DEAL BREAKERS for dating

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  • Siekobilly
    Siekobilly Posts: 401 Member
    Never understood the height thing...maybe it's because I'm short. </shrug>

    - Smoker
    - No job/ambitions
    - Hates the outdoors
    - Unhygienic (this includes oral hygiene...)

    I'm sure there are more, but those are the big four.
  • SpeSHul_SnoflEHk
    SpeSHul_SnoflEHk Posts: 6,256 Member
    i see a lot of the people responding in this thread have doomed themselves to a life of loneliness with their standards

    Yeah. I called out the first I saw, and then realized that there will be a lot of crazy cat ladies if they dont' lower their standards.
  • MM_1982
    MM_1982 Posts: 374
    No career
    Not independant (ie living with parents or a zillion roommates)
    No transportation of his own
    Lack of hygeine
    Alcoholic/drug user
    Complete lack of fashion sense
    Homophobic/racist/sexist/etc.
    Politically conservative
    Overly religious
    Cannot at least tolerate my cat
    Unintelligent
    Uses poor grammar
    Bad taste in music/movies/TV
    Overly shy/doesn't like to be around people ever
    Doesn't get my sense of humor
    Non-adventurous
    Jealous/really clingy - or on the opposite end - uninvolved, secretive
    Has kids - not ready for that yet
    Bad musicians! I play guitar and have good taste. If you are going to be a musician, either be good or just stop.
    Really cheesy guys
    Too cool for my nerdy fangirl-ness

    Future crazy cat lady here.

    For sure! Her list made me LOL
  • djsupreme6
    djsupreme6 Posts: 1,210 Member
    I see a lot of careers here....does that mean that having a job isn't good enough?

    with me I can't go selfish women and I won't ever. Anything that could be considered a deal breaker would be some kind of personality incompatibility issue as some other things aren't in the persons control.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    Druggie or alcolholic.
    Self-absobrded
    Self-centered.
    Looking for a sugar Daddy.
    Peenus is bigger than mine.
  • bluecrayonz
    bluecrayonz Posts: 459 Member
    must be rich
    must have one foot in the grave

    ha
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,021 Member
    1. Career - I am ok with a career-woman, or a stay-at-home mom, just not a woman who makes a career out of changing careers. (ie: the kind who spends 10 years in undergrad, changing majors every other semester, finding a new "calling" every 6 months, and who can't hold down a stable job once she finally enters the workforce - we all know the type)

    2. Atheist - Not that she HAS to be the same religion as me - I just don't want someone so arrogant as to assume that they know without a doubt that there is absolutely no chance that there is anything beyond the world we can observe. A person who believes that would probably have an extremely difficult time committing to a highly complex emotion like love, which is not scientifically explainable. (unlike lust / attraction, which is very easily explained through science).

    3. Selfish / inconsiderate

    4. Feminazi - Totally fine with feminism (ie: the recognition of the fact that women are EQUAL to men), just not femiNAZIism (the ridiculous assertion that women are THE SAME AS men).

    Like
  • sweetzoejane
    sweetzoejane Posts: 153 Member
    1. Career - I am ok with a career-woman, or a stay-at-home mom, just not a woman who makes a career out of changing careers. (ie: the kind who spends 10 years in undergrad, changing majors every other semester, finding a new "calling" every 6 months, and who can't hold down a stable job once she finally enters the workforce - we all know the type)

    2. Atheist - Not that she HAS to be the same religion as me - I just don't want someone so arrogant as to assume that they know without a doubt that there is absolutely no chance that there is anything beyond the world we can observe. A person who believes that would probably have an extremely difficult time committing to a highly complex emotion like love, which is not scientifically explainable. (unlike lust / attraction, which is very easily explained through science).

    3. Selfish / inconsiderate

    4. Feminazi - Totally fine with feminism (ie: the recognition of the fact that women are EQUAL to men), just not femiNAZIism (the ridiculous assertion that women are THE SAME AS men).

    This was hilarious. Thank you.
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  • CollegiateGrief
    CollegiateGrief Posts: 552 Member
    i see a lot of the people responding in this thread have doomed themselves to a life of loneliness with their standards

    Yeah. I called out the first I saw, and then realized that there will be a lot of crazy cat ladies if they dont' lower their standards.

