DEAL BREAKERS for dating
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Cowboys fans. I wont date a cowboys fan0
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For the women who don't like poor spelling, why does this matter in the slightest? I can see that if someone who completely butchers the English language you might be able to call their intelligence in to question but if the poor guy spells definitely definately by accident how does this make him a poor candidate to date?
A. You have nothing to worry about.
B. A random misspelling sometimes is fine, but for my journalism-major OCD, a guy who just has no idea how to appropriately use the English language (unless he's still learning it, if it's not his first language) is just a turn off. We will be texting each other, writing each other on social media, leaving notes for each other. I just don't want to look at "hay baby hows it goin i dont no how to use wordz but ur really pretty" all the time.
I fixed it for you.0 -
I have to say that after being with the same man for over 23 years, the things that you think are deal breakers for dating really aren't all that big of deal breakers once you are committed to that other person for the long term. Believe me, we have been through the wringer together and there were times that we didn't think we would come through on the other side. But we did.
I learned that all of those things that I couldn't tolerate from my spouse weren't really set in stone after all. Except for infidelity. That one IS set in stone, but we both know it and we both respect it. I was very ideological when I was 23. Now I am much more logical and flexible.
He never had much in the way of expectations from me, so I didn't have much to live up to. I am a very lucky woman.0 -
1. Lack of Intelligence
2. Bigotry
3. Conservative
4. Raiders fan
5. Jealousy
6. No sense of humor
7. No job
8. Crazy ex
9. Religious
10. Comb over
11. No hobbies or interests
12. Can't clean up his own messes
13. Not primarily vegetarian
14. Wants me to live in Kansas
15. Wants more kids
16. In the military
17. Sucks at sex
18. Wants me to get cable
19. Won't go with me to Disneyland
20. Insists on modern interior design
21. Has really annoying friends
22. Is not interested in switching cars with me when mine needs service so that I never have to deal with that crap again
23. Prefers heavy metal
24. Can't spell or use proper grammar
If they have a list similar to this.0 -
My deal breaker is and always has been, a smoker. That is something I definitely could never get past.
I always said this too. Then my boyfriend of five years and now fiance decided he wanted to take up pipe tobacco. I can't just leave someone I've spent 1/4 of my life with because now he wants to smoke a pipe every now and then. I hate him sometimes for it!0 -
just one: lack of sincerity/authenticity. if you can't be true to yourself theres no way i want to be true to you until you figure out who "you" is.0
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For the women who don't like poor spelling, why does this matter in the slightest? I can see that if someone who completely butchers the English language you might be able to call their intelligence in to question but if the poor guy spells definitely definately by accident how does this make him a poor candidate to date?
A. You have nothing to worry about.
B. A random misspelling sometimes is fine, but for my journalism-major OCD, a guy who just has no idea how to appropriately use the English language (unless he's still learning it, if it's not his first language) is just a turn off. We will be texting each other, writing each other on social media, leaving notes for each other. I just don't want to look at "hay baby hows it goin i dont no how to use wordz but ur really pretty" all the time.
I fixed it for you.
Thanks, but I actually think "your pretty" instead of "you're pretty" would bother me a lot more than "ur pretty".0 -
I dated a guy for a while last year who was from the same neck of the woods from me (Manchester, England) and so we had similar accents. However, whenever he spoke to strangers, or on the phone, he would talk in a really odd American accent. He is 100% British, has never been to America and knows nobody who lives there. That was pretty strange.0
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1. Attractive
2. Willing to sleep with me
1 is negotiable
My dealbreakers:
Illiteracy0 -
1. No ambition
2. Jealousy and not allowing you to have your own friends
3. Being clingy
4. Men who think that being single is awful and they simply MUST be in a relationship to be happy0 -
women are picky by nature...men just want to bang.For the women who don't like poor spelling, why does this matter in the slightest? I can see that if someone who completely butchers the English language you might be able to call their intelligence in to question but if the poor guy spells definitely definately by accident how does this make him a poor candidate to date?
DING DING. We have a winner.
Men usually just want to smash and bail, which is why they don't have any initial dealbreakers.
However, if a guy is looking for a serious relationship, their 'must haves' and 'deal breakers' list will be just as long as most women's list. The man's list will mostly be physical things though (weight, cute face, etc).0 -
Must have a job, needn't be a "career." Needn't even be a "job" if you're disabled or whatever. I am not paying your rent.
