What NOT to say to a bride....

Brides are annoying. Nobody cares about your fu$king wedding.

you're an angry troll, aren't you?

I'm getting married next April. I do realize that my wedding isn't the biggest thing everyone around me has on tap. I'm realistic. I know that it's just one day to everyone else, because I feel the same way about other people's weddings. As a bride, I'm going to enjoy an expensive day surrounded by the people I love. Ultimately, all people care about having a great time & that the *couple* (not the bride) walks away from the wedding happy.

I think the expectation the world revolve around you because you're getting married is absurd.


**Note: I also hate all the "I'm the bride, it's my day!" BS. It's not your day. It's your and your husband's day.

Also, maybe people are asking you what they should wear because they are afraid of your reaction if they pick the wrong thing??!

And......the winner! :drinker:

Hint: If you don't care about your guests, you're bridzilla. I had a huge wedding and spent a lot of time planning. I couldn't imagine thinking some of those things.

I agree. My wedding wasn't just about me, it was about celebrating all the people who lead me to become the woman I am, and supported me through my life. All of the most special people in the world to me were under one roof at one time, which wouldn't happen again (unless...anniversary parties??). I wanted them to all be comfortable and have a good time, so I tried to accomodate them as much as possible.

1. do you need any help planning the wedding? --Just don't ever offer to help them do anything.

2. you look almost as beautiful today as the girl your groom "dated" on spring break. -- Have heard this in person

Brides are annoying. Nobody cares about your fu$king wedding.

you're an angry troll, aren't you?

I'm getting married next April. I do realize that my wedding isn't the biggest thing everyone around me has on tap. I'm realistic. I know that it's just one day to everyone else, because I feel the same way about other people's weddings. As a bride, I'm going to enjoy an expensive day surrounded by the people I love. Ultimately, all people care about having a great time & that the *couple* (not the bride) walks away from the wedding happy.

I think the expectation the world revolve around you because you're getting married is absurd.


**Note: I also hate all the "I'm the bride, it's my day!" BS. It's not your day. It's your and your husband's day.

Also, maybe people are asking you what they should wear because they are afraid of your reaction if they pick the wrong thing??!

:drinker: Thank you!! It is a celebration.. have fun and Congratulations! Nice outlook (I had the same ..and I would have totally helped a friend or family member pick clothes or discuss their hair!)

Exactly. We were pretty casual and easy going about the whole thing. It was on my family's property by the river, simple potluck type buffet, and people could wear whatever the heck they wanted, we didn't care. Some people wore nice suits and dresses, some people came in jeans and t-shirts. When people asked what they should wear, I told them I didn't care... unless they were a bridesmaid. Then I told them I don't care but here's a sample of the color scheme.

My only freak out came when I realized after the ceremony that I had forgotten my beautiful and expensive bouquet in the house. Doh! I blame my freak out on the nerves rather than actually forgetting my flowers.

Things better left unsaid to the bride:

Hey since ur married now, is ur sisters divorce final?

Best man: "Where's your maid of honor? She left some stuff over at your fiancee's last night."

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The minute after you tell them you got engaged that morning and the first thing that comes out of their mouth, "Have you set a date?" Um, well, we have been engaged for an hour, but yes we have all the plans set and booked and you can expect your invitation tomorrow. Really people!

As a groom....Probably the worst thing to say is...."Your sister is better in bed."
As a bridesmaid..."Your husband is terrible in bed." or "You really look fat in your dress."
As the father of the bride...."Your not pregnant are you?"
I could go on and on,,,,,,,

I had a great time at the bachelor party! But maybe you should hold off on the honeymoon for a couple of weeks...or at least until he gets some antibiotics...

Did you get a pre-nup?

The minute after you tell them you got engaged that morning and the first thing that comes out of their mouth, "Have you set a date?" Um, well, we have been engaged for an hour, but yes we have all the plans set and booked and you can expect your invitation tomorrow. Really people!

you would be surprised I knew a girl who set a date before she met her husband, she was getting married may 5th no matter what.

Yep, I knew one of those, too. She had the day picked out many, many years before she met her husband to be.

"I'm working double shift tonight"

**Note: I also hate all the "I'm the bride, it's my day!" BS. It's not your day. It's your and your husband's day.

Halleloo. This is precisely why we eloped. Got married in a hot air balloon with nobody around but my husband and the pilot. And because I didn't want to spend $30,000 to entertain and feed everyone else. No thanks!

Exactly!! We were married las weekend, at home, with only immediate family and my close friend from work. We had a catered brunch which we got a great deal on and only had fresh cut flowers and a balloon bouquet for decorations. It was casual and easy!!!!

Don't call the bride to be a bunch of filthy names because they're planning a destination wedding, and you can't afford it. The whole point of getting married in Mexico, is to have as few people there as possible. You already know that there's going to be party at home, come to that. You're her sister you hateful person, act like it!!!

We had a family member ask for us to recommend a hotel that was pet friendly for when he came to the wedding. The wedding was in a small town, so there weren't a lot of choices to start with. We visited a number of places and recommended the best one. It was basic, but clean, had rooms available on the 1st floor, was close to the wedding venue, reasonably priced, and had cable and a mini fridge. He complained because it wasn't a nice as the place most of the family stayed at (which was not pet friendly but was much higher quality).

He also would not shut up during the family photo with the professional photographer. This was frustrating because his mouth was wide open in a lot of the shots and he was wasting time when we didn't have much to waste. The photographer and other family in the photo asked him repeatedly to stop turning around and talking and laughing, but he was "being a pill." I (the bride) finally snapped at him to "Look at the camera, shut up and smile." It worked and he stopped yapping long enough to get a couple good shots for our parents and grandparents. I felt bad about snapping at him, but was told to forget about it because it was necessary on my part--he was in the wrong.

I was really not happy to hear--from another uncle after the reception and a number of beers--that he was glad I was finally an "honest woman." (referring to the fact that I had lived with my fiance before we even got engaged) Considering that he had been through a nasty divorce that was hell for his daughter, remarried his ex, and that he and his wife were noticeably intoxicated and a bit obnoxious, I rather thought I probably had the moral upper hand and that he had no business commenting on my sex life. To this, I just replied "good night" and walked away. I ranted about it to my husband a bit though.

I was actually glad to hear "What do you think about me wearing this?" from my mother-in-law. Hubby and I were glad to suggest something a bit less bold than her normal fashion. We didn't tell her what to wear specifically, but pointed out that the rainbow leopard print she was considering would be the "boldest" dress in every photo. She took the hint and looked great on the wedding day.