Is it wrong for me to go out with someone younger?

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  • bbbgamer
    bbbgamer Posts: 582 Member
    of course not! my women dont make it to my age so I do it all the time...
  • Sorashi
    Sorashi Posts: 41
    It depends on the person. I wouldn't date a 40ish who is into totally different things than me and looked like my grandad. But last year I had a professor who was 45 and I was like "holy crapppp whatttt" when I knew his age. He was so hot I wouldn't have tell he was older than 32 and of course I would have dated him.
    So answering more precisely to your question, looking like that I wouldn't worry.
  • heatherloveslifting
    heatherloveslifting Posts: 1,428 Member
    Your assumption is invalid- and there are so many absolutely incredible women here to prove it (several on my friends list alone!)

    But of course it's not wrong!

    Oh ETA some of the women I dance with are about 60 and nonstop and smoking hot! It's unbelievable.:heart:
  • meredith1123
    meredith1123 Posts: 843 Member
    I'm in a relationship, so this is kind of off topic, but....I just creeped your profile and the pictures of you.....you're 48? GOOD GOD DAMN MAN WHAT IS YOUR SECRET?

    You will have NO problem attracting a woman. Meow. (I am 32. I do not think that 30 is unreasonable.)

    ^ THIS! haha... i agree.
    I'm 38, my boyfriend of six years is 29. Really no big deal.
  • 1ConcreteGirl
    1ConcreteGirl Posts: 3,677 Member
    First, it's kind of absurd that you think a woman your age cannot be your physical equal.

    Second, I'm 26 and I wouldn't rule out dating someone your age, and I don't care whether someone thinks it's wrong.
  • AncientLullaby_
    AncientLullaby_ Posts: 119
    ouch its kinda wrong for you to generalize all 48 years old women not to have the energy, athleticism &&be in shape like you.... pretty sure there are women who are way in better shape than you :tongue:

    BUT... no there is nothing wrong with that .... as long as your personalities match I guess thats all that matters
  • galenofedgewood
    galenofedgewood Posts: 146 Member
    Honestly, I don't think it's wrong.

    My wife is 8 years younger than myself and we work together quite well.
  • bbbgamer
    bbbgamer Posts: 582 Member
    It's wrong for you to assume a 48 year old woman can't have energy, athleticism and be in shape like you.

    ^^^^ this would be more like what I would be looking for.....
  • theCarlton
    theCarlton Posts: 1,344 Member
    I think it's ok to date whichever consenting adult you choose. My friend has an 18 year gap between him and his girlfriend. The problem there is that he has children in college. She is 4 years older than his son. And she wants children and to get married. In the past, he never wanted anymore kids and definitely didn't want to get married. He's since adjusted himself to accommodate this for her, which I think will later on be an issue for him. But I could be wrong.

    So I bring that up to say that you should think about what women in these age groups want in relationships. Be honest if you don't want children. It's a deal-breaker for a lot of people, and childless women in their 30s who still want to have children don't want to spend years in a relationship that won't end up with that. Just something to consider.
  • k8eekins
    k8eekins Posts: 2,264 Member
    I'm 48, in very good shape and I find it hard to go out with women my own age. I want to be with someone who is like me, they need to have energy, athletic and in shape. I know this sounds bad, but I keep on dropping the age limit to find someone compatible, I've dropped it down to 30 now (that is as low as I will go). So, should I feel bad about this?

    Please do not be so apologetic that you're considering the young 30s, beginning at age 30 and for the sake of the better situated and mature 20s - I ask that you allow them a wee portal. You might be surprised.

    I must say that I am surprised it's that difficult for you to find physically compatible women around your age around Montana. Good to know it's just as challenging around there, as it stands for parts of the world where either both or one of the 2 are encountering problems with incompatibility.

    Agree with the majority who'd replied in favour of your decision. It's about you, what you need and what'll best fit how you are.
  • burning2much
    burning2much Posts: 4,846 Member
    It's not that I wouldn't go out with someone my age, where I live it's just hard to find. When I lived in Calif. it was no problem, it's just so limited here. So, don't go making assumptions that I wouldn't date my own age.
  • cbkb1234
    cbkb1234 Posts: 94 Member
    I'm not sure if your question is 100% valid, I mean it's fine if that's what your attracted to and if they like you (younger women) I like both older and younger men so I'm not judging , but if it's about the energy and fitness like you say just go to your gym and find someone I know millions, trillions of women in their 40's who have "energy" I mean… your in your 40's and I'm guessing you have a lot of energy?
  • susheetush
    susheetush Posts: 621 Member
    ouch its kinda wrong for you to generalize all 48 years old women not to have the energy, athleticism &&be in shape like you.... pretty sure there are women who are way in better shape than you :tongue:

    BUT... no there is nothing wrong with that .... as long as your personalities match I guess thats all that matters

    But if that's his perception, then it's his reality. I hope he doesn't rule out women his age based on that perception, or yes, he may miss out on someone incredible, but being 43 myself, if a guy decided I wasn't active and energetic enough for him based entirely on my age, then why would I bother with someone that shallow anyway? (not saying that that's what the OP was saying btw)
  • Capt_Apollo
    Capt_Apollo Posts: 9,026 Member
    half your age plus seven. so 31.
  • Jacquiesteer
    Jacquiesteer Posts: 20
    I'm 35 and been in a relationship with a 48yr old man for over 5 years - I think it's perfect because he's young at heart and I'm old and wise (even though it should be the other way around!) :wink:
  • Nyksta
    Nyksta Posts: 241 Member
    There's 18 years between myself and my husband, we've been together for 12 years and married almost 9... like with all things, age does make a difference, but when you love someone you find way for it to work...
  • geekyjock76
    geekyjock76 Posts: 2,720 Member
    Compatibility is the most important thing I look for in a relationship, not age.
  • NavyKnightAh13
    NavyKnightAh13 Posts: 1,394 Member
    honestly I have dated someone younger then me (way too much immaturity) and am now happily married to my husband who is two years older then me. If you are happy with someone younger, then that is your "cup of tea".
  • SWilkins75
    SWilkins75 Posts: 277 Member
    No its not wrong unless she is under 18.. I say go with what suits your heart. Older ladies tend too be more mature tho, I find that I like guys that are 5-7 years younger than me.
    I agree with the 18 and up thing. I love younger guys myself. My husband is 11 years younger than I. I am 38 but if my husband and I split, I wouldn't have a problem dating a 21 yr old. That's if I wasn't looking for anything really serious. My rule is 21+ or not younger than my children. I have a 1 and 3 yr old so it's all good. lol
  • susheetush
    susheetush Posts: 621 Member
    Compatibility is the most important thing I look for in a relationship, not age.

    I just creeped your profile and honestly, you look like you're 20! You have the babiest face!
  • Louisianababy93
    Louisianababy93 Posts: 1,709 Member
    I promise the younger person doesn't care! [personal experience, talking.lol]
    Especially if your pleasing to the eye! Kidding! ..maybe.lol

    As long as y'all are compatible, age doesn't matter!
  • acpgranberg
    acpgranberg Posts: 137 Member
    I have a gorgeous single friend who is 47. She's on both a dragon boat team and a mountain bike team. Don't count those women out just yet. They are out there rocking it!
  • andreagreen1974
    andreagreen1974 Posts: 64 Member
    Who's to say what is right and wrong for you? Only you can say that.
  • riley76051
    riley76051 Posts: 27
    Is it wrong for two consensual adults to be in a relationship? Haha not at all! You have nothing to worry about. If that's your taste, then that's your taste. Plenty of women will enjoy being with a man older than they are. And, let's be realistic, you're more likely to find someone in better shape if they're on the younger side. Compatibility matters, not age.
  • burning2much
    burning2much Posts: 4,846 Member
    I'm getting the feeling I'm making a lot of enemies here, I didn't mean to offend anyone. I think there is a miscommunication. Please read my previous responses. Not knocking women my age, just hard to find single ones that I'm attracted to. There are plenty that are married, but that's not for me. Finding a single one is hard...So don't hate me for wanting to find someone who I would feel compatible with. Be it 30 to 55, it's not the age, just whats available.
  • sPaRkLiNgLYFE
    sPaRkLiNgLYFE Posts: 609
    i don't understand the dilemma, you're an adult, if you meet another adult that you connect with, date her, why do you need the consent of people that don't even know you?
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    If you're two consenting adults, go for it. It is everyone else's responsibility to mind their own business.
  • KariRoseDoll
    KariRoseDoll Posts: 47 Member
    My fiance is nine years older than I am, and it really is never an issue with us. We're both active and we enjoy the same things. We just click together, and we often forget that we aren't the same age. The only time when it shows is like when another poster before mentioned pop culture.
  • XXXMinnieXXX
    XXXMinnieXXX Posts: 3,459 Member
    Darn it! Im.27 lol.
  • pudadough
    pudadough Posts: 1,271 Member
    Is it wrong? Not necessarily. But I wouldn't date someone your age. Be prepared to deal with daddy issues. And be prepared for women to swear up and down that they "just like older men" and don't have daddy issues. But...be prepared for daddy issues.

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