At what age do you draw the line on being a bridesmaid?

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  • Jackson4590
    Jackson4590 Posts: 145 Member
    as a man i don't understand why age matters at all? if the bride (your friend) is getting married at 40 isn't it a bit selfish to think 40 is too old to be a bridesmaid? aren't you supposed to be there for your friend?
  • Lesa_Sass
    Lesa_Sass Posts: 2,213 Member
    I made the decision last April that the wedding I was in on May 5th was my last one ever. I am over the whole being a bridesmaid thing, I am for sure over freaking bridezillas being all crazy and chit. I just want to show up, eat your food and dance.

    And I am for sure over being asked to be a bridesmaid then being told which 300 dollar dress and 200 dollar pair of shoes to buy. I paid for all the dresses and shoes at my wedding. I did not expect someone to pay to be a part of my day, especially since I wanted the dresses and shoes that I wanted. The average people are spending, travel, gift, dress, shoes hair an make up is almost a thousand dollars these days. Thats crazy.
  • neacail
    neacail Posts: 228 Member
    If a friend should ask, I will happily oblige for as long as I'm alive.

    Being a bridesmaid is about a lot more than one day. It is about loving, supporting, and helping a friend during an incredibly stressful time. Planing a wedding can take a year or more, and even planning a small wedding can get crazy. If a friend wants my help, whether she needs it or not, she gets it.
  • sdleischner
    sdleischner Posts: 34 Member
    its not a thing of age................ its supporting your best friend on one of the most important days of thier lives!!! im 28 and getting married this summer my maids range in age from 21 to late mid 30's. i am hounred to have everyone of them stand for me. i would do the same for them no matter how old i am.
  • CorvusCorax77
    CorvusCorax77 Posts: 2,536 Member
    for friends or family, and for free wine, it's a small price to pay at any age :)
  • MNA76
    MNA76 Posts: 1,541
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    I would totally be a bridesmaid in this wedding. But only this one.
  • cmjanssen
    cmjanssen Posts: 6
    My grandmother was my matron of honor and she was 70. She contributed the most in my life to that point and was very honored to be that big of a part of my special day!!
  • mariposa224
    mariposa224 Posts: 1,241 Member
    Do you have an age where you can't imagine being a bridesmaid in a full on, big puffy white dress, 250 guests, formal wedding? Have you ever said no to someone?

    I hate to say it, but I have no desire to be in an attendant in a wedding again. Maybe if it was a small destination wedding type affair, but in a formal, church thing, I can't imagine taffeta, bouquets and up-do's anymore.
    I've only every been in 2... But my older sister, who will be 45 this year, has been in a ton of weddings. She told me yesterday that she's in one this coming May. I'm starting to wonder if she has a closet-full of these dresses, "27 Dresses" style...

    ETA, I'm getting married in September and my best friend is going to be my only "bridesmaid" and she'll be 44 by then.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    for friends or family, and for free wine, it's a small price to pay at any age :)

    BWAHAHA! You have a good point on the wine :)
  • jendavis07
    jendavis07 Posts: 66
    I would do it no matter what, it's not about the bridal party but the Bride & Groom's big day. You will do it because you want to support them and that's why they ask you! :flowerforyou:
  • sevsmom
    sevsmom Posts: 1,172 Member
    I have always found the wide age spreads in bridal parties interesting. I actually did NOT have my older sis in my bridal party because all my (now) ex-husband's attendants were like 21-22 and she was 37 and recently post partum. However, it wasn't because she was older, it was to save her sanity in dealing with my ex's juvenile friends!!!

    For myself, I don't see anyone needing to ask me to be a bridesmaid. . .unless my widowed friend finds a new man and wants a big wedding. Otherwise, I'm happy to write the lovely couple a nice check and throw rice/blow bubbles/etc as they leave the church!!
  • SueGeer
    SueGeer Posts: 1,169 Member
    Once a bride, but never a bridesmaid........at pushing 51 I guess it's a little late now.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    Do you have an age where you can't imagine being a bridesmaid in a full on, big puffy white dress, 250 guests, formal wedding? Have you ever said no to someone?

    I hate to say it, but I have no desire to be in an attendant in a wedding again. Maybe if it was a small destination wedding type affair, but in a formal, church thing, I can't imagine taffeta, bouquets and up-do's anymore.
    I've only every been in 2... But my older sister, who will be 45 this year, has been in a ton of weddings. She told me yesterday that she's in one this coming May. I'm starting to wonder if she has a closet-full of these dresses, "27 Dresses" style...

