DEAL BREAKERS for dating

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  • keem88
    keem88 Posts: 1,689 Member
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    use the phrase "Do what"

    i hate that so much. my fiance says that (he's from the midwest) and it drives me nuts. it doesn't even make any sense! :explode:

    i have one deal braker, and it's leaving my stranded in a city i have never been to at a grey hound station and not answering my calls all weekend. **** you.
  • InnerConflict
    InnerConflict Posts: 1,592 Member
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    A penis
  • Danny_Boy13
    Danny_Boy13 Posts: 2,094 Member
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    - Smoking
    - Drugs
    - Alcohol
    - Looking to be pampered 24hrs a day.
  • WestCoastPhoenix
    WestCoastPhoenix Posts: 802 Member
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    If you do not like me, that's a deal breaker. Sorry ladies.
  • JDMPWR
    JDMPWR Posts: 1,863 Member
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    These are my must haves:

    Reads at or above a third grade level.
    Has all her teeth.
    knows how to properly use an abacus
    Must be a level 3 Dragon Master
    Is a practicing Wicken
  • Admiral_Derp
    Admiral_Derp Posts: 866 Member
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    - adam's apples
    - large hands
    - cabbage smell

    What if they're really small, yet manly hands??

    Shave your knuckles and I'm game.
  • CollegiateGrief
    CollegiateGrief Posts: 552 Member
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    No career
    Not independant (ie living with parents or a zillion roommates)
    No transportation of his own
    Lack of hygeine
    Alcoholic/drug user
    Complete lack of fashion sense
    Homophobic/racist/sexist/etc.
    Politically conservative
    Overly religious
    Cannot at least tolerate my cat
    Unintelligent
    Uses poor grammar
    Bad taste in music/movies/TV
    Overly shy/doesn't like to be around people ever
    Doesn't get my sense of humor
    Non-adventurous
    Jealous/really clingy - or on the opposite end - uninvolved, secretive
    Has kids - not ready for that yet
    Bad musicians! I play guitar and have good taste. If you are going to be a musician, either be good or just stop.
    Really cheesy guys
    Too cool for my nerdy fangirl-ness
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
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    - adam's apples
    - large hands
    - cabbage smell

    What if they're really small, yet manly hands??

    Shave your knuckles and I'm game.

    YES!
  • kaylaandthestarcatcher
    kaylaandthestarcatcher Posts: 836
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    The slightest hint of sexism, racism, homophobia, or anything similar is not okay with me ever. One single "women in the kitchen" or rape joke will make me lose every ounce of interest in a person.
  • theCarlton
    theCarlton Posts: 1,344 Member
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    Assuming this person is gainfully employed, is educated, does not take drugs, and doesn't live with his parents....

    1) dishonesty
    2) low emotional maturity (inability to handle one's own feelings, scared of feelings, etc.)
    3) heavy baggage from previous relationships (makes irrational decisions based on fears from the past, treats me like I've wronged him)
    4) being hot and cold (commitment phobes who don't want me to go)
    5) mistreats waitstaff or "the help"
    6) overly religious
    7) recently broken up with or divorced (I don't enjoy the rebound scenario)
    8) wearing hats sideways or semi-sideways
    9) wearing Ed Hardy shirts
    10) chronic bad breath
  • SarahBeth0625
    SarahBeth0625 Posts: 685 Member
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    I have been with DH for 15.5 years now, since I was 17... so I really never got to date.

    HOWEVER...

    Deal breakers for me?

