Is it worth it?

Wow i can not believe that this is supposed to be a website of support and motivation and 90% of the response's are so rude, what is wrong with you people? If you guys really feel better about yourself knocking down someone that was simply being honest and just looking to vent and possible find some advice then i am really sorry for you.... having said that I feel the same way most days, baby steps, a short walk around around a few blocks, better alternatives to your food cravings, it does slowly get easier. You don't need to do it all in one day, whatever it is that makes you happy. "We are what we repeatedly do, excellence then is not an act, but a habit" - Aristotle.

what are you talking about? the OP expressly said that all positive messages put him in a bad mood so we complied and gave him what he wanted. he probably deactivated with tears of joy streaming from his eyes.

why are you so mean that you would deny the OP the negativity that he so craved?














hitler: /thread

Wow i can not believe that this is supposed to be a website of support and motivation and 90% of the response's are so rude, what is wrong with you people? If you guys really feel better about yourself knocking down someone that was simply being honest and just looking to vent and possible find some advice then i am really sorry for you.... having said that I feel the same way most days, baby steps, a short walk around around a few blocks, better alternatives to your food cravings, it does slowly get easier. You don't need to do it all in one day, whatever it is that makes you happy. "We are what we repeatedly do, excellence then is not an act, but a habit" - Aristotle.

what are you talking about? the OP expressly said that all positive messages put him in a bad mood so we complied and gave him what he wanted. he probably deactivated with tears of joy streaming from his eyes.

why are you so mean that you would deny the OP the negativity that he so craved?














hitler: /thread

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Thanks for joining.

LMFAO!

Sounds to me that eating healthy, exercising is not the problem. ATTITUDE is the problem. I would suggest you see a councilor first to figure out what is “worth it”. Obviously you do not think you are “worth it” or the people that you love are “worth it” Frankly you do not have to give up the foods you love. You just need to learn to use them in moderation and what foods are triggers. Me it is potato chips. So I purchase them in the individual package so I do not eat the “family” size bag.

Wow, I am likewise very surprised by people's posts...you can't empathize even a little with this type of feeling? I certainly can, and I'm now very concerned about others who will read the OP and feel totally alienated by the responses.

If OP hadn't deactivated in response to borderline bullying and cruelty, I would have told them: this is so difficult. Quite frankly, maybe it isn't worth it to you. People operate economically- you will choose the behavior that maximizes your short term happiness. I just ask you to consider the long term, specifically your health. The deprivation you are describing is not normal even for dieting, try using some resources here to recalculate your calories because you likely can be having more than you think if you are truly feeling so deprived. That should hopefully make it easier. And forget the gym if you hate it! I'd be lying if I said I haven't been in a bad mood one day and scowled at a teeny tiny skinny mini girl bouncing around on the elliptical while chatting on her phone and reading magazines and wanted to smack her with my big chubby fingers!! Anyone who says they've never been jealous is either lying or has crazy enviable amounts of self esteem. If you can't stand the gym work out at home and find something you like- walking, a game, etc.

Ultimately, I think the positivity wouldn't bother you so much if you weren't envious deep down. You sound bitter, and bitterness is the very natural response to being hard on yourself. If like many of us you've been overweight for a long time that self hatred can be ingrained. Don't let anyone on here bully you into giving up. You posted to ask for motivation and support and that's what you deserve. Sometimes it is really really really really hard, and that's okay. It's normal. So vent, let it out in the post, and now reset. Add a few calories back, try a new workout, try to adjust your mindset.

Good luck and if you read this, I hope you come back. There are good, compassionate people here who have helped me when I've felt low, and the counter is a great useful tool.

Im at the point to where, im seriously asking myself if eating right, exercise, and all that is really worth the benefit. At this point, I would honestly say no, its not. I dont feel any better. In fact, I feel worse. I cant eat what I would like to, and I hate exercising. I feel like im the only person in the world who does not enjoy going to the gym, and who does not enjoy eating healthy stuff. Im really questioning if this is for me or not. Like I said, I dont feel any better trying to be "healthier".

