How to dump a guy without being mean?

We can still be friends.

Girls Translation - I want to break up with you (but don't want to hurt your feelings)
Guy Translation - She still wants to be with me but wants more attention from me

Hurting his feelings a little now will save you both alot of hurt feelings in the future. You can't break up with someone without hurting their feelings. Guys don't get hints the way they are intended. Tell him this word for word...."I no longer want to date you. We are no longer a couple. I'm sorry it didn't work out. Good luck to you. Please stop contacting me, I will no longer respond."

No more explanations, no more excuses, no more "it's me, not you". They don't work. Take it from a guy who was dumped by someone "not wanting to hurt my feelings."

Don't know about dumping a guy, as I never have. But my husband (the father of my 3 sons) left me by postcard.

nvm. thought this was a joke thread (Chit Chat Fun and Games). :frown:

But still making him understand it's really truly over. I tried the "it's not you, it's me" it didn't go so well. Help a sister out.

How about... Please don't make me get a restraining order. :drinker:

Tell him you are never, ever, ever getting back together. Like ever.

Hahaha - oh Taylor...

I've been in this situation before, It's not fun.

After having him cry and hang around me like a puppy, I finally had to come out and tell him that there was someone else.
Of course at the time, I couldn't tell him it was his best friend...but I'm glad I ended it, as I've been with said friend for over 7 years now.

I know. I'm a jerk.

if you have done it nicely....and he's not getting it....then you just may have to get mean...

it's hard......but some men need that....

they really do.

I have to agree. You just need to be brutally honest. Or have the "new guy friend" do it. (Even if you have to have a male friend pretend).

Is he showing up on your door step? That's stalker and needs policee involvement.

Um yeah, no. Please do not call the police because a guy you just dumped showed up at your door. If he shows up with a gun, or if he refuses to leave and you truly feel you are in danger, have at it. But being annoyed that someone you actually have a personal relationship with won't get the hint that it's over does not constitute being stalked. The police have bigger fish to fry.

Just.... thank you....=]

I'm sorry, if I tell someone I don't want to see/talk/text or be any part of their life, they randomly show up at my door and won't leave when I ask, I think that deserves an escort.

You have to realize the damage you do to someone by getting a restraining order. There's many ways to avoid it, so many that there's no point in listing them. A restraining order was and is meant for people in DANGER. Yes, someone showing up to your doorstep and crying and begging is annoying. But so are telemarketers, so are beggars, so are step parents. If you aren't in danger, why waste the police and sheriff departments time? I'm sure at least one in your life you've said out loud "where are the cops when you really need them?!" Well there's your answer.

I never said restraining order. I said if the guy shows up at your house and doesn't leave to call the cops so he leaves your property.

Obviously my first post was taken wrong, as you can see one single phrase was clipped and focused on. My whole post was just restating everyone who said "ignore him."

gy in the rain; too funny

m already on this thread....

:laugh:

I would suggest....to stop responding to him and engaging him?

Complete broscience.

lol you would be surprised. I went out on ONE date with a guy last year. I tried to be nice even tho I knew I wasn't interested, I kept saying I was busy but he didn't get the hint, then I finally told him I wasn't interested and he still didn't get the hint. every now and again he will still text me. I've stopped responding.

Just sleep with someone else and tell him. He will run. Plus it will be fun for you.

Damn! Heartless

What???? It works like a charm I tell you.

Yea but that might really hurt him

Wait... What is he still doing? Is he acting like you simply didn't break up? Begging for a second chance? Stalking?


After all you've done, I'm baffled.

I changed my textplus number but kept my regular cell number, so he keeps texting, keeps texting, saying he loves me. I finally messaged him back, to tell him AGAIN that I do not want to be with him anymore, I said he couldn't call me on the phone, or come back on my FB, but that we could still talk as friends, he immediately goes right back into asking me who I am talking to and trying to tell me what to do, which is the main reason I dumped him in the first place. So now, I feel like I have to dump him ALL OVER, even though I never said I'd changed my mind. It's just frustrating.

Girl get you some pepper spray and or a taeser gun. can you say psychopath? like really this sounds like the beginning of those stories you hear of girls who go missing and noone really knows what happened to them. Just saying. . . . stay safe!

Cold Turkey. Doing it nicely makes us guys think that there might be something left. If you do it cold turkey, and blunt, i'll get the picture and never call again. Try it. It sounds mean, but its actually the only way that works.

^This right here. Like a band aid, rip it off and throw it away. Cut off all communication because it just gets messy and confusing for the dumpee.

Ohhhhhhh can I chime in? :X

Tell one of his friends he is creeping you out and ask them talk to him. If he knows someone else is aware that you want nothing to do with him it may sink in. The minute you air his needy/creepy-guy laundry to his friends it should stop. UNLESS he is a stalker or serial killer then it will get worse.