DEAL BREAKERS for dating
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I won't hash out all the standard "must not be a *kitten*" type stuff, but I have two deal breakers that may seem somewhat picky but these have been issues for me in the past.
1. If he doesn't lift, I'm not interested. This isn't a superficial thing. It's just that I lift heavy weights, and I love it, and I have found that most guys who don't lift themselves do not understand and are somewhat intimidated/freaked out by women who can pick up some really heavy stuff. A man who does a lot of heavy lifting will understand, and we will get along much better.
2. If he tries to tell me how to dress or makes comments about me being too "high-maintenance" because I insist on wearing a dress to dinner, we are done. I am a grown woman. I buy my own clothes. I will be the sole participant in deciding what I wear unless I ask for your input.0 -
There are many things I look for but one thing that is important to me..somewhat of a deal break if she:
-only sticks to the cardio machines at the gym!
Haha it's the same for me for guys. And to be completely honest, if I see a guy (uninjured) get on an elliptical, I'm instantly turned off, I can't help it.
In the last two years both knees got hurt and I had three hernias repaired plus I had every bone broken in my foot many years ago that has left me unable to run but I do what I can to do cardio...... So since I am in this situation, but you can't tell that I am hurt, don't you think that is a bit narrow-minded?
Sweetheart, don't get butt-hurt. It's an instinctual reaction. When many guys see an overweight woman, they instantly don't consider her as attractive, but what if they knew she had a thyroid condition or was on steroids for immuno-suppression, wouldn't that be a little narrow-minded? The world is judgemental.
Men who call women they don't know "sweetheart" when they're talking down to them.0 -
My Big 10.
1. poor personal hygiene
2. recent criminal record--particularly noting stalking, attempted rape, or violence against women, children, or animals.
3. disrespectful of my boundaries--pawing all over me and making rude suggestive comments on our first date. i'm not a fembot
4. you're 40 and still living with your parents--yes, this happens.
5. my dog hates you or you hate dogs.
6. abject poverty. look, i don't care if you're rich, but you need to be able to buy your own gas/booze/ciggies and take me out for a pizza now and then. if you can't do these things, you can't afford a relationship
7. recent history of drug/alcohol issues.
8. religious/political/dietary fanaticism.
9. Veganism. i don't mind if you are vegetarian. if you're vegan, we can be friends, but i won't date you. been there, done that.
10.ex issues. i don't want to hear about your ex for at the first couple of dates. kids are ok.0 -
There are many things I look for but one thing that is important to me..somewhat of a deal break if she:
-only sticks to the cardio machines at the gym!
Haha it's the same for me for guys. And to be completely honest, if I see a guy (uninjured) get on an elliptical, I'm instantly turned off, I can't help it.
In the last two years both knees got hurt and I had three hernias repaired plus I had every bone broken in my foot many years ago that has left me unable to run but I do what I can to do cardio...... So since I am in this situation, but you can't tell that I am hurt, don't you think that is a bit narrow-minded?
Sweetheart, don't get butt-hurt. It's an instinctual reaction. When many guys see an overweight woman, they instantly don't consider her as attractive, but what if they knew she had a thyroid condition or was on steroids for immuno-suppression, wouldn't that be a little narrow-minded? The world is judgemental.
Men who call women they don't know "sweetheart" when they're talking down to them.
StheK --- BTW it was LauraJo08 that wrote the "Sweetheart, don't get...." reply above, and they are female.....0 -
I guess I dont have have high standards lol as long as he/she is not too high on himself/herself Ill give anyone at least one chance.0
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There are many things I look for but one thing that is important to me..somewhat of a deal break if she:
-only sticks to the cardio machines at the gym!
Haha it's the same for me for guys. And to be completely honest, if I see a guy (uninjured) get on an elliptical, I'm instantly turned off, I can't help it.
In the last two years both knees got hurt and I had three hernias repaired plus I had every bone broken in my foot many years ago that has left me unable to run but I do what I can to do cardio...... So since I am in this situation, but you can't tell that I am hurt, don't you think that is a bit narrow-minded?
Sweetheart, don't get butt-hurt. It's an instinctual reaction. When many guys see an overweight woman, they instantly don't consider her as attractive, but what if they knew she had a thyroid condition or was on steroids for immuno-suppression, wouldn't that be a little narrow-minded? The world is judgemental.
