Older guys...

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  • sunsnstatheart
    sunsnstatheart Posts: 2,544 Member
    It's fine. Go for it.
  • stevewynjones
    stevewynjones Posts: 1,052 Member
    I know 2 guys (40 ) who have partners that are much, much younger than them...

    I don't get it...
  • Tw1zzler
    Tw1zzler Posts: 583
    I would think she is going to love what 48 years of experience and learning will bring. :smokin:

    this...

    If you connect you connect, age doesn't matter too much.
  • BeachGingerOnTheRocks
    BeachGingerOnTheRocks Posts: 3,927 Member
    Don't care about age, but when/if the fling/relationship goes south, he's in HR, so his job is secure.

    Your job, on the other hand.......is it worth the possible risk?
  • Punkedpoetess
    Punkedpoetess Posts: 633 Member
    Yeah, the work thing is the bigger deal imo.

    ^^^ This. Age is not a big deal.
  • SerenaFisher
    SerenaFisher Posts: 2,170 Member
    Age is a factor if you want to have kids. Because the age difference may mean he doesn't want kids or perhaps may die at a somewhat young age.

    My fiances father was 15 years older than his mother. They had a good life, he also left his son fatherless at age 13 when he died in his late fifties... even if he lived into his sixties he wouldn't have known his granddaughter who was just born this year... Just saying..
  • acm2789
    acm2789 Posts: 29 Member
    I like older guys, they seem to have their stuff together and they usually want the same things as I do!!

    Yup this is why Im attracted to older guys more often....but then I seem to choose the guys who have too much going on and/or past the point of wanting anything too serious. Or maybe it's me and thats just what they tell me haha

    But yeah I agree with everyone saying it's not about the number its about maturity level
  • Jenrosa28
    Jenrosa28 Posts: 732 Member
    I concur!!
  • mhiggi02
    mhiggi02 Posts: 5,988 Member
    Age is a factor if you want to have kids. Because the age difference may mean he doesn't want kids or perhaps may die at a somewhat young age.

    My fiances father was 15 years older than his mother. They had a good life, he also left his son fatherless at age 13 when he died in his late fifties... even if he lived into his sixties he wouldn't have known his granddaughter who was just born this year... Just saying..

    I agree. If kids aren't in the cards it's really no big deal in an of itself. Find someone who treats you right - don't be concerned with what others think.
  • parys1
    parys1 Posts: 2,072 Member
    Don't care about age, but when/if the fling/relationship goes south, he's in HR, so his job is secure.

    Your job, on the other hand.......is it worth the possible risk?

    Yes. That would be the concern. It's more than potential awkwardness. If you didn't work together, I'd say go for it and don't look back.
  • CaliforniaSweetheart
    CaliforniaSweetheart Posts: 989
    I'm not overly picky about age. I find that I mix best with men older than me or the same age. I have also dated slightly younger men. I would worry about the job issue in your situation. Good luck!
  • Cait_Sidhe
    Cait_Sidhe Posts: 3,150 Member
    I was done after the first sentence. The age thing is completely immaterial. The work thing is what you really, really need to think about.
    Yeah, that. I didn't even read the full paragraph. Age is no matter. But how important is your job to you?
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
    I've always dated older guys :) It's all about the maturity level.

    And my older husband has always been 12.
  • faceoff4
    faceoff4 Posts: 1,599 Member
    Age ain't nothing but a number!! :)

    Completely agree...age is all in the heart and mind and only a number on paper...so I say to for it!
  • crawford4398
    crawford4398 Posts: 441 Member
    It Always an older man for me !!!!
    I wouldn`t have it any other way.
  • DaBigChief
    DaBigChief Posts: 146
    A 28 yo will love what a 40 something guy has to offer. He's got experience ????
  • lbmore33
    lbmore33 Posts: 1,013 Member
    that I still have it...................:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • redraidergirl2009
    redraidergirl2009 Posts: 2,560 Member
    I think young girls dating old guys is nasty, same thing if it's the opposite.
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,190 Member
    Age is immaterial unless the tounger person is underage.