    1) Dishonesty. If I can't trust you, I don't want to date you.
    2) Smoker. Sorry, I will give it a go but if you're not willing to quit, my migraines would be too bad even just smelling the smoke.
    3) Player! I don't want to invest my heart and soul into someone who is just looking for a lay.
    4) NO ROMANCE. That is #1 on my list. I need it, so if you don't have the time to come up with a few nice things to say, I don't have time for you.
    5) Conceited. This kind of goes along with playa....
  • WinnerVictorious
    WinnerVictorious Posts: 4,735 Member
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    1) dishonesty
    2) low emotional maturity (inability to handle one's own feelings, scared of feelings, etc.)
    3) heavy baggage from previous relationships (makes irrational decisions based on fears from the past, treats me like I've wronged him)
    4) being hot and cold (commitment phobes who don't want me to go)
    5) mistreats waitstaff or "the help"
    6) overly religious
    7) recently broken up with or divorced (I don't enjoy the rebound scenario)
    8) wearing hats sideways or semi-sideways
    9) wearing Ed Hardy shirts
    10) chronic bad breath

    you forgot the Tapout shirts in 9)

    :laugh:
  • wildcatnyc
    wildcatnyc Posts: 2,410 Member
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    1) Smoking/Drugs
    2) Lying
    3) Negativity (we all know that person - the one who never has anything positive to say and everything always sucks)

    Other than that, it all comes down to the connection.
  • LookMaNoHands
    LookMaNoHands Posts: 174 Member
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    1. Career - I am ok with a career-woman, or a stay-at-home mom, just not a woman who makes a career out of changing careers. (ie: the kind who spends 10 years in undergrad, changing majors every other semester, finding a new "calling" every 6 months, and who can't hold down a stable job once she finally enters the workforce - we all know the type)

    2. Atheist - Not that she HAS to be the same religion as me - I just don't want someone so arrogant as to assume that they know without a doubt that there is absolutely no chance that there is anything beyond the world we can observe. A person who believes that would probably have an extremely difficult time committing to a highly complex emotion like love, which is not scientifically explainable. (unlike lust / attraction, which is very easily explained through science).

    3. Selfish / inconsiderate

    4. Feminazi - Totally fine with feminism (ie: the recognition of the fact that women are EQUAL to men), just not femiNAZIism (the ridiculous assertion that women are THE SAME AS men).
  • theCarlton
    theCarlton Posts: 1,344 Member
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    1) dishonesty
    2) low emotional maturity (inability to handle one's own feelings, scared of feelings, etc.)
    3) heavy baggage from previous relationships (makes irrational decisions based on fears from the past, treats me like I've wronged him)
    4) being hot and cold (commitment phobes who don't want me to go)
    5) mistreats waitstaff or "the help"
    6) overly religious
    7) recently broken up with or divorced (I don't enjoy the rebound scenario)
    8) wearing hats sideways or semi-sideways
    9) wearing Ed Hardy shirts
    10) chronic bad breath

    you forgot the Tapout shirts in 9)

    :laugh:
    *adds Tapout shirts to #9*
  • Louisianababy93
    Louisianababy93 Posts: 1,709 Member
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    They don't listen!
  • Lift_This_
    Lift_This_ Posts: 2,756 Member
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    Self-entitled.
    No decent career.
    Lack of intelligence.
    Low sex drive.
    Hypocritical.
    Shorter than 5"8'.

    dang it...can't we make an exception?

    Depends what can you offer up in exchange?

    we can discuss that....in bed.

    I'm sold.

    awwwwwww yyyyeaaah!!! when shall we start? :wink:
  • brendaj39
    brendaj39 Posts: 375 Member
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    can't be jealous
    not be a drug user
    must have a job
    love to have fun
    love to experiment
  • ModoVincere
    ModoVincere Posts: 530 Member
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    3) Negativity (we all know that person - the one who never has anything positive to say and everything always sucks)

    well, that sucks....
  • zillah73
    zillah73 Posts: 505 Member
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    Smoking
    Drug Abuse
    Alcoholism

    And, at the risk of being called superficial, I cancelled a first date with a guy after he texted me a picture of himself wearing a hat he had just bought with a monkey face on it. I'm sorry, but I am almost 40 and I can't date a 38 year old man who shops at Hot Topic. :laugh: Plus he kept asking me to send him photos of my cat (not a euphemism, he was obsessed with my kitten and even asked if she could come stay with him for a while). Freaking weirdos.

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