Share the REAL reasons why you're fat (or too thin)

Thyroid mostly.

Well for me I think it was being raised in the South. You know if it's not creamed, fried or dripping with butter, it's not good food. LOL And I love to cook and eat. So now I'm cooking healthier stuff and still loving eating and by the way I love the South!

I was sexually abused by my mother's boyfriend from the ages of 7-11. When I was 9, I got my period early, and gained about 50 pounds in a year (obviously something was hormonally whacked, but my family just said "wow, you're so fat!" and put me on every diet known, including sending me to Weight Watcher's camp when I was 13, and shaming me for every bite I put into my mouth). When I was 11, my mother's boyfriend told me I was so fat he didn't even want to touch me anymore. That's when the abuse stopped, but my mind has been so warped that I thought his abuse was love, and that me being fat and him stopping meant he no longer loved me, and that I was not worthy of love. But at the same time, I knew what he did was wrong, so I figured if my weight stopped him, it might stop other people from treating me badly, too. Cue years of eating myself into an emotional coma, trying to become invisible, and being treated like crap by everyone around me, because that's all I knew, and that's what I thought I deserved. I still struggle with all of this on a daily basis and don't know if I will ever feel worthy of love, even from myself, and it doesn't seem to get any easier, but I'm still here, so that's all I have.

I probably eat because of emotions sometimes, or just boredom. But then there are times if I'm upset I can't eat anything. I do exercise, which I enjoy. I used to have very high metabolism and could eat everything in sight. At about 18 that stopped, and I started gaining weight. Ever since I've been learning how to eat healthy. I am on birth control, which does have a side effect of weight gain. All the hard work I do seems to just maintain my weight, not lose any. I think will power is an issue also. If I'm physically or even mentally drained, I'll just grab the first thing I see and eat it, instead of preparing my healthy food that I buy.

I would say for me, it’s making food that tastes so good I can’t stop. I’m aware of fat content and make every effort to slim down the fat consumption by making the food from scratch. The lack of discipline is a my form of laziness in holding to this system of tracking consumption. I keep saying to my wife, if you track what goes in, you may not be as willing (or at least, severely cut back) to open that bag of chips, eat those nuts, have that extra helping. Does this make sense to you?

2 kids-stopped working to go back to school- mirena- shacked up with a hot mexican that cooks all of my dream food....for 5 years

I love this. These are so awesome to read. I'm not alone!

My reason is similar to a lot of the people on here... I was lazy, started eating, didn't care for a while, and then realized!

I hated the unwanted attention I got when I was young. I was the girl in a C cup at 11 and they just kept growing! All curves. All the boys were grabby and even old guys hit on me. I hated it! So I gained weight and kept it on for over 20 years, I have been pretty invisible as a fat chick. Of course now as I near 49 I would kill to have that body again!

I grew up poor, mum refused to buy us any expensive food or any food that we liked and she didn't.

She would never buy us any junk food or takeaways nor give us breakfast at home or lunch for school.

We were hungry a lot of the time - and we 3 kids and mum were always skinny. We ate only simple foods in small quantities and many meals were skipped.

So I grew up thinking that money was much more important than food - and actually food was not really a factor in my life at all - I never really thought about it.

I was angry with my mother for a long time as an adult, because in my high school years I was teased about being 'anorexic' which I have never been but yes, that hurt. I didn't want to be different from everyone else.

Now I'm actually grateful, I've gained weight because my lifestyle changed when I married an overweight man, but I've never been overweight myself and I am thinner than 90% of women my age so at the end of the day I'm lucky.

Genetics were my first problem. Then never ate perfectly, and only rarely tried to. Became very depressed. Got on anti-depressant, gain weight from the med and became even more depressed.

When anger, stress, or hurt I'd eat and still do sometimes now (two days ago), but I really want to stop. It hurts feeling like I can't control food I put into my mouth. Got on new anti-depressant that doesn't have side effect of weight gain, tomorrow I see my primary care doc. Hopefully get on diet plan (she is big on helping with weight loss), I'm going to the gym tomorrow (not maybe. I WILL go). First time in forever.

IT'S ALOT OF THINGS GROWING UP YOU ATE WHAT WAS PUT IN FRONT OF YOU AND YOU ATE IT ALL BCUZ THERE WAS NOTHING ELSE...A TYPICAL DINNER WAS LIKE A WHOLE PIZZA PER PERSON FROM ALDI'S PLUS A $1 WORTH OF SNACKS OR 2 FRIED PORKSTEAKS AND A $1 WORTH OF SNACKS AND AS AN ADULT I KEPT EATING EXACTLY WHAT I DID AS A KID THE ONLY DIFFERENCE WAS I WAS OUT OF SCHOOL SO THERE WAS NO GYM!! WE LIVED IN REALLY BAD AREAS SO IT WASN'T SAFE TO BE OUTSIDE AND I GOT USED TO STAYIN INDOORS IN FRONT OF THE TV OR WITH MY NOSE IN A BOOK...NOW AS AN ADULT I DON'T LIKE TO GO ANYWHERE BY MYSELF AT ALL:( BUT I'MTRYIN' TO BREAK THAT HABIT BUT IT'S REALLY HARD I GET PHYSICALLY SICK AT THE THOUGHT OF GOIN' OUT BY MYSELF!! RIGHT NOW I'M CHANGING HOW MUCH I EAT HOPEFULLY SOON I CAN START WALKIN' BY MYSELF AND GET IN SOME EXERCISE ESPECIALLY SINCE I HAVE NO EQUIPMENT IN MY HOUSE LOL

I got fat because I got lazy after I got married to fat a lazy man.

I stayed fat because of my misguided belief that my mental illness and my pcos was limiting me.

I got healthy because I wanted to change and I'm staying healthy because I have a reason and a future.

I was raised eating whatever and however much. My mom didn't/doesn't like to cook, so a lot of things were/are boxed and prepacked foods. So I've been over weight since I can remember.

In my early teens my mom decided that "we" needed to work on "our" weight. My brother and I were home schooled. We were yelled at daily about how big we were and how we needed to do something about it. Thats when my body image issues started.

I'm single and live alone now, almost 30yrs old. My mother still shames me about my weight and size, she sometimes comments about how I won't find a bf until I lose weight, which is why my self esteem is almost non existent. I'm working on my weight for ME and not anyone else right now.

I'm a stress eater, so that really doesn't help things. I have BDD tendencies. Sometimes I consider trying anorexia but I remind myself it's not healthy. I've also thought about liposuction and surgeries to make me look better (even get encouragement from my mom for it) But I can't afford it and I want the satisfaction of doing it myself.

Well, I think thats it. I've been working on this stuff for the past year, but it is so hard, especially when I'm alone.

When I was young weight was NEVER an issue for me or anyone in my family. My parents were divorced when I was 10 and ever since then with the exception of 2-3 yrs I have been overweight. I truly think I used food then (and still do today) as a comfort type of thing because I missed my mom and now I am trying to change this terrible habit before my 2yr old son picks up my terrible habits too.

i have been thru alot, i had a liver transplant, and it took me a year to learn to walk again ,i had a stroke,i still am not too active , i have bad balance,i lost 90 lbs when i was so sick,i looked so good, but my appitite returned,and i am a nervous eater, i am a very addictive person, which means i become addicted to things easily and that includes food, but for me it is sugar and chocolate, please give me support and some good sweet snack tip, i woulds appreciate all help, good luck to all, we can do it LISA