Could I wear this dress to a friend's wedding?

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  • I_am_Kara
    I_am_Kara Posts: 2,593 Member
    Love the dress, but as many said IDk if white is right...at my wedding i wouldn't have cared but A LOT of brides do.

    Also does it come in another color? Looking at the gold details as well as ur hair color and complexion...was thinking it would look lovely in a pale sage green :smile:
  • rockangel8907
    rockangel8907 Posts: 429 Member
    The reason I was considering this dress is because if you look at the close up it really looks much more GOLD than ivory to me. Before all the feedback I saw it as a gold dress with a little ivory.

    And I could get if for half it's price in my size - a rare chance. It does not come in any other colors.

    I don't know what bride is wearing. Our friend is the groom. But I know she is a nice girl and not the bridezilla type.

    I also have a black cocktail dress. That is also inappropriate for a wedding. When it comes down to it there is way more than one arbitrary restriction.

    It doesn't really matter if she's not the bridezilla type, it's very possible she won't care, but her mom or grandmother might. Everyone has given you feedback that it looks very bridal and you'd be ignoring a well-known ettiquette rule just because you want to buy a pretty dress on sale. I'd be upset if someone wore white to my wedding, not because I'm worried about the attention being on me, but because it would seem like that person was purposely trying to cause a stir. The fact that you're a friend of the groom makes it seem worse.
    This, the fact that you are friends with the groom makes it worse, like you are trying to make a statement, very 'Rachel showing up at Ross's wedding causing him to say the wrong name' it screams "I love him, I should be the bride"
  • Bronx_Montgomery
    Bronx_Montgomery Posts: 2,284 Member
    I am a dude and I know the answer to this. You should never wear white or ivory to a wedding unless you are the damn bride. Simple.

    Tell us the truth...you don't like the bride and you were once in love with the groom and this is your way of getting back at them...right?
  • deksgrl
    deksgrl Posts: 7,237 Member
    Interesting how the OP has never come back to the thread.
  • VpinkLotus
    VpinkLotus Posts: 849 Member
    I am a dude and I know the answer to this. You should never wear white or ivory to a wedding unless you are the damn bride. Simple.

    Ha! :laugh: This.
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    NO. Well not if you care about what other people think.
    Looks too bridal. That would really not make a bride happy.
  • NYCNika
    NYCNika Posts: 611 Member
    All right people, I did not buy it. :(

    The search continues. To complicate things I need 2 dresses -- as one is an evening wedding at a wedding hall, and the other one is an afternoon wedding at a country club and that calls for 2 different outfits.

    This one would have been fine for the afternoon one (if it was not sold out):

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    I could wear that one for an evening on the town or even a fancy brunch anytime.

    Still can't find good candidates for an evening wedding. Those are tough.

    Next thing I'll be told by well meaning people here is that if the bride's family is Jewish and religious I should not show leg or go strapless. There is a limit on how accommodating I can be!
  • trb85
    trb85 Posts: 81 Member
    Next thing I'll be told by well meaning people here is that if the bride's family is Jewish and religious I should not show leg or go strapless. There is a limit on how accommodating I can be!

    Oh, please. Cry more about how we called you out on your faux pax.

    Anyway ....

    This dress is perfectly acceptable for a non-formal/black tie wedding.

    For that evening wedding, if you'd like to rent a nice gown, RentTheRunway.com has some really beautiful dresses starting at like $40ish (though most are in the $150 range). If you don't foresee needing a formal gown in the future, perhaps this could be an option for you. They're all designer labels, and they even have some fantastic jewelery on there to rent as well.

    Good luck!
  • NYCNika
    NYCNika Posts: 611 Member
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    Love this one. But not only is is $300 just to rent, but I don't think I have the hight to pull that off. :(
  • hearthemelody
    hearthemelody Posts: 1,025 Member
    Check out Ross or Nordstrom Rack. They often have steals!
  • deksgrl
    deksgrl Posts: 7,237 Member
    http://www.sears.com/ever-pretty-ever-pretty-elegant-ladies-single-shoulder/p-000000000000000190820000000000000HE09107P?selectedFilters=Style|Gowns^Length|Long&prdNo=23

    http://www.sears.com/ever-pretty-ever-pretty-classic-ruffle-plunge-v/p-000000000000000190820000000000000HE09545P?selectedFilters=Style|Gowns^Length|Long&prdNo=46&blockNo=46&blockType=G46

    http://www.sears.com/ever-pretty-spaghetti-straps-reds-chiffon-floral-printed/p-000000000000000190820000000000000HE09755P?selectedFilters=Style|Gowns^Length|Long&prdNo=44&blockNo=44&blockType=G44

