, I should teach him better manners!!:happy:



    In all honesty I went on this journey; not my kids nor my husband. I make them all their favorite junk and have my snacks to the side. Hopefully, I can inspire them to eat more healthy but until then they are having fun teasing me. It's all about will power. Like many have said, think of your food as nothing but fuel for your body.
  • crystalvicariedmonds
    crystalvicariedmonds Posts: 7
    I hate when I say hey m on a diet i don't want fast food or any junk but what happens I get the food brought for me. I'm hello trying to lose weight here.

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