    As others have said, I'd think harder about the work thing.
  • sunman00
    sunman00 Posts: 872 Member
    I'm an older guy, been there, seen it done it etc.,

    the age thing is no problem whatsoever, attraction is attraction

    BUT, like others have said, the work issue; he's in HR & presumably senior in the company, that could become an issue when & if things break up, would be an issue even if you were the same age
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  • MeeshyBW
    MeeshyBW Posts: 382 Member
    Age makes no difference

    ^^^^^ THIS!

    Personally I ADORE older guys but for me I would probably not go over 25 years older than me just for the sake of social acceptance.
  • ApexLeader
    ApexLeader Posts: 580 Member
    I wonder how many guys your age would be into a 40+ woman? There is a HUGE double standard on this one and its really ridiculous. any 40+ guy who's into dating 20 somethings is usually A. a sugar daddy who only sees her as an easy lay/arm candy/pice of meat, or B. a loser who can't impress women his own age.

    Also, remember when you are HIS age he will be a senior citizen. May seem sexy now..but it's not so cool when you're middle aged and he's ready for a nursing home.

    i wouldn't be into most 40+ women because most 40+ women are unattractive to me. a lot of younger women think 40+ year old men are attractive, so it isn't a double standard.
  • MeeshyBW
    MeeshyBW Posts: 382 Member
    The trouble with older women is they often come with a lot of baggage.

    Guys want a woman who makes them feel good, young, like a stud. Typically women into their 40's have been married, divorced, had kids, can be jaded, lack energy etc. Guys want to feel they are the provider and it is sometimes very difficult to do that when the woman is 40 and established.

    I am not talking about ALL women over 40 before you all jump on me!!!
  • susheetush
    susheetush Posts: 621 Member
    The trouble with older women is they often come with a lot of baggage.

    Guys want a woman who makes them feel good, young, like a stud. Typically women into their 40's have been married, divorced, had kids, can be jaded, lack energy etc. Guys want to feel they are the provider and it is sometimes very difficult to do that when the woman is 40 and established.

    I am not talking about ALL women over 40 before you all jump on me!!!

    I don't know about that. I get hit on by men of all ages including many who are 20 years younger than me, and most find it attractive that I'm experienced, fit, financially secure, sophisticated and make him feel like a stud despite being emotionally stable and very independent. So I think it depends on the woman (and the man who wants her) personally.
  • MeeshyBW
    MeeshyBW Posts: 382 Member
    The trouble with older women is they often come with a lot of baggage.

    Guys want a woman who makes them feel good, young, like a stud. Typically women into their 40's have been married, divorced, had kids, can be jaded, lack energy etc. Guys want to feel they are the provider and it is sometimes very difficult to do that when the woman is 40 and established.

    I am not talking about ALL women over 40 before you all jump on me!!!


    I don't know about that. I get hit on by men of all ages including many who are 20 years younger than me, and most find it attractive that I'm experienced, fit, financially secure, sophisticated and make him feel like a stud despite being emotionally stable and very independent. So I think it depends on the woman (and the man who wants her) personally.

    I think we are both on the other side of the fence! I have dated lots of older men and you have dated young guys. You are right, it is different for different people. :)
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  • susheetush
    susheetush Posts: 621 Member
    Make no mistake. Most young hot 20 somethings do NOT find 40+ men "attractive" physically. Most of them like his "secureity" aka $$$$. Don't get it twisted. If Mick Jaggar drove cab he'd be lucky if Roseanne Barr looked at him twice. Also, I am 42, and get hit on by 20 something men frequently. I am not into men young enough to be my offspring however. Why? Because I think it's wrong to mess with someone from the dating pool your child (or someone young enough to be your child), is in.

    Lol I wish I'd said that. I have a rule: my eldest child's age + 7 years, so 30 is a minimum for me too. My boyfriend is 42 and after dating mostly younger men, it's a nice change to be with someone whose maturity (and immaturity!) matches mine.
  • DrLewall
    DrLewall Posts: 1
    This thread has been quite entertaining to read. Thanks! :bigsmile:
  • susheetush
    susheetush Posts: 621 Member
    This thread has been quite entertaining to read. Thanks! :bigsmile:

    I'm here all week. Try the veal. :)

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