Men who call women they don't know "sweetheart" when they're talking down to them.
StheK --- BTW it was LauraJo08 that wrote the "Sweetheart, don't get...." reply above, and they are female.....
Thanks for the correction. Still not cool.0 -
I won't hash out all the standard "must not be a *kitten*" type stuff, but I have two deal breakers that may seem somewhat picky but these have been issues for me in the past.
1. If he doesn't lift, I'm not interested. This isn't a superficial thing. It's just that I lift heavy weights, and I love it, and I have found that most guys who don't lift themselves do not understand and are somewhat intimidated/freaked out by women who can pick up some really heavy stuff. A man who does a lot of heavy lifting will understand, and we will get along much better.
2. If he tries to tell me how to dress or makes comments about me being too "high-maintenance" because I insist on wearing a dress to dinner, we are done. I am a grown woman. I buy my own clothes. I will be the sole participant in deciding what I wear unless I ask for your input.
I'm with you. I live for pretty dresses. :happy:0 -
pot head women
That's a must have for me!
Word!0 -
Rudeness, cockiness, incorrect grammar/spelling, poor hygiene, racism, religious proselytism, dwelling on past relationships, sloppy kissing.0
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Poor hygeine
Poor personality
Poor financially (no career)
Poor self-esteem
3 top attributes:
Smile
Eyes
Long hair!0 -
If she uses Channel #5
I thought you were talking about FOX for a second. It's 'Chanel'.
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Man, I have so many it's ridiculous. Now that I think of it, it's really stupid..0
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Poor hygeine
Poor personality
Poor financially (no career)
Poor self-esteem
3 top attributes:
Smile
Eyes
Long hair!
You're really attractive.0 -
5, I need a free thinker and not a follower0
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I won't date single women. They get possessive and tend to complicate my marriage.0
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Deal Breakers
1. Already in a relationship :mad:
2. No job/career :ohwell:
3. Smoker/drug user
4. No sense of humor :happy:
5. Disrespectful0 -
I won't date single women. They get possessive and tend to complicate my marriage.
^ That just made me giggle...0 -
Cheater - once a cheater always a cheater......doesnt want what i want.......also if they are lame.0
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Drinker
Packers Fan
Cubs Fan
Red Wings Fan0 -
pot head women
THIS!!0 -
My only deal breaker is not having a pulse.
Such high standards hahahhah:laugh:0 -
I went on a date where the guy was super rude to the waiter. No second date for him.0
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My list started off very simple as a teen when I first started dating.
Sexual attraction was pretty much it. I had extremely low standards.
With every stupid choice I made in dating/marriage partners, more things were added to the list.
Fortunately I completed my list 14 yrs ago when I married the perfect guy for me. I don't ever want to be single again. But if I found myself there, it would be difficult to find one that has all the traits my hubby has, but I wouldn't compromise on key traits.
Fidelity-100% dealbreaker.
No alcohol abuse
No illegal drug use
No smoking
Must have a sense of humor
Must have compatible IQ
Similar values and views on most major subjects, yet can agree to disagree on minor things.
Treats me with respect- no yelling or cursing, or saying intentionally hurtful things.
No major control freaks.
No anger issues, -don't throw a childish fit and throw stuff or slam doors when you get mad.
Is able to sit down and calmly talk thru any issues we might have.
Loves me for who I am, yet encouraging and supportive of me bettering myself.
Is strong and dependable when the going gets tough. Doesn't bail at the first sign of trouble.
Of course I expect no less of myself in a relationship as well.0 -
pot head women
THIS!!
Or men!0 -
Cheater - once a cheater always a cheater......doesnt want what i want.......also if they are lame.
LOL, Define Lame. I assume you don't mean that he is in a wheelchair? :happy:0 -
Watches The Big Bang Theory-controlling
-anger issues
-jealous
-insecure
-watches The Big Bang Theory
Really
Lol, we LOVE Big Bang Theory. But then we have a 12 yo Sheldon in our house. Not sure I would be compatible with anyone who hates the show.
But then I wouldn't be compatible with someone who watches Honey Boo Boo, either, so to each their own.0 -
Dealbreakers:
No ambition
Smoker, uses drugs, or drinks too much
Hung up on someone else
Dishonest
Disrespectful of other people
Fidelity
Seal the deal:
Must love cookies :bigsmile:0
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