This may sound evil, but....keeping it real.

MeIShouldB
MeIShouldB Posts: 578 Member
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I'm working really hard to get fit. By the time I get married and start thinking about having kids I will have gotten my goal body. So after all that work, I can't help but think how bad it would suck to have a baby and gain it all back plus some.
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  • JustAboutDelicious_wechanged
    JustAboutDelicious_wechanged Posts: 2,486 Member
    It does suck, but it's worth every pound. You will have to work hard to get it back off after the baby, but it's very possible. We all think it so it's not evil. :)
  • My0WNinspiration
    My0WNinspiration Posts: 1,146 Member
    Get a dog or cat instead.
  • suv_hater
    suv_hater Posts: 374 Member
    At least you would have already traveled down that road. You are 23 thinking about your goal body, but life is always bringing new goals to the table and fitness is no different. No one really reaches their goal body and if they do the new goal is to sustain it, which is hard work. It doesn't stop and you have to be in it for the duration or you will just be another sap on the couch eating chips and wishing, hoping.
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    People work out while pregnant. As long as the doctor Ok's it, there is no reason to think you are going to totally fall apart.

    That's the nicest thing I have to say, just keeping it real.
  • lizibame
    lizibame Posts: 59 Member
    one of the aerobics instructors at my gym is 8 weeks til her due date and looks fabulous, i doubt she's gained much more weight than the baby itself. it's completely possible (and there's quite a few hanging around on here) to work out during the pregnancy and as long as you control your food and not eat burgers 10 times a day you don't have to gain a ton of weight in the first place. my sister went home from the hospital in her pre pregnancy pants!
  • cynthiadmail
    cynthiadmail Posts: 90 Member
    I had the same thoughts before I found out I was pregnant .
    But after the laughs,the hugs the kisses I get its all worth it.
    Not evil thoughts just human. So no worries.
  • NormInv
    NormInv Posts: 3,303 Member
    You can do a fake pregnancy like Beyonce.
  • Capt_Apollo
    Capt_Apollo Posts: 9,026 Member
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  • _Wonder_Woman_
    _Wonder_Woman_ Posts: 218
    It's better to go into it fit, than not. You'll rebound a lot quicker :)
  • AllTehBeers
    AllTehBeers Posts: 5,030 Member
    Then don't have babies.
  • Mavrick7a
    Mavrick7a Posts: 1,353
    @OP - I have many female friends that have been through the marriage and baby thing, and have continued to maintain a sexy figure. It takes a lot of work, but they were able to do it. Many of my FL have children and are also in the late 30s and mid 40s. :smile:
  • Capt_Apollo
    Capt_Apollo Posts: 9,026 Member
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  • foleyshirley
    foleyshirley Posts: 1,043 Member
    I see pregnant women in the gym frequently, some of them even doing Bodypump. When you truly want a child of your own, this won't make a difference. I would hate to think someone decided against children because of weight gain.
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    also, after two children and a ton of hard work I look better now than I did before them.


    It's all about attitude and hard work.
    It seems you have the hard work down..
  • iulia_maddie
    iulia_maddie Posts: 2,780 Member
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    That being said, i wholeheartedly support your decision not to have babies.
  • Elicur
    Elicur Posts: 78 Member
    I can relate, but you can't have it all and not work hard for it.
  • Trechechus
    Trechechus Posts: 2,819 Member
    Get a dog or cat instead.

    I like this idea.
  • MercenaryNoetic26
    MercenaryNoetic26 Posts: 2,747 Member
    Haha! That's kinda funny. I always suspect some girls don't have kids for that very reason.

    Anyway, I was in awesome shape when I had my first 10+ years ago. Then I got stretchmarks. But I had no regrets and I bounced back stronger than before stretchmarks and all. Then I got pregnant and miscarried in March 2011. Got in shape again. By Nov 2011 pregnant again. Now I have another beautiful girl and am working my way back into shape.

    What's my point? I think it's sad to miss out on the love of a child for vanity. If it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen, but children, especially your own are the best. That said, if people don't want children because they hate children, then they shouldn't have children.
  • MB_Positif
    MB_Positif Posts: 8,897 Member
    It's worth it.
  • DavPul
    DavPul Posts: 61,406 Member
    yep, definitely time to start worrying about that stuff now. got to get a jump start on negative thinking
  • rae27_au
    rae27_au Posts: 3 Member
    I have friends that look better 3 months post pregnancy than I do 16 years past it. Regular exercise and not going crazy on the calories seems to work well. Being majorly stressed doesn't (from my experience), so choose the daddy carefully and avoid mr negatives like the cap or dav above!! :flowerforyou:
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    You know... you don't have to give birth. You could adopt. Lots of kids out there need good parents.
  • spersephone
    spersephone Posts: 148 Member
    If you have already started taking care of yourself before getting pregnant, you are more likely to be able to regain your figure afterwards. Being careful to eat well and exercise within your limits, you will find you're doing really well.

    I didn't think about my health and fitness until after I had my children. I regret that now, because I can see the damage I did to myself by being overweight to begin with.
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    Then don't have babies.

    ^ This.
  • Laura_Ivy
    Laura_Ivy Posts: 555 Member
    It is worth every pound and every stretch mark! Of course it is completely human to feel that way though but just work your *kitten* off to get in good shape now so you can continue to work out during your pregnancy! :)
  • mommyrocks5
    mommyrocks5 Posts: 49 Member
    Every single pound gained is worth the end result!!! Annnnnnnd if we are keeping it real then by the time that you reach your goal weight/body and get married annnnd get pregnant....you will know what it takes to have a healthy pregnancy and only gain what weight is needed to, to have a healthy baby...once baby is born it won't be so difficult to loose those few lbs that you gained...and you will have a precious baby to show for it!! I have 5 kids and I am about 10 lbs heavier than I was in HS!
  • TeachTheGirl
    TeachTheGirl Posts: 2,091 Member
    I wish I'd gotten into good shape before I got pregnant with my kids.

    You'll do fine. You know how to eat right, exercise right and it'll spring back in no time!
  • yo_andi
    yo_andi Posts: 2,178 Member
    ... just don't say this to the scores of women out there who would kill to have their body "destroyed" by a healthy happy baby. Just keepin' it real...
  • melindanew
    melindanew Posts: 150 Member
    Don't have babies. It's not a requirement (although society would have you think so). Plenty of other folks out there breeding, no reason for you to do it if you don't want to.

    Many, many people are childfree.
  • pinkraynedropjacki
    pinkraynedropjacki Posts: 3,027 Member
    I look better now than I did before I got pregnant with my son 20 years ago.


    With an attitude like yours.... please DO NOT have children. Go get your tubes tied & find a guy who can't have kids. PLEASE.

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