DEAL BREAKERS for dating

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  • aubrieboline
    aubrieboline Posts: 8
    Just like I am with the food I eat, I am VERY picky about the men I date...

    1. Career - Don't have one? Get one.
    2. Aspirations - I don't plan on being where I'm at forever; neither should you.
    3. No drugs or smoking - EVER.
    4. Alcohol moderation - Hey, I love a glass of wine in the evening as much as anyone else; but black out drunk 4 nights a week is just pathetic.
    5. Respectful - I absolutely will not tolerate a man who abuses a woman, whether physically, mentally, or emotionally.
    6. Responsible - I am not your mother; pay your own bills, clean your own house, and take care of yourself.
    7. Animal lover - I grew up with animals in my life; they are always going to be there. Deal with it.
  • Lift_This_
    Lift_This_ Posts: 2,756 Member
    Self-entitled.
    No decent career.
    Lack of intelligence.
    Low sex drive.
    Hypocritical.
    Shorter than 5"8'.

    dang it...can't we make an exception?
  • drchimpanzee
    drchimpanzee Posts: 892 Member
    Being hung up on another person, whether it's an ex, some crush, or some long lost love. If you can't focus on what you have and instead focus on what you think you're missing out on you'll never be able to build anything new. People like that are a waste of time.
  • matt2442
    matt2442 Posts: 1,259 Member
    If i have to constantly reassure them about how things are, peace.
  • BrendaLee
    BrendaLee Posts: 4,463 Member
    He's gotta:

    Be a little crazy/ weird/ dorky.
    Be intelligent.
    Be a little kinky.
    Have a sense of humor.
    Be kind.

    He can't:

    Lie (to me).
    Drink too much/ often, smoke or do drugs.
    Ignore me.

    He doesn't have to be a he, necessarily.
  • KML617
    KML617 Posts: 220 Member
    Not liking cats is a huge deal breaker for me.

    Ohhh... Good One!! Ditto!
  • sweetzoejane
    sweetzoejane Posts: 153 Member
    Republicans
    Religious
    Smokers
    Druggies
    Alcoholics
    Liars

    Mostly, as long as they don't have the first two, I would date them. I've been with someone for 8 years now and I can say that there are a lot of other personality traits and life views that come with having similar political and religious views in common with one another.
  • drchimpanzee
    drchimpanzee Posts: 892 Member
    My friends say that I am extremely picky, so other than essential ones like no prison time, no kids, and a job/car, here are my slightly silly ones:

    1. At least 6 ft tall...anything shorter and I can't wear my favorite boots.
    2. If I can run a mile faster than you. That means less than 6:45, which I don't think is TOO difficult for a man.
    3. Smoking. Yuck. #sorryI'mnotsorry
    4. Misogyny/rape jokes/shallowness/etc. Anything that promotes gender inequality or rape culture, and a perfect 10 on my scale becomes a no go.
    5. Social conservatives.
    6. And for long term dating, I always make sure that a guy has a similar lifestyle idea to mine ie careers for both of us, kids, equal parenting, traveling, etc.

    Anything that promotes gender inequality? Cool so we can split the check then? :)
  • _DaniD_
    _DaniD_ Posts: 2,186 Member
    Must be a morning person.
    Must worship me.
  • quirkytizzy
    quirkytizzy Posts: 4,052 Member
    Fundies. Drug addicts.

    And break dancers. That's DEFINITELY a deal breaker.
  • BrendaLee
    BrendaLee Posts: 4,463 Member
    Republicans
    Religious
    Smokers
    Druggies
    Alcoholics
    Liars

    Mostly, as long as they don't have the first two, I would date them. I've been with someone for 8 years now and I can say that there are a lot of other personality traits and life views that come with having similar political and religious views in common with one another.

    Right. I forgot religious -- no.
  • lizibame
    lizibame Posts: 59 Member
    I let my standards slide once and ended up married to someone who had none of these traits, therefore they are now dealbreakers...

    1. Must have a job and be able to keep it (if you're on a contract you shouldn't lose it when the time is up for things within your control)
    2. Must Bathe daily
    3. Must be financially responsible (i'm cheap!)
    4. Must enjoy football and beer (which includes being able to actually articulate a replay if I went to the fridge for YOUR next beer)
    5. Must share in household chores (afterall, sharing chores means more time for sexy time)
    6. Must eat fruits and veggies (to include tomatoes and bananas but exceptions can be made for brussel sprouts and cauliflower)
    7. Must not subsist on fast food alone
  • alychil820
    alychil820 Posts: 219 Member
    Oh, and anyone who doesn't enjoy car karaoke. My ex never played the radio while driving and gave me those looks whenever I jammed out to mah boy Pitbull. I have a voice of gold, okay. To the deaf.
  • diodelcibo
    diodelcibo Posts: 2,564 Member
    Self-entitled.
    No decent career.
    Lack of intelligence.
    Low sex drive.
    Hypocritical.
    Shorter than 5"8'.

    dang it...can't we make an exception?