    I would rather be happy in my life. If I meet a guy I want to be with, great, but I'm not going to be with someone I don't like just to be with someone. The whole point of a relationship is to make each other happy. At least I know enough about myself to not waste a guy's time.
  • Proyecto_AN
    Proyecto_AN Posts: 387
    No career
    Not independant (ie living with parents or a zillion roommates)
    No transportation of his own
    Lack of hygeine
    Alcoholic/drug user
    Complete lack of fashion sense
    Homophobic/racist/sexist/etc.
    Politically conservative
    Overly religious
    Cannot at least tolerate my cat
    Unintelligent
    Uses poor grammar
    Bad taste in music/movies/TV
    Overly shy/doesn't like to be around people ever
    Doesn't get my sense of humor
    Non-adventurous
    Jealous/really clingy - or on the opposite end - uninvolved, secretive
    Has kids - not ready for that yet
    Bad musicians! I play guitar and have good taste. If you are going to be a musician, either be good or just stop.
    Really cheesy guys
    Too cool for my nerdy fangirl-ness

    Future crazy cat lady here.

    I agree.
  • Latona38
    Latona38 Posts: 111 Member
    1) Someone who doesn't believe in God :noway:
    2) Selfish
    3) Arrogance... Self confidence is sexy but too much of it is s bad thing
    4) Bi-sexual men... :grumble:
    5) Lazy
    6) No drive or ambition :sad:
    7) Someone who curses a lot
    8) Doesn't like kids :explode:
    9) Has several children/ baby mama's
    10) No job :brokenheart:
  • CollegiateGrief
    CollegiateGrief Posts: 552 Member
    No career
    Not independant (ie living with parents or a zillion roommates)
    No transportation of his own
    Lack of hygeine
    Alcoholic/drug user
    Complete lack of fashion sense
    Homophobic/racist/sexist/etc.
    Politically conservative
    Overly religious
    Cannot at least tolerate my cat
    Unintelligent
    Uses poor grammar
    Bad taste in music/movies/TV
    Overly shy/doesn't like to be around people ever
    Doesn't get my sense of humor
    Non-adventurous
    Jealous/really clingy - or on the opposite end - uninvolved, secretive
    Has kids - not ready for that yet
    Bad musicians! I play guitar and have good taste. If you are going to be a musician, either be good or just stop.
    Really cheesy guys
    Too cool for my nerdy fangirl-ness

    Future crazy cat lady here.

    For sure! Her list made me LOL

    Also, douches. We can add that one :wink:
  • drchimpanzee
    drchimpanzee Posts: 892 Member
    The slightest hint of sexism, racism, homophobia, or anything similar is not okay with me ever. One single "women in the kitchen" or rape joke will make me lose every ounce of interest in a person.

    Great, another woman who can't cook.
  • MM_1982
    MM_1982 Posts: 374
    To sum up this thread..

    must haves for women:
    must be between 180lb - 195lbs
    must be taller than 6'2
    graduate degree
    150k year income
    above average facial aesthetics
    charming
    well traveled
    + 1 million other trivial things

    must haves for men:
    cannot have a penis

    Am I close?
  • drchimpanzee
    drchimpanzee Posts: 892 Member
    To sum up this thread..

    must haves for women:
    must be between 180lb - 195lbs
    must be taller than 6'2
    graduate degree
    150k year income
    above average facial aesthetics
    charming
    well traveled
    + 1 million other trivial things

    must haves for men:
    cannot have a penis

    Am I close?

    Women must have a pulse also. Usually.
  • 1) Being (intentionally) unemployed. Looking for work or being a full-time student doesn't count.
    2) Clinginess.
    3) Chewing with your mouth open.
    4) Drug use.
    5) Poor spelling/grammar.
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  • ekz13
    ekz13 Posts: 725 Member
    think that pretty much sums it up.... see why most are single now and we have wars and the divorce rate is so high, we guys can't keep our crap together..:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: ( I hope most of these are jokes, seriously)
  • sweetzoejane
    sweetzoejane Posts: 153 Member
    To sum up this thread..

    must haves for women:
    must be between 180lb - 195lbs
    must be taller than 6'2
    graduate degree
    150k year income
    above average facial aesthetics
    charming
    well traveled
    + 1 million other trivial things

    must haves for men:
    cannot have a penis

    Am I close?

    I mentioned none of those things. So, no.

    But I get your point. I don't think many understand what a "deal breaker" means. Unless they really are serious about those things...
  • MM_1982
    MM_1982 Posts: 374
    To sum up this thread..

    must haves for women:
    must be between 180lb - 195lbs
    must be taller than 6'2
    graduate degree
    150k year income
    above average facial aesthetics
    charming
    well traveled
    + 1 million other trivial things

    must haves for men:
    cannot have a penis

    Am I close?

    Women must have a pulse also. Usually.

