DEAL BREAKERS for dating

Ex basketball players

Ok seriously...

Alcoholics or big drinkers, no work ethic, low personal hygiene... Smokers! Hate smoking!

Lack of intelligence, ambition, some kind of drive, overly poor hygiene.

On the ambition/drive thing; I don't care if you work at Mcdonald's, but you damn well better be trying to be come the store manager, supervisor, or whatever other higher position you can get there.

No work ethic
any drugs other than occasional pot smoking
poor relationship with family...I know sometimes it is not their fault but I want what I want
poor hygiene
your instead of you're and their instead of they're ....can't stand it!
BIG ONE: WON'T KEEP A JOB.

and now I see why I am separated

Number 1 deal breaker for me is continuous DRAMA / chronic complainer!
Everyone has problems in their lives, some more than others. It’s the women that seem to have endless drama in their lives and they blame all their issues on someone or something. Constantly b!tching about their neighbor, boss, co-worker, ex, car, Fox news, cell phone, income, cable bill, red lights, weather etc. HUGE turn off.

It's been a long time since I dated, LOL, but along with acceptable effort at being a productive member of society and sharing my offbeat sense of humor, we need to stand on similar political and spiritual ground. These topics may not matter so much to some, but they do to me.

4 - Not knowing the difference between "There, Their & They're"

^^ THIS! Also you're and your. Poor grammar is the biggest deal breaker for me.
I also don't like smokers or tobacco users as I prefer to be with someone I enjoy kissing.
Drug users are out as well.

My man has passed these tests by far.

Making plans and breaking them right before because you are hungover, playing video games or "forgot"
NO CHANCE!!!

Making me choose everything & drive!

I don't care about your ex -- as long as she's your ex we can move on!!

Coming dress like you are hitting the gym - I tried so you could atleast comb your hair!

2. Atheist - Not that she HAS to be the same religion as me - I just don't want someone so arrogant as to assume that they know without a doubt that there is absolutely no chance that there is anything beyond the world we can observe. A person who believes that would probably have an extremely difficult time committing to a highly complex emotion like love, which is not scientifically explainable. (unlike lust / attraction, which is very easily explained through science).

i'm not quite seeing how the ability to be spellbound at the beauty and wonder of this incredible universe, how having a drive to find out the complex reasons for how and why things work are somehow more arrogant than the belief that someone/thing made it.

also, a lack of belief in something is not the same as an absolute knowledge that it doesn't exist. nor is a belief in something the same as an absolute knowledge that it does exist. that's the deal with faith. you have to take it, or the lack of it, on... y'know... faith?

actually, some could argue that the belief that you are the most special, amongst all the species in all the worlds, you are the absolute favourite and most important is a more arrogant assumption than that you are a mere speck.

i mean, look at this:
http://spaceinvideos.esa.int/Videos/2013/03/MAXI_J1659_152
how can something like this fail to illustrate how minute you are in the grand scheme of things?

i don't mind what a person believes in, as long as they don't try to thrust it down people's throats, believe it makes them superior to others who do not share it, or use it to excuse immoral and selfish behaviours. faith isn't a deal breaker for me.

The No Job/No Car/No place of his own is basically materialism, not everybody has the confidence or money to learn to drive during their later teenage years , for whatever reason they miss the window of opportunity.

Their are people who have unsupportive families and are better off moving out and might take a job, any job just to support themselves, its a harsh world out there. Not all jobs pay great wages and after paying their bills there might not be the money left to pay for driving lessons. Then there is the fact there is a global economic recession and some people might never work, not when there might be 400 applicants for each job, sometimes employers split a full time job into 2 part time jobs so that workers have less rights and this leaves the workers with very little scope to live independently, are these people not entitled to happiness?

On the other hand you get men who live at home into their 30s and how do you know he isnt the worlds greatest saver and thinks its better money management to live at home paying rent to his mother than frittering it away on an expensive crummy flat. Does it spell loser? or does it spell someone who is able to get along with his significant family members in co harmony?

There are people with a lot to give who dont have a car/job/own their own home, there are people who cant handle the stress of living in a modern urban world , there are all sorts of reasons other than loser if a winner is only measured by what he has.

there are also people who enjoy their jobs but dont want the added responsibility of being the manager, why is it a better thing to want to be the top banana? what about those people who struggled educationally, how would you feel as their mother if you felt your child was undesirable through no fault of their own? that person might make the most loyal and wonderful partner and father or mother ever.

