Share the REAL reasons why you're fat (or too thin)

Was really active before I got married. College, worked two jobs, always busy. Marriage put on some weight, just chilling with the hub, eating whatever. Had baby #1 almost 5 yrs ago, put on pounds. Lost some but not all. Baby #2 came in Sept, lost my gall bladder in the process (gall stone). I've had to change my eating habits because of it, which has been wonderful. And now I refuse to be like most Mom's out there and let myself go. BOOM!

Depo is evil....

Agreed!

Reasons (chronological order):

1. Not great nutrition education growing up...always a little chunky
2. Starved myself in high school
3. DEPO SHOT...gained 50 lbs in less than a year
4. Abusive relationship
5. Drinking way too much for years...and eating fast food
6. Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (I suspect triggered by Depo)
7. Extreme depression
8.Married a guy who has the appetite of a horse and always eating fast food, habits rubbed off on me
9. All or nothing mentality...if I screwed up one meal, screw it all!


This past year my doctor referred me to an excellent program that includes a dietician and psychologist. I learned some amazing ways to change my thought process and I am actually losing weight now.

I was sure I couldn't do things, so I never tried.

PORTION CONTROL! If i don't watch it I could easily mow through an entire bag of crisps, or three bowls of pasta--I have a big appetite, and come from a food centered family. Dinner was always family time, food brings all my extended family to one place. But we never ate junk food. My Mum cooked every night for us four kids and my dad. I also have Multiple Sclerosis which inhibits my activity a lot. But I try to be as active as possible. Now, its really all about swapping out all that pasta (albeit, home made) for veg.

P.S I am a bit of a wino too..haha I'll watch my portions, but I'll be damned if I stop taking pleasure in a perfect glass of red.

I have always struggled with my weight. I am a stress eater. I used to be a smoker and I used that to diet/suppress my appetite and would smoke when I felt like eating. Two years ago I quit smoking and since then have gained 50 lbs. I even thought about taking up smoking again so that I would be able to lose weight. I am finally getting control of my eating but it is still a struggle for me. When I am stressed I want to eat and so I am trying to replace that with healthy ways to de-stress.

Put on weight gaining meds after baby. free from meds now and exercise and eat healthy more than before. everything happens for a reason.

I was an athlete for the longest time played any sport going from rugby to hockey to baseball to basketball and more than I got cut from a soccer time and I became upset about this and I slowely turned away from sports and instead turned to staying home and laziness took over me; over the yearts I dealt with many problems and became an emotional eater no I trying to get back to to my athlete body!!

I was raised primarily by my grandfather (who is addicted to sweets lol). We never had meal time or actual meals. It was pretty much eat what you want whenever you feel like it (which I thought was great when I was a teenager). But I was always very active, out all the time with friends just doing whatever. Then I got pregnant (and gained weight) and moved away from home (and gained more weight). Got depressed/lonely from not having any friends and not knowing the area and where to go to get out of the house (and gained more weight). Although now I do cook meals (at least dinner) I like my southern style food (buttery and fried). I also continued to eat like a teenager Now I'm learning how to still eat the foods I like, but in moderation. My grandfather lives with us now, like I said he's addicted to sweets. Just recently he sent me to the store for 15 boxes of Little Debbies. Luckily I really only like the Nutter Butter bars, so I just didn't buy any of those to reduce my temptation! My husband also loves sweets, every week I have to buy a pie for him and my paw paw (Thank God I don't like pie)! We also enjoy going out to eat a lot. Like so many others, we had to cut back drastically a few years ago on going out to eat and things like that. Now we are financially stable, and doing well, so we do go out at least once a week. I used to love it, before I was trying to loose weight, but now if I know where we're going I spend a lot of time figuring out what I'm going to eat and how much exercise I need to do to compensate for that meal. I also work a desk job, which is new to me. I had always worked at gas stations where you're on your feet, constantly doing something. Right now I weigh almost 20 lbs more than I did at 9 months pregnant, so that's a total of almost 60 lbs I've gained. And I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism after I had my son. I didn't know that much about it didn't stay on medication consistently.

All in all, I only have myself to blame for getting into the mess I'm in. I could have said no to the bad choices in food, and extra helpings, and desserts. And I could have done something to get my lazy butt off the couch while I was a stay at home mom. And that's what I'm hoping to do. Get myself in shape, and loose weight. For myself, my son, and my husband (who by the way, still weighs the same as he did when we first started dating almost 8 years ago, which pisses me off sometimes lol!)

Upset? I'd eat.
Happy? I'd eat.
Bored? I'd eat.
Repeat cycle until weight became a big problem.

So, this site is pretty anonymous as in like most people you'll never meet, so it's a safe place to share things. So I think it's something everyone needs to do at some point or another, so if you've already shared with someone else or just yourself, share it again to empower yourself. If you haven't opened up yet, then do it.
What are the REAL reasons why you are fat, or too thin, or out of shape, or whatever? What happened? (breakup, loss, plain laziness etc. etc.)

Chocolate. Milk. Cheese. Sour Cream...
That's seriously it.

& If lasagna was made? I could eat a pan in four days by myself.. a BIG pan.

I am at the beginning one of many beginnings.But there has to be a time when it clicks for you.SO this is going to be it. I have gained so much just because of low selfesteen . Being bored and lazy. This is got to stop not going to be easy but life is not easy..Small steps and I am going to get there. I have to I want to be strong for me and my family. But mostly for ME, MYSELF AND I...s

I LOVE TO EAT! eat when stressed, bored and snack often.. those probably got me there too lol

:flowerforyou: Well, I love food I'm not heavy on junk foods but I love to eat and prior to losing 25lbs I wouldn't exercise. I would work, take care of my family, do school work until the wee hours of the morning and start all over again.

This year I made the promise to myself that while my family is very important to me so is ME!! I'm doing weight loss not for my husband, children or anyone else but ME and I've noticed with this thinking I've lost weight, my studying is getting better (9mths left btw lol) and I sleep better. Using MFP has helped so much and knowing that they're people out there in cyberworld that are going through the same things as helped tremendously.

Thank you my cyber friends for motivating,pushing and encouraging me through this process. :blushing:

After highschool, parents got divorced, I started college (freshmen 15), boyfriend (now hubby) and I always went out to eat and I had no self control and I quite smoking. So as you can tell I was up against it all, also I am an emotional eater. A month before I got married I looked in the mirror at 180 something and swore I would not be the bride that got married and gained weight I would be the HOT WIFE, that was six years ago and have been trying ever since.

cheeseburgers .....