Must have lived on your own or with room mates at some point before living with me so I know you do in fact know how to do your own laundry and put dirty dishes in the sink occasionally
Must reciprocate oral sex
Do not make me feel like a housewife rather than an important part of your life- In other words, you still need to act like I'm special when we haven't had a fight recently even after the honeymoon phase is over
No picky eaters
No militant idealists of any sort
No cheaters
No liars
No gaslighting, ever
No Lady Gaga
If you are a girl, be out of the closet0 -
1. Attractive
2. Willing to sleep with me
1 is negotiable
How YOU doin'???
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The slightest hint of sexism, racism, homophobia, or anything similar is not okay with me ever. One single "women in the kitchen" or rape joke will make me lose every ounce of interest in a person.
Some people can find the "slightest hint" in pretty much anything.
But you did make me think of a big deal breaker for me...lack of a sense of humor.
Oh, and has to promise not to tell my wife.0 -
Yup. Women have high standards. And they wonder why they are constanly disappointed.To sum up this thread..
must haves for women:
must be between 180lb - 195lbs
must be taller than 6'2
graduate degree
150k year income
above average facial aesthetics
charming
well traveled
+ 1 million other trivial things
must haves for men:
cannot have a penis
Am I close?
My standards are like Henry Rollins
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PLWwtp7rUYA 0 -
I don't know, but I originally came in contact with my (now ex) husband online, and in one of our chats (long before we met) I typed the word 'independant' [sic]. I don't remember the exact context, but it was a fairly long message with some thought involved that I'm sure my then 25ish year old self thought was very important. ANYWAY. My NEH replied to this deep and meaningful message with a succinct 'independent' and logged off.For the women who don't like poor spelling, why does this matter in the slightest? I can see that if someone who completely butchers the English language you might be able to call their intelligence in to question but if the poor guy spells definitely definately by accident how does this make him a poor candidate to date?
Man, if only HE had had that as a deal breaker...0 -
Ha no car one just ruled out half the men in Amsterdam, and no pot ruled the rest. I feel bad for the men of Amsterdam for going green was their undoing.0
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In no particular order: (luckily I found and married someone who fit all my criteria and more and do not have to date anymore)
1. Doesn't love/appreciate Eddie Izzard (doesn't have to be on the same level I do, but somewhere in the ballpark)
2. Hates Cats
3. Would insist on having a dog
4. Atheists
5. Doesn't live a lifestyle that would be appropriate for membership on fetlife
6. Doesn't love to read books
7. Doesn't enjoy some kind of sci fi geekdom (Doesn't have to enjoy the same shows, but understands my love of the genre)
8. Won't wear a kilt
9. Thinks a relationship is 50/50 (its 100/100)
10. Doesn't appreciate the better chick flicks
11. Homophobic
12. Laughs at Barry Manilow
13. Can't cook (doesn't have to be a michelin star chef, but needs to be able to do something other than microwave food)
14. Doesn't do laundry0 -
women are picky by nature...men just want to bang.For the women who don't like poor spelling, why does this matter in the slightest? I can see that if someone who completely butchers the English language you might be able to call their intelligence in to question but if the poor guy spells definitely definately by accident how does this make him a poor candidate to date?
DING DING. We have a winner.
Men usually just want to smash and bail, which is why they don't have any initial dealbreakers.
However, if a guy is looking for a serious relationship, their 'must haves' and 'deal breakers' list will be just as long as most women's list. The man's list will mostly be physical things though (weight, cute face, etc).
Ugh. Let's add shallowness. Attraction is important, but if you're willing to nail anything that stays still long enough, and then demand Victoria's Secret model perfection in a long term relationship, which you will deem more important than any actual meaningful trait, you just suck as a human. As much as girls who are gold diggers.0 -
What did she do to you man?
It's more accurate to say women are picky about bull**** by nature. You seem them consistantly bend their standards on huge issues which should be real deal breakers but instead focus their rage on nonsense like whether a guy can't spell or if he chews to loudly.0 -
Being a commitmentphobe doesn't bother me. Take it from a 2-time engagement breaker. Everyone has their comfort levels, and I don't expect anyone to know they will be uncomfortable with mine until they get to know me. But when I want to leave, suddenly they turn into Barbie's Dream Boyfriend. I'm showered with expensive dinners, flowers, gifts, constant desire to spend time. It's too much for both of us, and then their heads explode...both of 'em.
