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    Selfish-ness

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    • Posts: 8,646 Member
      If by selfish you mean that I feel I deserve the big O every time, yes I am selfish.
    • Posts: 1,580 Member
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      I want to get married... But the US has a thing against 2 chicks doing all that heathonism.

      I also want to have kids, but they cost money and I want to do fun stuff. Like vegas.

      And christians, well I grew up one and still am one, but they don't like the gay much either.

      We marry your kind up here in Iowa. you just come on up here, pretty lady.
    • Posts: 5,044 Member
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      No prob... Are you sure that's within your calorie goal, dawg?

      Always room for a beer...thanks
    • Posts: 110
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      Hi newb, get me a beer.

      Oh, Burn...........
    • Posts: 8,399 Member
      People who don't want to get married.
      People who don't want to have kids.
      People who don't want to beleive Christianity.

      Stuff like that.

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    • Posts: 3,677 Member
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      What if someone doesn't want a child because perhaps they know the child will not have a nice upbringing. What if the mom has some genetic disease and knows her child will get it and the mom doesn't want the child to suffer from it, how is that selfish?

      What if the country is war torn and the mother knows the child will likely experience trauma from the war or perhaps even die or get injured.

      1/10.

      Hypotheticals just aren't enough here.
    • Posts: 1,056 Member
      People who don't want to get married.
      People who don't want to have kids.
      People who don't want to beleive Christianity.

      Stuff like that.

      You.... That response... Interesting perspective.

      I'm not sure how not having kids is selfish. I'm not sure how having kids is selfish.

      BUT if I had to choose one action as being selfish I am gonna go with having kids, seeing as there are plenty for you to adopt.

      You want to spread your own genes? HOW SELFISH!!!
    • Posts: 5,030 Member
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      We marry your kind up here in Iowa. you just come on up here, pretty lady.

      Thanks for the invite, but I've already chosen Canada. I'll get better health care.
    • Posts: 8,646 Member
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      Thanks for the invite, but I've already chosen Canada. I'll get better health care.

      Annnnnnd, we lose another one to Canada! :grumble:
    • Posts: 94
      People who don't want to get married.
      People who don't want to have kids.
      People who don't want to beleive Christianity.

      Stuff like that.

      wow, I must be incredibly selfish. Let me go call the various charities and single mom best friend that I regularly give money to and tell them I have to stop (sorry if you don't have any groceries to feed your kids) and have a baby (that I don't have time for or want at the moment) and join a religion that is basically a fairy tale so that I won't be a selfish person. I'm wasting time typing, I gotta hurry and stop those donations!!
    • Posts: 2,186 Member
      Thanks for the invite, but I've already chosen Canada. I'll get better health care.

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    • Posts: 2,170 Member
      What do you consider selfish behavior? How do you differentiate between selfishness vs. narcissist? Conceited vs confident.?

      I ask because I know of someone who is all the above, in my eyes. This person is an important person in my life but only seems to care about herself. The type that only reaches out to friends/family when something is needed. There's no initiation on her part to just say hi and see how others are doing; only responds when the other party reaches out to them first.

      Your problems are nothing compared to hers. Put yourself in her shoes and see what she has to do (single mother). It's been like this for many years and it gets to a point where it's exhausting. I finally said "I am going to evict the people that live rent free in my mind and my life" and focus on myself. Am I being selfish?

      Just a point to ponder and get your feedback.
      Why do you need feedback? I find it odd to need feedback on what you are, since you know yourself better than anyone. Just wondering.

      In any case since you asked, no you are not being selfish, you are being sensible. It is sensible to take negativity out of your life, you said it yourself she is exhausting, why would you keep a person as a friend in your life (why would anybody?) that needs constant reassurance, and care? Especially when you admit yourself it isn't a mutual respect, it's just her needing constantly, and you feeding into her "woe is me" attitude.
    • Posts: 3,614 Member
      People who don't want to get married.
      People who don't want to have kids.
      People who don't want to beleive Christianity.

      Stuff like that.