No more than one baby dady
Not a hard rule, but with very few exceptions no more than two kids
Slim or athletic build
Self suffecient financially
Country girl
Non high maintenance
Common interests (mainly fitness and the outdoors)
Shorter than me, preferebly 5'6" or less

Deal Breakers:

Poor hygiene - this includes grooming your body hair. I'm not a furry beast and I don't want one. MANSCAPE dang it!
Uneducated - I'm finishing my second masters - not saying you have to have that but a college education is a MUST
Unemployed - I know the recession has been tough but you have to have a JOB, a career preferably
Lives with parents - unless they are ill and you are a caregiver.
Selfish, self absorbed, arrogant
Clingy - I don't need to talk to you everyday and you must have outside friends
Uncommunicative - I don't want clingy but I don't want to be ignored either
Pushy, controlling, possessive
No mutual interests - history, culture, lit, etc - when I quote Shakespeare I need you to get it.
Short - I need you to be taller than me (I'm 5'4'' for pete's sake, it's not that hard to be taller than me!)
Small man part - whoever told you that size does not matter lied.
Not being able to wear anything other than jeans, a tshirt, and tennis shoes
No mutual bedroom interests/super vanilla - we must have compatible likings
KIDS - I don't have any and I don't want to be bothered with yours or your baby's mama
Unhealthy, none active lifestyle. - I like running, biking, hiking, long walks, etc. I don't want to hear complaining about how far we've been walking and no I don't want to sit in front of the TV all the damn time.
Does not have manners, proper etiquette
Smokers - gross - and I'm currently watching my mom die from lung disease after smoking for 35 years - I will not be going through this with anyone else I love, damn it!

that's all I can think of off the top of my head - I'm sure there are more...and yes, I have a boyfriend; he has met all of my requirements! He actually has a pretty lengthy list as well.

You have a lot.... Why is "College" educated a must?

because of my interests, my career, job prospects, etc. I have not had good experiences with those who have not gone to college. It's not for everyone - I get that. My dad didn't go to college - he was career military. However for me - and what I want for my life my partner needs to have gone to college and graduated.

The No Job/No Car/No place of his own is basically materialism, not everybody has the confidence or money to learn to drive during their later teenage years , for whatever reason they miss the window of opportunity.

Their are people who have unsupportive families and are better off moving out and might take a job, any job just to support themselves, its a harsh world out there. Not all jobs pay great wages and after paying their bills there might not be the money left to pay for driving lessons. Then there is the fact there is a global economic recession and some people might never work, not when there might be 400 applicants for each job, sometimes employers split a full time job into 2 part time jobs so that workers have less rights and this leaves the workers with very little scope to live independently, are these people not entitled to happiness?

On the other hand you get men who live at home into their 30s and how do you know he isnt the worlds greatest saver and thinks its better money management to live at home paying rent to his mother than frittering it away on an expensive crummy flat. Does it spell loser? or does it spell someone who is able to get along with his significant family members in co harmony?

There are people with a lot to give who dont have a car/job/own their own home, there are people who cant handle the stress of living in a modern urban world , there are all sorts of reasons other than loser if a winner is only measured by what he has.

there are also people who enjoy their jobs but dont want the added responsibility of being the manager, why is it a better thing to want to be the top banana? what about those people who struggled educationally, how would you feel as their mother if you felt your child was undesirable through no fault of their own? that person might make the most loyal and wonderful partner and father or mother ever.

i like you! you have that whole compassion & thinking thing going on.

my deal breaker is ..my husband told me I'm not allowed to date anymore.

This cracked me up. I keep asking my husband if he'll make an exception for Paul McGann, but he just says no.

-controlling
-anger issues
-jealous
-insecure
-watches The Big Bang Theory

wow really, I love that show
Oh I have another, if they don't watch the biggest looser... sorry can't be with you.. man again so glad I'm not single
also, I am glad I have a gf who spells just as bad as me and we don't have to worry about having to spell everything 100% correct, we correct each other but we have fun messing with each other while doing it. some of your are too serious

If she uses Channel #5