    Not a deal breaker for most..
  • No career
    Not independant (ie living with parents or a zillion roommates)
    No transportation of his own
    Lack of hygeine
    Alcoholic/drug user
    Complete lack of fashion sense
    Homophobic/racist/sexist/etc.
    Politically conservative
    Overly religious
    Cannot at least tolerate my cat
    Unintelligent
    Uses poor grammar
    Bad taste in music/movies/TV
    Overly shy/doesn't like to be around people ever
    Doesn't get my sense of humor
    Non-adventurous
    Jealous/really clingy - or on the opposite end - uninvolved, secretive
    Has kids - not ready for that yet
    Bad musicians! I play guitar and have good taste. If you are going to be a musician, either be good or just stop.
    Really cheesy guys
    Too cool for my nerdy fangirl-ness

    Future crazy cat lady here.

    mlmf14.gif
    A lot of these things go hand-in-hand with each other. None of it is asking too much at all. Besides, living with cats is a lot better than living with somebody you can't stand.
  • avababy05
    avababy05 Posts: 930 Member
    1) lack of ambition in career or otherwise.

    2) drugs/excessive alcohol.

    3) Inability to see outside of themselves.

    4) If he has kids,must have a relationship with them.
  • calibriintx
    calibriintx Posts: 1,741 Member
    To sum up this thread..

    must haves for women:
    must be between 180lb - 195lbs
    must be taller than 6'2
    graduate degree
    150k year income
    above average facial aesthetics
    charming
    well traveled
    + 1 million other trivial things

    must haves for men:
    cannot have a penis

    Am I close?

    No
  • CollegiateGrief
    CollegiateGrief Posts: 552 Member
    No career
    Not independant (ie living with parents or a zillion roommates)
    No transportation of his own
    Lack of hygeine
    Alcoholic/drug user
    Complete lack of fashion sense
    Homophobic/racist/sexist/etc.
    Politically conservative
    Overly religious
    Cannot at least tolerate my cat
    Unintelligent
    Uses poor grammar
    Bad taste in music/movies/TV
    Overly shy/doesn't like to be around people ever
    Doesn't get my sense of humor
    Non-adventurous
    Jealous/really clingy - or on the opposite end - uninvolved, secretive
    Has kids - not ready for that yet
    Bad musicians! I play guitar and have good taste. If you are going to be a musician, either be good or just stop.
    Really cheesy guys
    Too cool for my nerdy fangirl-ness

    Future crazy cat lady here.

    mlmf14.gif
    A lot of these things go hand-in-hand with each other. None of it is asking too much at all. Besides, living with cats is a lot better than living with somebody you can't stand.

    Agreed :smokin:

    And I will admit my bad musician caveat is a bit silly, but really now. Also notice there is not a single physical trait listed, nor education or income restrictions. So hah.
  • drchimpanzee
    drchimpanzee Posts: 892 Member
    For the women who don't like poor spelling, why does this matter in the slightest? I can see that if someone who completely butchers the English language you might be able to call their intelligence in to question but if the poor guy spells definitely definately by accident how does this make him a poor candidate to date?
  • ModoVincere
    ModoVincere Posts: 530 Member
    For the women who don't like poor spelling, why does this matter in the slightest? I can see that if someone who completely butchers the English language you might be able to call their intelligence in to question but if the poor guy spells definitely definately by accident how does this make him a poor candidate to date?
    women are picky by nature...men just want to bang.
  • The slightest hint of sexism, racism, homophobia, or anything similar is not okay with me ever. One single "women in the kitchen" or rape joke will make me lose every ounce of interest in a person.

    Great, another woman who can't cook.

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    FYI, joking about sexism = sexism.
  • CollegiateGrief
    CollegiateGrief Posts: 552 Member
    For the women who don't like poor spelling, why does this matter in the slightest? I can see that if someone who completely butchers the English language you might be able to call their intelligence in to question but if the poor guy spells definitely definately by accident how does this make him a poor candidate to date?

    A. You have nothing to worry about.

    B. A random misspelling sometimes is fine, but for my journalism-major OCD, a guy who just has no idea how to appropriately use the English language (unless he's still learning it, if it's not his first language) is just a turn off. We will be texting each other, writing each other on social media, leaving notes for each other. I just don't want to look at "hay baby hows it goin i dont no how to use wordz but your really pretty" all the time.
  • For the women who don't like poor spelling, why does this matter in the slightest? I can see that if someone who completely butchers the English language you might be able to call their intelligence in to question but if the poor guy spells definitely definately by accident how does this make him a poor candidate to date?

    It's mostly to do with my own neuroticism. It makes me feel flustered and like I need to correct it!