You dont get a second date.....

After the relationship I just got out of I know one thing I want in my Significant Other.....employment....being with an unmotivated person is so exhausting and it starts to bring down because the bar is set so low...but out with old in with the being single

There's lots of things that will make or break a date for me.

I will not ask someone on a second date if:
They are racist.
They are homophobic.
They are impatient and inconsiderate with the waiter or waitress, especially on a busy day.
They don't like dogs (this is a -must- for me. I grew up with dogs and intend on having one or two. And they'll be medium-big sized dogs)
They're sexist.
They mention anything about polyamory. (I respect other peoples needs/choices, however I'm very monogamous and couldn't handle a polyamorous relationship).
They don't respect my non-religion.
They're too emotionally unstable or clingy.
They're boring and can only make small talk.
They don't have a plan for the future nor seem to care about developing a career and becoming more independent.
They want too much too soon. (You know what I mean... I take things super slow.)

On the other side some major turn ons/bonuses include:
Being an animal lover.
Being kind of nerdy. I'm a gamer, and it's fun to have someone to play with and also geek out about other nerdy things.
Willingness to try something new and step out of your comfort zone as well as make me step out of mine. Instead of having a typical dinner and a movie date show that you're adventurous and suggest something more out of the norm.

Some of these lists are huge... My main thing is he has to be a nice guy, with a good sense of humour and a brain...
I don’t really care if he is a smoker or has yellow teeth or more than £10,000 worth of debt because these are all changeable factors in a persons life. It wont matter a damn if he has a smile like Tom Cruise and is debt free, if he cant make you laugh or have a good conversation with you.

I'm sick of 'cruisy' guys.

We can rule this guy out then?

if you failed the first .

Some of you are asking how do you find this information out on the first date. Well I hope before there is a first date two people are either calling, texting, or sharing emails back and forth. Why waste each other's time if you can't get straight to the deal breakers. I know what I want to date and I hope the other person knows what they want also. As far as the DEBT goes, well $10,000 is concider managable debt anything after that regardless of what kind of debt it is, its alarming and I dont want to marry someone and I end up taking there debt over because they chose to have poor money skills. Good thing I dont have to worry about this, since I am in a long term relationship. Keep counting those calories.

If we don't get along
Smokes
Into herself too much
Not attractive to me
Loves cats too much
Isn't healthy
Doesn't love dogs

My cat will eat your dog. Is that a deal breaker?

I saw someone say if they're vegan and that they were joking sort of. I would never date a vegan. I see "I am a vegan" and I run far, far away. From my experience the "vegan" people and I do not get along. I like to grow my burgers from babies then carve off what I want. I do not see anything wrong with this and I a hell of a lot nicer killing animals then animals are when they kill animals. At least I am not chewing their guts out while their squirming around. I don't care if you rip carrots out of the ground and sever them at the roots so leave me and Bessy alone.

When I dated (eight years ago haha) deal breakers were a long list
Smoker (of any kind)
No job
No motivation
Had to be at least 5'10"
Etcetera

I ended up with a unemployed (but very tall) smoker. He is employed now, he still smokes. My new list would probably be
What's their credit score?
Are you employed?



....yeah that's it.

If you have bad breath...

...if you're disrespectful of anyone, while in my presence. This includes racism, homophobia, sexism, bigotry, misogyny... I could go on...

What is it that is so damn hard about just being nice to other people, whether you're saying it to someone or about them? Just shut up and be nice, it won't kill you!

Obviously I won't completely write you off if you happen to say something, and I say something like, "I would prefer if you didn't talk like that, we should try to respect everyone, regardless of whether we disagree" and if they continue or don't care, Bye bye....

one guy recently took me out. He was tall, good looking, maybe talked about himself a little much, but how else do you get to know a person? And, then at the end, he bought a bottle of wine and mentioned something about coming over to drink it. To which I replied I was going to sleep. He said he was, too. I said not at my place. He then proceeded to repeatedly ask about staying and said he would sleep on the couch, even, if I felt better about it. I said I did not. He dropped me off and asked yet again. I said no. I went inside an he called 10 times and texted 3 that night asking if I'd changed my mind.... yea, no second date for him.

If you are overly agreeable, have chest or back hair and wear socks with sandals

If she has kids, is a feminist or religious in any, way she'd be history.

If she has kids, is a feminist or religious in any, way she'd be history.

I'm almost 100% sure I shouldn't ask, but why would you not want a woman to be a feminist?

Some of you are asking how do you find this information out on the first date. Well I hope before there is a first date two people are either calling, texting, or sharing emails back and forth. Why waste each other's time if you can't get straight to the deal breakers. I know what I want to date and I hope the other person knows what they want also. As far as the DEBT goes, well $10,000 is concider managable debt anything after that regardless of what kind of debt it is, its alarming and I dont want to marry someone and I end up taking there debt over because they chose to have poor money skills. Good thing I dont have to worry about this, since I am in a long term relationship. Keep counting those calories.

HELL YEA!!!!!! MAN I AGREE WITH YOU ALL THE WAY. LADIES DON'T BASH HIM BECAUSE HE'S BEING COMPLETELY REALISTIC. WHEN I WAS YOUNGER ILL ADMIT I DIDN'T CARE ABOUT THAT STUFF BUT NOW NOT BEING ABLE TO MANAGE HER MONEY IS A TURN OFF. AND YES ON A FIRST DATE ID YOU ACTUALLY TALK ABOUT IMPORTANTNTHINGS YOU CAN FIND ALL THIS OUT. ALSO SOMEONE SAID "CHEMISTRY" EARLIER WELL CHEMISTRY CAN BE BUILT, AND IF YOU BELIEVE OTHER WISE YOUR NOT GIVING ANYONE A FAIR CHANCE PEOPLE PUT TO MUCH EMPHASIS ON STUFF LIKE THAT WHEN THEY IGNORE WHAT MATTERS MOST, COMPATIBILITY. AND WHILE WE ARE ON THIS TOPIC, LADIES BE GOAL ORIENTED! I CAN'T STRESS THAT ENOUGH, I DONT CARE WHAT GOALS YOU HAVE BIG OR SMALL JUST HAVE THE DRIVE AND ASPIRATIONS TO MEET THOSE GOALS.

Why are you yelling?

If she has kids, is a feminist or religious in any, way she'd be history.

I'm almost 100% sure I shouldn't ask, but why would you not want a woman to be a feminist?

Apart from what what paintedr3d mentioned, I only want to date a woman who gets by on her own merit, without needing the government or affirmative action holding her hand. I don't want to date a woman with such a corrosive herd mentality, or a woman who doesn't respect men, and mostly, I don't want to date a child or any other self-entitled, self-absorbed, princess-minded, toxic parasite.

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