At what age do you draw the line on being a bridesmaid?

odusgolp
odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
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Do you have an age where you can't imagine being a bridesmaid in a full on, big puffy white dress, 250 guests, formal wedding? Have you ever said no to someone?

I hate to say it, but I have no desire to be in an attendant in a wedding again. Maybe if it was a small destination wedding type affair, but in a formal, church thing, I can't imagine taffeta, bouquets and up-do's anymore.
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  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    And yes, you can pretend it's a cat wedding.
  • _Witsy_
    _Witsy_ Posts: 609 Member
    I don't like being in weddings at all, no matter what age I am lol
  • FireEngineRedHead
    FireEngineRedHead Posts: 281 Member
    My sister is getting married in October, her bridesmaids ages range from 9 - 54
  • felice03
    felice03 Posts: 2,644 Member
    It would really depend on who it was. I have a couple close friends and family I would do it for but that is about it. I would not do it for someone who is just trying to have even numbers.
  • billsica
    billsica Posts: 4,741 Member
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  • pandsmomCheryl
    pandsmomCheryl Posts: 168 Member
    My sister is getting married April 20th, I'm the matron- of- honor at age 42. I'm not super thrilled about it but what can you do? If it wasn't my sister I'd take a pass, for sure. The dress is not super poofy thank goodness, but not fantabulous either...
  • TylerJ76
    TylerJ76 Posts: 4,375 Member
    27.
    When I turned 28 last year, I had to tell 3-4 brides NO.
  • Lib_B
    Lib_B Posts: 446 Member
    i would only do it now if it were a small wedding - no taffeta. :) unless my youngest sis, who is still single, decided she wanted the big wedding. then i would consider, but at this point, not so much - and i'm in my late 30's.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
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    Seriously, no one looks good with a bow on their butt. No matter what age.
  • carrietehbear
    carrietehbear Posts: 384 Member
    I really dislike being in weddings because of the expense. However, if one of my good friends was getting married and asked; I'd say yes. As a single person with no signs of marrying anytime soon, I'd hate for one of my good friends to tell me no because she thought she was too old to be in a wedding.
  • corn63
    corn63 Posts: 1,580 Member
    You WILL be my personal attendant in my wedding if I choose to have something. Wrap your head around it now.
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    I don't think you are ever too old. But if you just don't want to do it, then you should just tell the bride that you would rather be a guest. Tell her you have a full-plate and you wouldn't be able to give her the attention she deserves. I don't think it's wrong to turn someone down for something like that.

    Oh and...

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  • tapirfrog
    tapirfrog Posts: 616 Member
    I've never been a bridesmaid in a big puffy white dress.

    I was a bride in one once, though.
  • WickedZoey
    WickedZoey Posts: 401 Member
    I would do it at any age.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    You WILL be my personal attendant in my wedding if I choose to have something. Wrap your head around it now.

    Wait... I thought I was standing up in the wedding? Did you just demote me b*tch?? I agreed to yellow taffeta for you!!!!
  • SALSACHICA1
    SALSACHICA1 Posts: 66 Member
    Well... I have NEVER been asked!! Guess that is because in HS most my friends were boys.. and now... I have two best friends and both are not getting married any time soon!
  • _the_feniks_
    _the_feniks_ Posts: 3,412 Member
    Steel wool = no bridesmaid.
  • SlickFootAnna
    SlickFootAnna Posts: 611 Member
    Just do it.

    And wear white lol...
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    Steel wool = no bridesmaid.

    I hate you.
  • corn63
    corn63 Posts: 1,580 Member
    You WILL be my personal attendant in my wedding if I choose to have something. Wrap your head around it now.

    Wait... I thought I was standing up in the wedding? Did you just demote me b*tch?? I agreed to yellow taffeta for you!!!!

    I think we decided on orange??... and of course you can stand up with me. Just don't outshine me with your hooters.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    Just do it.

    And wear white lol...

    Oh, I'm doing it... and I'll be the youngest one at 37 ;-)
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    You WILL be my personal attendant in my wedding if I choose to have something. Wrap your head around it now.

    Wait... I thought I was standing up in the wedding? Did you just demote me b*tch?? I agreed to yellow taffeta for you!!!!

    I think we decided on orange??... and of course you can stand up with me. Just don't outshine me with your hooters.


    Puh-lease!! You jubblies will always be jubblier than mine!
  • thomasbf
    thomasbf Posts: 47 Member
    If you really care about the person getting married, suck it up, Buttercup. It isn't about YOU.
  • cubbies77
    cubbies77 Posts: 607 Member
    I'm 36, and I still consider it an honor to be asked. I wouldn't say no unless it was in a location I simply could not afford, like Hawaii or Mexico. I'd probably decline and explain I didn't want to make that commitment to the bride when there's a chance I wouldn't be able to afford it. It wouldn't be fair to her.
  • LastMinuteMama
    LastMinuteMama Posts: 590 Member
    Some of my good friends haven't met the right person yet and now they are pushing 40. They were in my wedding and if they found the right guy I'd be thrilled for them and thrilled to be in their wedding, at almost 40. I feel like saying "no" would be weird, as if I'm saying that they don't deserve to have all of their best-friends in their wedding because we're not "maids" anymore.

    So, I don't have a cut off age for having the honor of being in one of my friend's weddings...whenever it may be.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    If you really care about the person getting married, suck it up, Buttercup. It isn't about YOU.

    Oh, I'm WELL aware that there's NOTHING on the face of the earth more important than the bride :flowerforyou:
  • SarahBeth0625
    SarahBeth0625 Posts: 685 Member
    I have only been in one wedding, sadly! It was my good friend, though.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I have only been in one wedding, sadly! It was my good friend, though.

    that settles it! You can be in my third wedding :)
  • cindiva65
    cindiva65 Posts: 335 Member
    Well Im getting married again within a year and Im in my late 40's. My matron of honor just died (age 47) suddenly in Feburary and her husband is going to stand in for her at my wedding. My other maid of honor is 48. So guess we are going to be really unusual because I will have a man of honor now and a maid of honor!
  • njmp
    njmp Posts: 277 Member
    Hmmm....well I've actually never BEEN a bridesmaid. My best friends are either living in sin, or patiently awaiting proposals. I'm hoping they don't put me in something horrific. It might just be the one wedding honestly, and I'm totally okay with it!

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