Beautiful Best Friend

My best friend has been my best friend for 27 years. She modeled and was tall chesty and beautiful. Was I jealous of her? A bit, not that I would ever let that affect our relationship. Did it suck to go to the bar and have every guy be like "DAMN" and look through me? Sometimes, but she was and is the bomb! My fellas always were honest about her attractiveness but were loyal to me. I found true love and does he think she is gorgeous? Of course. Would he touch her? Not without my permission!!! LOL

Anyway, 27 years later, I have aged quite nicely and I think I am the more attractive at this age, but she is still the bomb! Wouldnt trade her for a perfect body!

People look the way they look. You can't change your looks, she can't change hers, you can't change what other people see either. If when you go out and her attention is still with you, you should merely mirror that back. When you find a friendship that is worth it, you make it work.

Everything I post on this site leads to bad things, so I'm going to stop.
If anyone gives really good advice and doesn't troll about crap, I'd love to be friends.

I really didn't see that much trolling in this thread. Why do you insist on holding on to a bad self-image?


I hate to say it because I say this in so many threads, but you need to get some psychological help on this.

I had a friend who I felt was drop dead gorgeous. Had the nicest clothes hair nails. And I ALWAYS felt like an ugly duckling beside her. One day I said to her...how do you manage to be so gorgeous and perfect all the time? You must be exhausted!

And she was.

You see... she felt insecure with me and felt that she had to dress up to be comfy with me. And I with her.

We laughed and now, we are free to be us. Sometimes I'm not wearing makeup, or I'm in grubbies... sometimes she is... and NEITHER of us care anymore!

If she is your BF, then talk to her and stop caring about the superficial.

AND NEVER EVER EVER SEND HER PICS OUT!!!

It hurts your feelings that she's naturally beautiful?! No wonder she cries when you talk to her about how you question your friendship.... I would be so embarrassed and ashamed of myself if my best friend came to me and said, "I love you so much, you're smart and funny... but you're just too pretty to be friends with." HOW HURTFUL.


Listen, cupcake, this problem is all you, and I suggest you see a good therapist about it. You're a very good looking girl, but insecurities like this aren't pretty.

*Let me add in real quick, she is super smart, and really really talented, so I'm screwed on all levels.

And she chose YOU as a best friend. That must imply some really great things about you, don't you think? Just sayin'.

Look at the the big picture. You're probably better looking than nearly much everyone else around you, so maybe focus on *that*, rather than the tiny few that aren't. Enjoy it while you're young.

Everything I post on this site leads to bad things, so I'm going to stop.
If anyone gives really good advice and doesn't troll about crap, I'd love to be friends.

Please don't take it wrong. Sorry for all the people being mean to you. But a lot are genuinely trying to help you. Focus on that.

Say your a crazy basketball player dude. And you're better then everyone around you and aspire to play in the NBA. And you get there. And now you're considered ****. Shouldn't you still be absolutely thrilled that you're better in basketball then most of the people in the world?

Or you know, you could move to somewhere with lots of people you consider ugly. That'll be the life.

if you were really best friends, you wouldn't be threatened or even consider dropping her.

Everything I post on this site leads to bad things, so I'm going to stop.
If anyone gives really good advice and doesn't troll about crap, I'd love to be friends.

WTF??? I gave you good advice.

Pshhhhhhhhhhhhhh whatevs.

I'm offended. That's what I get for being nice. I get called a "troll"


OFFENNNDDEEEDDDDDDD

If it makes you feel any better, I would totally smash you. and your friend. at the same time.

not that I'm your type or anything, just sayin.

Here's a cliche: beauty is only skin deep. yeah most of us are here to improve our skin and what's under it, but true friendship needs to go beyond that. She doesn't see you as beneath her looks, or at least it doesn't matter to her as much as it apparently does you.

So while many of us are still a physical work in progress, here's something to keep in mind:

You're so mean when you talk about yourself, you were wrong. Change the voices in your head. Make them like you instead. --Pink

:flowerforyou:

My best friend from age 15 - when she moved down here she was this tall girl who dressed like a dude (it was the 90s, we all wore baggy pants and oversized shirts...real sexy) and then the next year, she's modeling.

MODELING

She's tall, exotic looking, especially standing next to my white bread with mayo lookin' self, speaks 2 languages, had to teach me how to wear heels, apply makeup, and hold chopsticks. Everywhere we went, it was all about her. I'm like 5'2, she's 5'7 and she'd wear HEELS so I looked like a small child following a celebrity. We ate for free, got into clubs, hung out with people ...I don't even know why they were important, but they were wealthy. She dated a famous baseball player (who -it turns out- was married oops!) An artist did a painting of her and then we went to the gallery when they were showing his work. I had just had a baby (I was 19 then) so I never felt homlier in my life. I remember thinking, "holy *kitten*, why is she hanging out with me?"

Just telling you all of this because of that last thought. She never looked at me the way I looked at myself. She always saw me as her equal, and she treated me that way. None of my friends love me the way she does. She left the set of a movie to come be with me while I delivered my 1st son. She's such a wonderful person. She's still my best friend 20 years later. She thinks I'm the smartest person, and knows she can talk to me when she needs encouragement. I'm happy for all that she achieved when we were young. She went to school, she traveled. She won Miss Peru back in the 90s. She was also in an awful car accident that pretty much changed everything. She is thankful to have had those experiences, because life is way different now.

So, I'm saying - be good to your best friend. She will probably stick around forever. Learn to play up what you have. Let her help you if she's inclined to. Be happy that you're her friend, and don't ever think of dropping her over how you think she has more. One day you'll both be old ladies laughing about how she got you into everything for free. ....or about how you both ripped off a psychic (really, he should've seen it coming).

FireEngineRed:

It's hard to live in the shadow of others. If it bothers you so much, maybe you need to do some hanging out with another set of friends that you do not feel so inferior to. It will help boost your confidence. I would not discard your old friend, but maybe you need some space to come out of your shell on your own.

All I can say from your pictures is that you are prettier than most women. Any guy would be proud to have a girl that looked as good as you do.

As I age, I realize two things: We aren't all super models, and we all succumb to old age anyway.

Revel in your youth. You are beautiful.