ladies, a personal question. laides only.

I have good days and bad days when it comes to my sex drive. It takes work for me, because I have depression, two small children, and no one that lives close by to watch the kids for a while so I can get a break from them. I have always had a libido on the lower end of things, especially when my weight was higher.

But my opinion is that you are having more issues than just your sex drive. I am never repulsed by my husband's touch, even when I'm dead tired...one thing that stood out to me in your last post is "he's thinking about the chick in the DVD." Right there, I can tell you that he's not, because she's not the one having sex with him, YOU are. If he's telling you that you are beautiful, believe him. He means it. And don't argue with him about it, say thank you. Because if you continually tell him he's wrong, eventually you might change his mind.

ETA: I mean this in the kindest, gentlest way possible, OP. Not trying to be mean, just stating my opinion. Best of luck.

Actually at my heaviest weight I was the most confident sexually.

Last year I joined MFP and quickly lost about 20 pounds and found my libido!! Now
I am starting all over again since I just had a baby. Yes the libido increase led to a baby .

I think it is as our bodies change we grow more confidence .. thus changing everything up!!

OKay so here is the thing. Usually your libido should increase with exersice. If its decreasing you could be looking at a lot of other factors affecting your everyday life.
Your sex drive should be improving... First, endurance exercise your stamina. Second, you can become more flexible through aerobic and gymnastic exercise. Third, exercise of any type can prevent you from cramping up during orgasm. Finally, exercise causes the release of endorphins into the limbic and prefrontal areas of the brain. The increased level of endorphins may also influence the buildup of hormones that power your libido. Endorphins also reduce stress, which is a major sex drive inhibitor.
Exercise provides a psychological boost, as well. Regular exercise leads to a higher self-esteem. As you become more fit, you feel more confident and enjoy sex more. exercising also puts you more in touch with your physical body and enables you to feel more sexual, as opposed to the sense of detachment you have if you are ashamed of your body.
But what you have to realize is what you eat can also affect your libido, or sex drive. Whats the use of all this exersice to feel better and healthier is your not feeding your body the proper fuel and nutrients. Foods that boost or improve your sex drive are things like: Avocado, almonds, strawberries, basil, Dark chocalate, Asparagus, bananas, citrus fruits, arugula, HOney, figs. and even seafoods. Try incorporating some of these things do your daily diet, and im sure youll see your sex drive increase as well as making your skin and body feel delicious :P
I study food science and nutrition at school, so i defenatley know my stuff haha. IF you have any questions im here to answer.
ALSO: NOTE: Anxiety and stress and lead to decreased libido and sex drive. This is due to your happy endorphins shutting down because stress is all you can focus and thing about, this is why breathing exersises and yoga is very reccomended when trying to lose weight or exersicing intensely.