Beautiful Best Friend
Options
FireEngineRedHead
Posts: 281 Member
in Chit-Chat
I have had one best friend my whole life. She is it. And she is GORGEOUS. Like jaw-droppingly gorgeous. And of course, I'm jealous. We go out together, I take hours to get ready, she pops out of the shower, wet hair, not makeup, sweatpants, and STILL everyone looks at her and wants her. Don't get me wrong, I DO NOT BLAME THEM. My problem is, should I hang around her even though I feel like crap about myself when I do?
*Let me add in real quick, she is super smart, and really really talented, so I'm screwed on all levels.
*Let me add in real quick, she is super smart, and really really talented, so I'm screwed on all levels.
0
Replies
-
I have had one best friend my whole life. She is it. And she is GORGEOUS. Like jaw-droppingly gorgeous. And of course, I'm jealous. We go out together, I take hours to get ready, she pops out of the shower, wet hair, not makeup, sweatpants, and STILL everyone looks at her and wants her. Don't get me wrong, I DO NOT BLAME THEM. My problem is, should I hang around her even though I feel like crap about myself when I do?
*Let me add in real quick, she is super smart, and really really talented, so I'm screwed on all levels.
give her my phone number. tell her i'm a French model.
:bigsmile:0 -
Why do you feel so threatened?0
-
We need some pictures of her to help us formulate our opinions.0
-
We need some pictures of her to help us formulate our opinions.
I agree.0 -
I think you have nothing to worry about aside from maybe gaining some confidence, because you are cute and gorgeous. Think sexy girl nextdoor.0
-
Why do you feel so threatened?
That's the thing. I don't. But it kinda sucks, like when it's an every day kinda consistent thing. Like she gets told by random strangers that she is gorgeous all the time, and I'm standing there awkwardly like... oh... ok. She knows. Promise. You aren't the first and sure as hell won't be the last.0 -
Some people just seem to have it all. It's ok, it's no reflection on the rest of us. I can understand why you would be jealous, but I'm sure she has her own problems and things she's jealous of.0
-
Sounds like she's not truly your "best friend" if you view her in this manner. Best friends trust each other, lean on each other, etc. They don't necessarily go on the net and post about how awful it is to be friends with this awesome gorgeous person because they feel threatened by the beauty and awesomeness. That's just sad, actually.0
-
Unless she's actively putting you down, I think you have to take a look and see where the problem here resides. If it's your insecurities, shore them up and stop comparing yourself. If she's really your best friend, get over it because she probably loves you dearly as you ought to her. She can't help these things you've listed about her.0
-
If you are dead serious about pictures message me. I'm not going to post them here on fear she'll see it (not like she needs to lose weight) >.<
But i'd appreciate you not messaging me back like "OH NOW I GET IT! YOU LOOK HIDEOUS NEXT TO HER!"
I have talked to her about this, in long deep crying best friend conversation. She cried, because she doesn't want me to feel that way. Neither of us can help it, I guess. I AM insecure, that doesn't mean that if I had all the confidence in the world that this situation still wouldn't be hurtful.0 -
Wow! I'm not trying to be harsh here, but you are obviously the one with the problem. Why would you consider cutting someone out of your life because of your jealousy, envy, or whatever you want to call it?
I think you really need to work on your own self-esteem, stop comparing yourself to her, and appreciate that you have a lifelong friend that will never leave your side. Those are few and far between, you know.
Edited to add - She might have a classic beauty, but you have a unique beauty and you need to learn to appreciate it.0 -
I have had one best friend my whole life. She is it. And she is GORGEOUS. Like jaw-droppingly gorgeous. And of course, I'm jealous. We go out together, I take hours to get ready, she pops out of the shower, wet hair, not makeup, sweatpants, and STILL everyone looks at her and wants her. Don't get me wrong, I DO NOT BLAME THEM. My problem is, should I hang around her even though I feel like crap about myself when I do?
*Let me add in real quick, she is super smart, and really really talented, so I'm screwed on all levels.
There's always going to be someone better then you. Easier said then done, but I'd try to think about things a little differently if I were you.
Quotes:
"Change your thoughts to change your attitude at any given time. Positive thoughts will make room for a positive attitude!"
"Weakness of attitude becomes weakness of character."
"If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude."
"If you're in a bad situation, don't worry it'll change. If you're in a good situation, don't worry it'll change."
"You may not be able to change a situation, but with humor you can change your attitude about it."
Seriously I was incredibly hard on myself when I was younger. It wasn't productive. A little light helped me see things under a different light.0 -
What? Why? You need to work on realizing why you are so awesome instead of focusing and comparing yourself to your best friend.
Who cares if people gawk at her and tell her she is beautiful. Big fkning deal. Get over it and appreciate how wonderful you are.0 -
Girl! You're a REDHEAD! You're the one they're looking at! 'Nuff said.0
-
It must be so nice for some of you to come on here and be like "get confidence" like I can buy it at the drug store or something.0
-
:noway:0
-
Gah, story of my life.0
-
It must be so nice for some of you to come on here and be like "get confidence" like I can buy it at the drug store or something.
Fake it til you make it!! Seriously0 -
If it makes you feel any better she probably isn't as attractive as you think, it's probably your own projection.0
-
It must be so nice for some of you to come on here and be like "get confidence" like I can buy it at the drug store or something.
you can. it's called alcohol.0
Categories
- All Categories
- 1.4M Health, Wellness and Goals
- 392.1K Introduce Yourself
- 43.6K Getting Started
- 259.9K Health and Weight Loss
- 175.7K Food and Nutrition
- 47.4K Recipes
- 232.4K Fitness and Exercise
- 404 Sleep, Mindfulness and Overall Wellness
- 6.4K Goal: Maintaining Weight
- 8.5K Goal: Gaining Weight and Body Building
- 152.8K Motivation and Support
- 7.9K Challenges
- 1.3K Debate Club
- 96.3K Chit-Chat
- 2.5K Fun and Games
- 3.4K MyFitnessPal Information
- 23 News and Announcements
- 987 Feature Suggestions and Ideas
- 2.4K MyFitnessPal Tech Support Questions