My boyfriends calls me fat.

Dump him and move on. You deserve better.

You're all probably going to say "Leave him!" You know what, I should! I'm 99% sure I'm going to! We fight because he's made me insecure with his cheating habits and when I get jealous, I'm the "Fat *****". "Stupid *****". I'm not dealing with that anymore! Nor am I ever going to get called fat again! I'M 176 POUNDS! I'M 5'5! OKAY! I'M ****ING FAT! But I'll lose that. It's 100% possible to lose every inch of fat! But his human decency will forever BE ****!

You go girl. Today you have realized that you deserve better than that. That takes strength! I'm proud of you :flowerforyou:

So whats your question?

Uhmmmm.... You aren't even fat..... Lol don't let what he says have any affect on you. He is not worth your time. :-) LEAVE HIM!!!

TOPIC: My boyfriends calls me fat

you should call him... a cab.

get ready for an onslaught of all my favorite break up songs.

irreplaceable--beyonce
here i go again on my own--whitesnake
i will survive--gloria gaynor
what doesn't kill me makes me stronger--kelly clarkson
I'm a survivor keep on surviving--destiny's child
never ever getting back together, like ever-- taylor swift

look up all these lyrics print some of them on your phone's text drafts to read now and then.

make a playlist of these and more songs. anyone else got more suggestions for this smart girl. her decision is made she just needs the right tools.

Put on a pair of boots and sing the song... "These boots were made for walking!" This is a great way to lose some quick weight... Drop him like a hot potato! You'll feel so much lighter.

You need to ask yourself some important questions...
Why am I staying in this relationship?
What am I afraid of?
How would my life benefit from leaving?

I feel like we often times make decisions based on fear... fear of being alone, fear we won't meet anyone better, fear that he will move on and be happy and you'll be alone and unhappy. Just face those fears. Like others have said... treat yourself well. It is time to love yourself the way you would like to be loved by someone else.

Two other suggestions...
Take some time off from relationships and date yourself (I know sounds silly)
See a counselor and heal yourself from these men so you don't attract the same jerks

Good luck. Let us know how it goes.

Yes, leave him. What's worse: Being completely unhappy IN the relationship OR being briefly unhappy when you break up?

Even though he is an *kitten*, you may still miss him when you break up, but you will get over that! It's natural to grieve a relationship, even if it isn't the best one.

Leave him, and focus on yourself! You deserve so much better!

instead of wasting your time posting on this forum, you should be taking all of his stuff and putting it on the front lawn.. and hope it starts to rain

You don't want to be treated like crap and get a disease right? Just leave. Tons of lovely men in this world.

Please work on your self esteem and self worth!! Being alone is 10,000x's better than being with someone who doesn't value you, cheats on you and who you allow to break you down. The way I see this, it's not your boyfriend's fault: it's YOUR fault for staying with him. You are allowing him to treat you in this way when he's shown you over and over again what is true colors are but yet you haven't got the courage to leave him, or something inside of you likes being treated poorly and taken for granted.

Understand that you deserve better and it's not up to him to change anything, and he probably won't and doesn't have to. But it IS up to you to change the situation and leave his sorry *kitten* because you're worth more than that.

When I read the title all I could say was 'your boyfriend is a ****' but I'm glad that you're sure you're going to get rid of him because you sure as hell deserve better than that!

It's your call not mine.
Though if he's treating you bad then leave.
How do you know he's not being honest or looking out for your well being?
People can mistake criticism for honesty.
Just saying.

Don't leave this man.....PUNCH HIM IN THE FACE !!!!! (then you can remove yourself) :flowerforyou: :laugh:

Ive always told my fiance that if he cheated, i wouldnt leave-but id slowly poison him and probably end up getting him fired and alienated from his family so he would die sick, broke, and alone.

happy to report he is in perfect health and not cheating.

I forgot, thanks for reminding me women are SOOOO PERFECT. (This comment isn't to the OP).

in my fiances defence-if i ever cheat, he is allowed to poison me slowly too.