    I've been in 13.... Yes, I'm THAT awesome. And I'd never say no *LOL*
  • Lesa_Sass
    Lesa_Sass Posts: 2,213 Member
    AHEM.

    I am 44 and this picture was taken at a wedding last year.

    What does age have to do with anything?
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    Once a bride, but never a bridesmaid........at pushing 51 I guess it's a little late now.

    Oh hell, you can be in my 4th wedding!!!
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    AHEM.

    I am 44 and this picture was taken at a wedding last year.

    What does age have to do with anything?

    And you look lovely :)
  • Jennloella
    Jennloella Posts: 2,286 Member
    I guess it depends who it is but, really it isn't about me, it's about the people getting married, and if they are friends of mine or even family I should feel honored they want me as a part of it. Silly, to think of others, I know.
  • dearladydisdain
    dearladydisdain Posts: 7 Member
    I'm only 24, but I can't think of an age where I'd be "too old" to be a bridesmaid. If you don't want to do it, that's fine, but if it's because you think you're "too old" then that is sad.

    And for the record, I just got married and there were no poofy dresses or taffeta for my bridesmaids. ;)
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    I would do it at any age for one of my best friends. I would tell anyone who falls outside of the "best friend" category no at any age.
  • perfectionisntme
    perfectionisntme Posts: 205 Member
    I didn't care much for being the bride, I wanted to elope. So, I wouldn't want to be a bridesmaid even though my sister asked me to be her maid of honor. Not quite sure how I will handle that. Hmmm.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I guess it depends who it is but, really it isn't about me, it's about the people getting married, and if they are friends of mine or even family I should feel honored they want me as a part of it. Silly, to think of others, I know.

    I KNOW, right?? Crazy talk.
  • xLexa
    xLexa Posts: 482 Member
    So long as I can choose my own dress I have no problem with it at pretty much any age. I mean the style. No meringues here thanks :P
  • SlvrBluGoddess
    SlvrBluGoddess Posts: 239 Member
    I've never been a bridesmaid... :cry:
  • LoveLaughSweatFuel
    LoveLaughSweatFuel Posts: 38 Member
    If asked and I am close to them ... answer is yes regardless of age.
  • twinkiemon
    twinkiemon Posts: 216 Member
    I'm 31 and I would LOVE to be a bridesmaid again. Only been in one wedding, but I should have been in 3 because two of my friends basically said I would be a bridesmaid and then picked other people. One of them picked the girlfriends of her groom's brothers because "it would be weird to have his brothers walk with someone they're not dating...so, instead of having your closest friends, you just picked these girls you hardly knew. Okay. I actually went and bought an amazing formal dress and wore it to the wedding and looked better than the bridesmaids like "Yeah, you should have picked ME you ungrateful bizznatch." I was actually happy when one of them spilled grease on her dress and another lactated in hers - although considering they had to wear an ugly olive green maybe it was best I wasn't a bridesmaid in that particular wedding.

    Although some of the women at my church have picked the UGLIEST colors - one of them had her bridesmaid in a really gaudy orange that no one should wear and another had them in a dark brown, which might have been okay if all the bridesmaid hadn't had dark skin and so it looked like they were walking down the aisle naked...
  • stressedmum73
    stressedmum73 Posts: 28
    I was a bridesmaid at 25 and the bride involved me fully on what type of dress I would wear. Likewise when I got married my bridesmaids were 29 &15 and I went dress shopping with them to find out what colour and styles suited and based my wedding colours on that :-)
  • avababy05
    avababy05 Posts: 930 Member
    27.That's the last time I was a matron of honor.To the bossiest bride ever.

    My "best friend" made me come over for bustle practice once a week,I had to hold up her ridiculously huge and heavy gown while she pee'd.

    When she was my maid of honor 8 years prior she picked her own dress and had a lot of input into mine.
  • xLexa
    xLexa Posts: 482 Member
    I was a bridesmaid at 25 and the bride involved me fully on what type of dress I would wear. Likewise when I got married my bridesmaids were 29 &15 and I went dress shopping with them to find out what colour and styles suited and based my wedding colours on that :-)

    You are awesome.

    I've seen weddings where bridesmaids have the same color of dress but different styles depending on what suited their body shape best. I think it is great to do this kind of thing.
  • MindyG150
    MindyG150 Posts: 1,296 Member
    My take on Bridesmaids;

    You should only have as many as you can afford to buy a dress for. Asking a friend to be in your wedding and then making them buy their own dress is a SIN!
    The age thing....no limit, but refer back to the above :)
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
    The trick to avoiding being a bridesmaid is to not have any friends.

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