    Just a few, and really great prices.
  • NYCNika
    NYCNika Posts: 611 Member
    http://www.sears.com/ever-pretty-ever-pretty-elegant-ladies-single-shoulder/p-000000000000000190820000000000000HE09107P?selectedFilters=Style|Gowns^Length|Long&prdNo=23

    http://www.sears.com/ever-pretty-ever-pretty-classic-ruffle-plunge-v/p-000000000000000190820000000000000HE09545P?selectedFilters=Style|Gowns^Length|Long&prdNo=46&blockNo=46&blockType=G46

    http://www.sears.com/ever-pretty-spaghetti-straps-reds-chiffon-floral-printed/p-000000000000000190820000000000000HE09755P?selectedFilters=Style|Gowns^Length|Long&prdNo=44&blockNo=44&blockType=G44

    Just a few, and really great prices.

    Did not like any of them at all.

    I just bought the above orange and lilac lace dress for $270 at one place that still had it. At least that is an every day dress I can use for going out on the town or for brunch in the summer. With fancy earrings and shoes is OK for an afternoon wedding if I don't find anything better.
  • tryclyn
    tryclyn Posts: 2,414 Member
    Op - Are you able to pull off a Retro kinda dress?

    http://www.unique-vintage.com/flapper-fringe-flapper-dresses-c-31_721.html
    http://www.pinupgirlclothing.com/midlendres.html?dress_type=193
  • firstsip
    firstsip Posts: 8,399 Member

    Next thing I'll be told by well meaning people here is that if the bride's family is Jewish and religious I should not show leg or go strapless. There is a limit on how accommodating I can be!

    Lol. Please.
  • deksgrl
    deksgrl Posts: 7,237 Member
    Op - Are you able to pull off a Retro kinda dress?

    http://www.unique-vintage.com/flapper-fringe-flapper-dresses-c-31_721.html
    http://www.pinupgirlclothing.com/midlendres.html?dress_type=193

    Love the flapper dresses! I wouldn't wear to a wedding though, a little too showy.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member

    Next thing I'll be told by well meaning people here is that if the bride's family is Jewish and religious I should not show leg or go strapless. There is a limit on how accommodating I can be!

    Lol. Please.

    I know right? Drama queen. The red dress with the pretty layer over top is really beautiful and would work for both weddings. I still don't see why this is such a big deal. Just go to the mall and buy a dress. Why does it need to be so "perfect". I guess I'm just not as into fashion.
  • trb85
    trb85 Posts: 81 Member
    Also, you can check out bridesmaid dresses from some place like David's Bridal or Alfedo Angelo. Just don't pick a dress that matches the wedding colors (if you know) or the bridesmaids dresses (if you know). There are some styles on their websites that don't automatically scream "bridesmaid" dress, and those sites aren't too expensive.

    For example:

    This dress is quite lovely to wear to a black tie wedding, as long as you're not going with the cream/beige/blush option.

    http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Strapless-Crinkle-Chiffon-Dress-with-Mikado-Sash-VW360102

    This one is also pretty, and you could lighten it up with light accessories instead of black like the model is wearing.

    http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Long-V-Neck-Halter-Gown-with-Matte-Crepe-Bodice-VW360092

    This one is super cute and classy without being floor length.

    http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Short-Soft-Strapless-Draped-Dress-with-Belt-VW360103

    I love this one, especially in black.

    http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Short-Charmeuse-Dress-with-Flutter-Sleeves-85130
  • Iknewyouweretrouble
    Iknewyouweretrouble Posts: 561 Member
    Nope
  • I_am_Kara
    I_am_Kara Posts: 2,593 Member
    All right people, I did not buy it. :(

    The search continues. To complicate things I need 2 dresses -- as one is an evening wedding at a wedding hall, and the other one is an afternoon wedding at a country club and that calls for 2 different outfits.

    This one would have been fine for the afternoon one (if it was not sold out):

    _6986095.jpg

    _6986093.jpg



    _6986094.jpg

    I could wear that one for an evening on the town or even a fancy brunch anytime.