The "results" ive seen so far a small and in my opinion, not worth all that ive given (or given up) to get them. A few pounds.....in exchange for weeks and weeks of not eating what I would like to, not drinking what I would like to, and having to drag myself to the gym everyday......simply does not seem worth it to me.

I hate exercise. I hate going to the gym. Having to see all these people who are in shape. Even having to see all the people who are not in shape, but who has this positive attitude and blah blah blah. It makes me feel horrible. I hate being on the treadmill, sweating like a pig. I sweat alot. While other people leave the gym and feel good, I leave the gym and feel horrible. I cant wait to leave and go home. It is simply mentally degrading and I hate it, even if im there by myself. I feel stupid.

I hate how everybody else seems to LOVE making all these "positive" changes and all. How it all works for them. Honestly, im sick of hearing about everyones positive this that and the next. Spare me your success story.

Try not to compare yourself to others. Are you single or do you have a family? If maximizing your life expectancy is not enough to motivate you, then do it for your family. Your family loves you and wants to see you around for decades to come. Do you best not to deprive them of that.

That being said, you can make things easier on yourself. If you hate being on the treadmill, try swimming, if you feel like you miss the foods you love, don't give them up (just eat them in moderation). Stay positive and don't give up!

Its definitely not worth it, YOLO, that's why I inject myself with liquefied hairspray to feel good, its almost as good as eating anything and everything in sight, and slowly decomposing into the couch watching other peoples pretend lives on TV

I have a friend that says "see you at the funeral."

If you want to feel good, go out a run until you puke. Then do it again in 2 days. Then again 2 days later. After a while you'll get used to it. And then, eventually, you'll feel good.

Pfft

Ignore the rude ones!

If you don't like the gym then take up walking. It costs nothing and is mentally refereshing. You can wear what YOU want and not have to buy gym stuff etc.

Mentally how are you feeling. If not in a good space then I really urge you to talk to someone!

Hang in there!!! Only one step at a time....

Anne

Ditto! There are many ways to reach your goals. It isn't always easy, but it doesn't have to be this difficult either. It also helps if you have a friend or group to work out with, someone to share and motivate. Hang in there!

I have to say I'm very disappointed in all of the negative posting. This is suppose to be a place to motivate and inspire, obviously this member is feeling rough and having a tough time. And all the ridicule makes me a bit disgusted.

I too am kind of sad at the negative posting, though I can see how at first glance that may be tempting. I know years of all or nothing dieting have not worked for me, and this time I decided to have ANYTHING I wanted to eat, but just in small portions, and I am down 10 pounds. I am absolutely positive that if I cut WAY down (or out) on junk food, sugar, "bad" carbs, etc., I would have lost more weight by now, but THAT is only if I could have stuck with it this long. I have a bad record with sticking to a totally "clean" diet, so continue to eat probably a diet that may be a bit concerning to some, but for me it is so much better than it was when I was always "pigging out preparing for a coming diet." I do appreciate how many on here are supportive of how some of us need to approach this with more freedom, even if it doesn't coincide with their opinions. I also know, however, that eventually I may have to cut down more on the "junk" especially as I look at the 4 week plateau I am on. I guess it is all a balancing act,and I wish the OP, and all of you, peace, blessings and wisdom on your journey!

Well, after reading several replies to this post that are degrading and just plain mean, I am offering a different take on this whole thing...It is worth it because you are worth it. I don't know you from adam but I do know that if you are living and breathing it is because you are bringing something to the world no one else can bring but you.

Anything worth having is worth working for...This journey is not going to be easy and to revert back to old habits that harm rather than help you is the easy way out...Don't give in to it. You may never love exercise but eventually you will see the benefit. You may never be the size of a male/female super model, but you will be healthy and the way you were designed to be.

It is always worse before it becomes better. I will say though that perspective and mindset are key. Change the stinking thinking. Whatever a man thinketh in his heart, so is he (a bit a scripture to remind us of the power of our thoughts)...The power of life and death is in the tongue (another bit of scripture that reminds us of the power of words). I speak llife, a refreshing, refeuling, peace, and victory over your life. I pray that you will have a transformation in your thoughts and start controlling your body and not allow your body to control you.

God Bless, Stay Encouraged, Be Well, and let's get on with it!:flowerforyou:

Son i am disappoint.