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So, you don't want to have to tell him, you want him to just do it automatically, right? This is why men and women don't understand each other. Lol. Just tell him, and he'll leave it at home or something. If you don't say anything, it's just a night out. He's going to pull out the phone. Then, youll be upset or disappointed. He wont know whats wrong and youll be seething because he cant figure it out. Lol. Trust me. Tell him.

Oh, and I like #2.

Four pages of answers and not one obvious and most truthful answer. If you truly want your husbands attention on you and not the stupid phone, don't wear either dress. The no-dress approach is a 100% guarantee eye on you choice!

On that note, I hate cellphones. Having one makes people think I am available 24/7. When I choose to not use the stupid thing people go crazy wondering what happened to me and try even harder to get in touch with me! I also hate the fact that I can do so much with my phone that I have to fight the feeling that I should be "working" all the time.

WELL, WRITTEN! I thoroughly enjoyed the read!!!

So the hubby and I are going out this weekend without the babies for the first time in a year. I would very much like him to leave his cell phone in his pocket. Now I know some of you are going to say "Well then just ask him to stay off of his cell phone". I am female though and what I really want is not just for him to put the cell phone away, I want him to want to look at me instead of his cell phone. With that in mind: Which of these dresses should I wear? Tight and cleavage showing or kinda flowing at the bottom to tempt him with easier access?

After reading your post and the comments that followed I was interested in your story so I went to your page and followed your link to the Huffington post article. I can sympathize with being the "ugly one" among syblings, but rest assured you were never ugly. Still we carried those little hurts around with us like little scarlet letters forever. I'm getting close to my goal weight now too and little things like being cold (I live in Georgia) and not having the seatbelt cut into you are those little unexpected side effects of being thinner.

You describe your husband as "wonderful" and I sure he is. He obviously loved you at your original weight and I'm sure he still loves you now. You spent a lot of time recently focused on yourself and on your children, but now is the time to refocus on your relationship. He may have felt left out of the process you went through (that's how my girlfriend feels sometimes), or perhaps he doesn't fully understand why you felt you needed to make this change. If he feels disconnected from you a little then he may use his phone as a way to distract himself from that fact when the two of you are alone. Heck, It's been a year so may he's just out of practice!

As far as the dress goes, it doesn't matter which one you wear because he'll think you are beautiful in either one. All you have to do is remind him that you're still the same woman he fell in love with. That eye contact you talk about wanting? Make sure you get it from him and when he does just smile. It will all come back to him. Don't force him to give up his phone, make him want to.

Have fun!

I have a uterus, but want to answer anyhow. I like #2. And if he takes out the phone, gently grab it from him and put it in your purse without another word...