What NOT to say to a bride....

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  • BBinNC
    BBinNC Posts: 73 Member
    If you're being rude, overbearing, unreasonably demanding and self centered, I don't care if you're a bride or the King of Siam, I'm going to call you out on it.
  • BlueObsidian
    BlueObsidian Posts: 297 Member
    "Oooo I can't wait to be in your wedding ... ".... Umm... you're in the wedding? o really? umm... no....

    and my favorite

    " how much is this all costing you? - your parents are paying for it right?!" - umm.. sorry, that's private, and actually we're doing this pretty much all on our own...

    The first, yeah... I can see the problem there...

    The second though... speaking as a former Bridesmaid who is broke bumpkin' poor. If you ask someone to be a part of your wedding they need to know these things so that they can manage to pull the money from somewhere! I was fortunate enough to have a Bride who's mother paid for our dresses, our matching cowboy style boots, shawls and alterations for our dresses. Keep in mind she is the CEO of the second largest MHMR company in Texas... but still, It was very kind.

    As a former bridesmaid who is short on cash, I needed to know the cost of the dress I would be wearing. That's it. There was no reason for me to ask about how much the whole thing is costing them or who was paying for it.
  • smartandtrim
    smartandtrim Posts: 123 Member
    Hi
    These days there is absolutely nothing to benefit men in marriage, and when it all goes wrong they lose out "big time".
    Ian.

    Odd... because when my parents got divorced she got NOTHING from my father, even though he's worth an insane amount, and she now is raising my siblings alone on a teaching salary. So no. There is plenty to benefit men in marriage- everything from decreased prices for insurance, locked down inheritance laws, hospital visitation rights, pension of the spouse if they predecease you, ability to adopt together, etc.

    Grow up and get off your MRA soapbox.
  • Becoming_A_Butterfly
    Becoming_A_Butterfly Posts: 2,534 Member
    I do a lot of event planning for work, and people always make sure the seating/table arrangements are the most drama-filled and stressful part of planning, from not RSVP'ing, to bringing guests without letting me know first, to changing seats or tables and then taking other people's seats, etc. So I fully get the irritation factor of guests screwing up the seating arrangement or not having the courtesy to RSVP so you can have an accurate count for food, caterers, linens, etc.

    In all honesty, though, ranting around like the world is crashing down about a social event is overkill. I have learned to expect last-minute changes, to expect people to not understand how much work I've put into planning or how much work is required to work around their changes, and to just go with it and stay flexible. Bottom line, it is supposed to be a celebration and fun, especially a wedding.
  • katie1286
    katie1286 Posts: 26 Member
    There's no reason larger weddings cannot be relaxed and fun. And it is possible for brides of larger weddings to not be bridezillas...

    We're getting married in May. We've invited just over 300 people. I'm very focused on our wedding being all about my future husband AND myself, not just "It's all about me".

    I lost my reception venue 2 months ago and had to scramble to find a new one (we had literally had the previous placed booked for a full year). I still don't have bridesmaid dresses, even though they were ordered in August - they've been made wrong twice already. I've had plenty of reasons to throw fits and be a bridezilla, but I haven't. I'm still absolutely THRILLED about the big day!

    But I still don't want to hear most of the things that OP had on her list! Even though I have a positive outlook about my wedding and I can't wait until the day is here... I still don't want to worry about people telling me that they can't sit with so and so or HAVE to sit with so and so or helping them pick out their clothes (aside from our immediate families), etc. I still have a lot of details to organize!
  • laurenkoszola
    laurenkoszola Posts: 101 Member
    The minute after you tell them you got engaged that morning and the first thing that comes out of their mouth, "Have you set a date?" Um, well, we have been engaged for an hour, but yes we have all the plans set and booked and you can expect your invitation tomorrow. Really people!

    you would be surprised I knew a girl who set a date before she met her husband, she was getting married may 5th no matter what.

    Was it 05/05/05??
    LOL reminded me of the Office
  • BamBam125
    BamBam125 Posts: 229 Member
    Also :
    1- "Who did you sit me with? I really don't want to sit with So and So. And I can't sit with this one either." - you are at the table for an hour the whole night. Shut up and sit wherever the hell I put you.

    I skipped this seating trouble by just not assigning seats. As far as I was concerned, my guests were adults and could chose to sit wherever they pleased. As a result, an aunt and her 1 year old ended up in a spare seat at the "head" table, which worked out great because our "head" table was the closest the the musician. The kids was in heaven the entire time and didn't cause a bit of trouble. The musician especially liked having her so close because she was such a cheerful kid. No one complained about seating. After the wedding a few people even came up to me to tell me about the the great conversation that they had with so-and-so who they sat next to by chance and it was often a pairing I would have never thought of.
    6- "Sorry we're late, ::insert excuse here::" - My wedding isn't waiting for you. If you're late, you can wait in the damn parking lot.
    We got around this too. The wedding was small, was in a small town, and almost everyone stayed the night before and after the wedding in rooms at the venue itself. It's pretty hard to be late when all you have to do is get dressed and walk out the front door into the garden. :)
  • CandiSki
    CandiSki Posts: 57 Member
    LOVE this post! Everything makes me laugh. :happy:
  • futurestarz
    futurestarz Posts: 510
    Not if it was my sister...lol She is a devil.
  • _Pseudonymous_
    _Pseudonymous_ Posts: 1,671 Member
    "Oooo I can't wait to be in your wedding ... ".... Umm... you're in the wedding? o really? umm... no....

    and my favorite

    " how much is this all costing you? - your parents are paying for it right?!" - umm.. sorry, that's private, and actually we're doing this pretty much all on our own...

    The first, yeah... I can see the problem there...

    The second though... speaking as a former Bridesmaid who is broke bumpkin' poor. If you ask someone to be a part of your wedding they need to know these things so that they can manage to pull the money from somewhere! I was fortunate enough to have a Bride who's mother paid for our dresses, our matching cowboy style boots, shawls and alterations for our dresses. Keep in mind she is the CEO of the second largest MHMR company in Texas... but still, It was very kind.

    As a former bridesmaid who is short on cash, I needed to know the cost of the dress I would be wearing. That's it. There was no reason for me to ask about how much the whole thing is costing them or who was paying for it.

    Sorry, I misread it. I thought it was said from the bridesmaid and my mind associated it with the bridemaid asking about the cost of the dress and if they were paying for it. I never asked my bride how much the wedding was but I knew just because she told me that her Mom was allowing her a budget of $30,000 and she asked for my help planning and googling and such. Otherwise I probably would never had known.

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