4) being hot and cold (commitment phobes who don't want me to go)
Damn! I'm a commitaphobe. Or at least, with one failed marriage behind me already, I have to ward off my never married, this is his first serious, live-in relationship boyfriend from the "marriage and baby" talks.0 -
Dealbreakers:
1. Not being a practicing Christian
2. Infidelity
3. Smoking and drugs
3. Refusing to belt out to Broadway music with me0 -
Mostly I like scars and lisps... and sometimes a limp.
And the guy can't be better at bj's than I am.0 -
women are picky by nature...men just want to bang.For the women who don't like poor spelling, why does this matter in the slightest? I can see that if someone who completely butchers the English language you might be able to call their intelligence in to question but if the poor guy spells definitely definately by accident how does this make him a poor candidate to date?
DING DING. We have a winner.
Men usually just want to smash and bail, which is why they don't have any initial dealbreakers.
However, if a guy is looking for a serious relationship, their 'must haves' and 'deal breakers' list will be just as long as most women's list. The man's list will mostly be physical things though (weight, cute face, etc).
nonsense.
if you're 17 years old, maybe... but at 17 you're still a child.
grown men are not this shallow, unless they are douchenozzles.0 -
You are so misguided about atheism and feminism that it's embarrassing to even read this.2. Atheist - Not that she HAS to be the same religion as me - I just don't want someone so arrogant as to assume that they know without a doubt that there is absolutely no chance that there is anything beyond the world we can observe. A person who believes that would probably have an extremely difficult time committing to a highly complex emotion like love, which is not scientifically explainable. (unlike lust / attraction, which is very easily explained through science).
4. Feminazi - Totally fine with feminism (ie: the recognition of the fact that women are EQUAL to men), just not femiNAZIism (the ridiculous assertion that women are THE SAME AS men).
Hear, hear!0 -
women are picky by nature...men just want to bang.For the women who don't like poor spelling, why does this matter in the slightest? I can see that if someone who completely butchers the English language you might be able to call their intelligence in to question but if the poor guy spells definitely definately by accident how does this make him a poor candidate to date?
It's more accurate to say women are picky about bull**** by nature. You seem them consistantly bend their standards on huge issues which should be real deal breakers but instead focus their rage on nonsense like whether a guy can't spell or if he chews to loudly.
instead of blaming all women everywhere for your dating failures, maybe you should take a good hard look at yourself in the mirror.
everybody gets their hearts broken at one time or another. get over it. it's part of life.0 -
I just don't like mean people. Anything else can probably be dealt with, but if you're mean? Go inflict it on someone else.
edit: But I have zero interest in dating. Like, if you offered me an all expense paid date or a root canal that I had to pay for (and I don't even need one), I'm not entirely sure which I would choose. And I hate going to the dentist.0 -
read the first 3 pages then skipped to 7 so didn't read them all but after just reading just those I sure am glad Im not single and here for a date WOW some of you are WAY to picky...
I like the guy who said you must have a pulse, I guess that is me also Ha ha No not really for me
No Smokers---- can't stand it
No lazy people - if you can't pick up your own trash,cloths,ect at home then go on, im not going to be ur houseman
Cleanses --- Take a shower and smell good Don't want to be with a bum
NO jail- if you been in jail there was a reason i do not hang out with "bad" people
no drugs- I don't do them and don't want you to.
Drinking- every once in a while is cool but not every week
No crazy holy people- I believe in God but If you want me to go to church with you sorry, its not me, I have try to date someone like that it did not work
No travel- I like going places every few ys but hardly go places, if you want to see the world I'm not your guy
These are ones that can go either way for me and not sure agree with them
Car- Its nice if they have one but I think out of the 10 girls I have dated only 3 had there own cars, I guess Older you get the more important that is
Not living in your own place---- I really don't get this I mean if you hit it off and the male and female both own there own home, who is going to sell theirs? I admit I lived at home longer then I should have but I also helped my parents out never understood why this bothered girls so much.
No Job---- I won't look down on you if you do not have a job the economy stinks right now has for a few yrs, but I hope yours trying to get a job or have something on the side, I have always until recently made money on the side, today seems can't make money doing anything
Guess I have more then I thought after thinking about it a lil while ha ha but don't think any of mine are crazy
You guys/gals made me really LOL on some of them thanks for the laughs0
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