    Depends what can you offer up in exchange?
  • ModoVincere
    ModoVincere Posts: 530 Member
    only one deal breaker.....if they are male, I aint dating them.
  • AlongCame_Molly
    AlongCame_Molly Posts: 2,835 Member
    Smoking
    Selfish
    Disrespectful to his mother
    Dead-end job/no plans for future
    Talks down to people, or is combative or mean
  • HardcoreP0rk
    HardcoreP0rk Posts: 936 Member
    I don't really have any specific deal breakers, but just a general sentiment.:

    "Get on my level."

    After all, I'm not here to carry the effin team.
  • mrphil86
    mrphil86 Posts: 2,382 Member
    Must be a morning person.
    Must worship me.

    Damnit, first one is a deal breaker =/
  • Mhaney
    Mhaney Posts: 467 Member
    1 - drugs
    2 - lying
    3 - smoking
    4 - deliberately bad grammar
    5 - needy/co-dependent
    6 - no ambition
    7 - non-Christian
    8 - liberal
  • serena569
    serena569 Posts: 427 Member
    Bad teeth.
    Bad teeth.
    And bad teeth.
  • Pixi_Rex
    Pixi_Rex Posts: 1,676 Member
    Hygiene - you have to have an understanding of cleanliness.
    At least have a job - or be looking for one (sometimes *kitten* happens and you loose yours but at least be attempting to find something)
    A car ( I don't care if its old and falling apart, does it run? if yes great.) - I am not an effing taxi service, and using public transport for dates is not sexy.
    An unmbilical cord that has been cut - I am all for being close to family, but if you have to ask mom everytime you want to do something..... yeah no.
    Liars/cheaters etc. - not my thing
    Still in love with the ex? sort your *kitten* out. I have been there and done that and I am not going to over look it.
    Can't accept that I am friends with the opposite sex? - thats nice please keep walking. My best friend is male and I gave him up once I will not do that again.

    I have a really long list of things that are deal breakers its why I am still single for the most part.
  • Admiral_Derp
    Admiral_Derp Posts: 866 Member
    - adam's apples
    - large hands
    - cabbage smell
  • homerjspartan
    homerjspartan Posts: 1,893 Member
    I am pretty liberal and OK with most things. I don't like women that get jealous too quick. My last girlfriend kept getting really mad at the littlest things and would ask all these questions -

    - Why does your wife keep calling?
    - Why do i have to wear this mask?
    - Why can't I know your real name?
    - Why do I have to pay for the hotel?
  • drchimpanzee
    drchimpanzee Posts: 892 Member
    - adam's apples
    - large hands
    - cabbage smell

    Boiled cabbaged or fried cabbage? I make a distinction.
  • MightyDomo
    MightyDomo Posts: 1,265 Member
    1. Smokes or Does Drugs (if he is quitting smoking then I am supportive and fine with that)
    2. Has to like children and want children (as I have a daughter)
    3. Has to have a good work ethic and plan in life, not just fly by the seat of his pants and hope for the best
    4. I require a level of romance, and that means surprising me once in a while
    5. Has a good relationship with his family
    6. Takes care of himself, one thing I absolutely cannot stand is a greasy long haired boy that smells like his last shower or bath was over a year ago.
    7. MUST LOVE DOGS, or at least like them enough to live with one.

    I wouldn't think that this is a hard list to match... but meh, I find it hard to want to date let alone actually trying to date.
  • crazyellybean
    crazyellybean Posts: 999 Member
    1) Liers, Cheaters, Thieves
    2) No Work, No Money, Slackers
    3) Bad Breath, Bad Hygiene
    4) Lazy, No hobbies (when I ask what you do for fun, XBOX is not an option)
    5) Active to some degree
    6)Baby Mama or Ex Drama
  • SpeSHul_SnoflEHk
    SpeSHul_SnoflEHk Posts: 6,256 Member
    I am pretty liberal and OK with most things. I don't like women that get jealous too quick. My last girlfriend kept getting really mad at the littlest things and would ask all these questions -

    - Why does your wife keep calling?
    - Why do i have to wear this mask?
    - Why can't I know your real name?
    - Why do I have to pay for the hotel?

    I get that same crap.
  • WinnerVictorious
    WinnerVictorious Posts: 4,733 Member
    joke answer:

    1) no pulse

    real answer:

    1) she's married/engaged
    2) she's a liar
    3) she's boring and/or uninteresting
    4) she's got a bad personality and/or treats others poorly
    5) she's got no sense of humor
    6) she's vain
    7) she's a prude
    8) she's too young or too old
    9) she's jealous and/or manipulative
    10) she creates too much drama around herself

    probably more than that, but that's a start.
  • MM_1982
    MM_1982 Posts: 374
    joke answer:

    1) no pulse

    real answer:

    1) she's married/engaged
    2) she's a liar
    3) she's boring and/or uninteresting
    4) she's got a bad personality and/or treats others poorly
    5) she's got no sense of humor
    6) she's vain
    7) she's a prude
    8) she's too young or too old

    probably more than that, but that's a start.

    Too young (but over 18) is a joke answer too, right?
  • SpeSHul_SnoflEHk
    SpeSHul_SnoflEHk Posts: 6,256 Member
    Prison record mostly.

    What can I say, low standards.

    Shoot. To think I loved you for nothing.

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