    Still can't find good candidates for an evening wedding. Those are tough.

    Next thing I'll be told by well meaning people here is that if the bride's family is Jewish and religious I should not show leg or go strapless. There is a limit on how accommodating I can be!

    this one is very pretty...did u say u got it?
  • Sam3622
    Sam3622 Posts: 172 Member
    Omg i LOVE that dress! Wow its gorgeous - wear whatever makes you feel good :) i might ask the bride though, see what she thinks - if shes not bothered with the colour then go for it!
  • LinaBo
    LinaBo Posts: 342 Member
    Rule of thumb: if you have to ask (especially a message board), then the answer is NO!

    You are to look presentable and nice at a wedding, dressing appropriately for the setting/climate/level of formality... but it is never a day to wear a statement dress, unless you are the bride.
  • SueGeer
    SueGeer Posts: 1,169 Member
    It's a beautiful dress, but unfortunately that colour is not suitable for a wedding. :flowerforyou:
  • ChristineS_51
    ChristineS_51 Posts: 872 Member
    Hi
    I haven't read all the replies, but I do agree - too close to looking bridal - but WHAT A GORGEOUS dress! Buy it just because you love it, somewhere someday you will find somewhere to wear it!!

    The one you chose was gorgeous too, very different, lovely detail on both of them. :smile:

    My daughter got her bridesmaid dresses at Etsy - http://au.etsy.com/
  • nz_deevaa
    nz_deevaa Posts: 12,209 Member
    I just bought the above orange and lilac lace dress for $270 at one place that still had it. At least that is an every day dress I can use for going out on the town or for brunch in the summer. With fancy earrings and shoes is OK for an afternoon wedding if I don't find anything better.

    With a belt similar to the one on the yellow/beige dress, and great shoes/accessories ... That dress would be suitable for the evening. With more subtle accessories it can be fine for both weddings.
  • mylee69
    mylee69 Posts: 15
    jen jen house on line ships all over and can custom make to your measurements, my daughters bridesmaid dresses are $160 each custom made. they also do mother of the bride etc and shoes too.
  • NYCNika
    NYCNika Posts: 611 Member
    I received the lace dress I ordered:

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    It is hard to capture the color at that lighting angle (where the mirror is), so here are some close ups of the dress:

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    That is the color it actually is.

    I guess this will have to do for the daytime wedding. I just need some killer shoes and accessories.
  • leahartmann
    leahartmann Posts: 415
    I received the lace dress I ordered:

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    4500a850-d724-4fef-95a0-d4b0b00fff80.jpg?t=1363628910

    It is hard to capture the color at that lighting angle (where the mirror is), so here are some close ups of the dress:

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    photo5.jpg

    That is the color it actually is.

    I guess this will have to do for the daytime wedding. I just need some killer shoes and accessories.
    It looks better on you then the model!
  • Ramberta
    Ramberta Posts: 1,312 Member
    Funnily enough, when I was deliberating on what to wear to my friend's wedding coming up in April, I thought of this thread. I have a black and white patterned (almost paisley) short cocktail-style dress, and I texted the bride to be asking if she would be bothered by someone else having white on their dress, and if so I would happily choose another.

    She responded, "Haha, do you really think I'd be that kind of girl? As long as it's not a big poofy wedding dress it should be fine" :laugh:
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    Funnily enough, when I was deliberating on what to wear to my friend's wedding coming up in April, I thought of this thread. I have a black and white patterned (almost paisley) short cocktail-style dress, and I texted the bride to be asking if she would be bothered by someone else having white on their dress, and if so I would happily choose another.

    She responded, "Haha, do you really think I'd be that kind of girl? As long as it's not a big poofy wedding dress it should be fine" :laugh:

    The dress I wore to my sister-in-laws wedding was also black and white patterned like that. My brother-in-law has a wedding coming up and I imagine I may get a white dress that has flowers on it. Of course, it's fine to wear a dress with white in it (no one is that crazy). Just not cool to wear a wedding dress that is white and elegant with gold trimming (which is in style now for wedding dresses. I don't think people generally wear poofy ones these days). But, honestly what dress I wear to a wedding is at the absolute bottom of my priorities and worries right now.

    That's a beautiful choice, OP (the one you ordered with the orange/red and the light pink over top).
  • jenns1964
    jenns1964 Posts: 384 Member
    It is beautiful, but a little to bridal.

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