      Married people are the most selfish people I know. Along with people that reproduce. They're always clogging up my very sacred facebook page with photos of their silly naked babies and wedding rings. News flash folks . . . nobody gives a sh@t.

      I'm not touching Christianity with a ten foot pole.
    • Posts: 104
      “I do my thing and you do yours. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, and you are not in this world to live up to mine. You are you and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, then it is beautiful. If not, it can't be helped.”

      - Gestalt prayer
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      Married people are the most selfish people I know. Along with people that reproduce. They're always clogging up my very sacred facebook page with photos of their silly naked babies and wedding rings. News flash folks . . . nobody gives a sh@t.

      I'm not touching Christianity with a ten foot pole.

      Ugh, silly naked babies. Who can stand those.
    • Posts: 2,685 Member
      People who don't want to get married.
      People who don't want to have kids.
      People who don't want to beleive Christianity.

      Stuff like that.

      ??? SO priests and nuns are selfish people?
    • Posts: 630 Member
      OP, I say you need to take care of you and the people you love. If there is time, energy and desire leftover, taking care of people you don't love and people who don't take care of you is optional, not required.
    • Posts: 3,614 Member
      “I do my thing and you do yours. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, and you are not in this world to live up to mine. You are you and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, then it is beautiful. If not, it can't be helped.”

      - Gestalt prayer

      This worries me.

      It sounds like a VERY lazy and complacent attitude.

      Like a big log floating down stream . . .
    • Posts: 2,720 Member
      I'm somewhat a cynic-therefore a minimalist. So not wanting kids, to get married (I'm actually open to it with the right woman), or attaching all sorts of unwanted baggage (such as organized religion) into my life works for me.
    • Posts: 1,078 Member
      If by selfish you mean that I feel I deserve the big O every time, yes I am selfish.
      Doesn't every woman deserve that?


      EVERYONE IS SELFISH. My life is about me. Your life is about you. Mother Theresa's life was about her. Doing things for others, even if they are "selfless" is a choice that YOU make. You make choices based on the desire to 'be happy' or 'be less unhappy'. In the end. So big Os all around I say....Big Os all around!!!:drinker: :drinker: :drinker:
    • Posts: 4,810 Member
      The type that only reaches out to friends/family when something is needed. -- Selfish

      There's no initiation on her part to just say hi and see how others are doing; only responds when the other party reaches out to them first. -- Not selfish

      Your problems are nothing compared to hers. Put yourself in her shoes and see what she has to do (single mother). --Irritating as hell. BUT I have noticed that empathizing can be a slippery slope leading to one upping. They start out with "Oh, I understand because I deal with XYZ" and then it spirals into why their situation is worse, better, whatever, more than yours.

      Am I being selfish? -- It depends. If it's truly a one sided friendship and you're expending all the effort, then stop and if the relationship fizzles then it wasn't a good one. If she feels you pulling away and steps up or it turns out it wasn't quite as one sided as it felt, then maybe it is worth saving.
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      I'm not on his side but that is pretty obviously not what he meant

      Well, not so obviously... clearly. :P
    • Posts: 4,810 Member
      If by selfish you mean that I feel I deserve the big O every time, yes I am selfish.

      And THIS!!
    • Posts: 3,677 Member
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      This worries me.

      It sounds like a VERY lazy and complacent attitude.

      Like a big log floating down stream . . .

      Like a log. Perfect description, as it sounds very similar to not giving a *kitten*.
    • Posts: 3,306 Member
      I hate bein out of the loop...somebody fill me in on my feed.
    • Posts: 2,545 Member
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      I'm not touching Christianity with a ten foot pole.

      wise decision, my child.

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    • Posts: 323 Member
      People who don't want to get married.
      People who don't want to have kids.
      People who don't want to beleive Christianity.

      Stuff like that.

      I don't want kids because I think I would be a horrible mother. So what does that make me?
    • Posts: 2,827 Member
      http://youtu.be/1srvTTI1Wy8

      Listen!
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