My Online BF Dumped Me Because I'm Fat :( :( :(

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  • TheWiseCat
    TheWiseCat Posts: 297
    I'm about to cook a grilled cheese sandwich, but I don't have any butter. Will a little oil on the pan work just as well?
  • red_road
    red_road Posts: 761 Member
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  • mytime1986
    mytime1986 Posts: 117
    I'm about to cook a grilled cheese sandwich, but I don't have any butter. Will a little oil on the pan work just as well?

    Yes itll work but it wont taste the same.
  • aNewYear123
    aNewYear123 Posts: 279 Member
    I'm about to cook a grilled cheese sandwich, but I don't have any butter. Will a little oil on the pan work just as well?

    I cook mine open face under the broiler. No butter or oil needed.
  • Lisa1971
    Lisa1971 Posts: 3,069 Member
    I'm about to cook a grilled cheese sandwich, but I don't have any butter. Will a little oil on the pan work just as well?

    I've heard you can also use mayo instead of the butter.
  • TheWiseCat
    TheWiseCat Posts: 297
    Peanut oil worked dandy!

    Broiler? Maybe I should try that next.
  • alisonmaloney1
    alisonmaloney1 Posts: 8
    You got a gift. Unwrap that baby and RUN THE OTHER WAY.

    couldn't have put it better!

    what a nutcase he is!
  • Stellar76
    Stellar76 Posts: 25


    Wait - he's a soldier and he weighs 250+ at 5'5"? did anyone else stop there knowing this was all a BS story?

    YES! THANK YOU. and the fact that he asked for wet wipes... What man asks for wet wipes?

    I do after I eat oily chips. I can't be having my face breaking out. Girl, don't you go starting some ratchet business 'bout a man's ability to take care of his appearance!

    Haha, fair enough but not even I ask for a wet wipe. I think a napkin would come first to my mind. :D

    Oh man this story is so stupid. She cleaned him up and gave him water to drink. Where did this water come from? Did she just happen to be running with a bottle of water? Perhaps it was in her bag but she needed to get to her bag for these wet wipes he asked for.

    Maybe I should make up fake stories so people can try make me feel better. /Sarcasm


    You know what? You could have asked me first before judging me and calling this a fake story. If you think it is fake then you can stop answering on this thread. But you are here arguing with people. THE WATER CAME FROM THE RESTAURANT BECAUSE HE THREW UP OUTSIDE THE RESTAURANT.

    I included the "wet wipes" part because I also thought it was his way to get rid of me. That if I went back inside the resto to get it, he could escape from me. Which exactly what happened. And why exactly I chased him. Because I was wondering. And until now I am wondering and that is why I AM HERE ASKING FOR NICE HELPFUL PEOPLE'S OPINION and not from judgemental people like you. If you think this story is made up then please feel free to leave. Don't waste your time arguing with people over some story you think is FAKE.

    Thanks.


    Haha, fair enough but not even I ask for a wet wipe. I think a napkin would come first to my mind. :D

    Oh man this story is so stupid. She cleaned him up and gave him water to drink. Where did this water come from? Did she just happen to be running with a bottle of water? Perhaps it was in her bag but she needed to get to her bag for these wet wipes he asked for.

    Maybe I should make up fake stories so people can try make me feel better. /Sarcasm


    You know what? You could have asked me first before judging me and calling this a fake story. If you think it is fake then you can stop answering on this thread. But you are here arguing with people. THE WATER CAME FROM THE RESTAURANT BECAUSE HE THREW UP OUTSIDE THE RESTAURANT.

    I included the "wet wipes" part because I also thought it was his way to get rid of me. That if I went back inside the resto to get it, he could escape from me. Which exactly what happened. And why exactly I chased him. Because I was wondering. And until now I am wondering and that is why I AM HERE ASKING FOR NICE HELPFUL PEOPLE'S OPINION and not from judgemental people like you. If you think this story is made up then please feel free to leave. Don't waste your time arguing with people over some story you think is FAKE.

    Thanks.

    Please direct me to my argument that I was having with people in this thread. I can't seem to find it. OH WAIT..... It's because I wasn't. If you think the wet wipe conversation was an argument.... well then ummm.... I dunno You must have lots of arguments?

    IF this whole scenario actually happened WHAT THE *kitten* ARE YOU WONDERING?!
    If you are stupid for running after him? Answer is YES
    If you are needy? Answer is Yes as well.
    Did he leave because you are over weight? Maybe- he never out right said that.

    Let me list the areas of concern here:
    He got loaded on his first date... and vomited
    He's married
    he called you a ***** and said he didn't know you
    He tried to run away from you

    Those 3 reasons alone should have brought RED FLAGS and yet you are still dwelling on this guy who is an outright lunatic.

    If this is harsh - i'm only kind of sorry because I think you should have enough sense to know that he is a guy that you must stay away from.


    I never saw this until last week when we finally saw each other. Yes, call me stupid, but I did trust this guy since he was introduced by a friend. I never caught him lying, not even once. I thought I knew him that well since we were on Skype 24/7 even when one of us was working.

    Do not judge me for trusting that guy. Everyone makes mistakes and this is my biggest mistake.
  • realme56
    realme56 Posts: 1,093 Member
    I'm about to cook a grilled cheese sandwich, but I don't have any butter. Will a little oil on the pan work just as well?

    I've heard you can also use mayo instead of the butter.

    Ick! Give me the butter!

    When I was a kid my mom made peanut butter and mayo sandwiches. Makes me want to barf but I know I ate them back then.
  • Stellar76
    Stellar76 Posts: 25
    Guys, seriously, I have been looking for answers that this guy cannot give me. I cannot tell the whole story to my family or friends cuz it's embarrassing. I am here to ask other people's opinion. There are people here who give advice that really make sense and actually make me feel better. But I noticed, the people here who actually say I made this up are the ones who have been "trolling", judging and accusing. And what's their basis? The vodka? The margarita? The wet wipes? I know it is so easy to talk to people like you're some bad*ss over the internet. But I hope if you got nothing good to say then please just keep your words to yourselves. Some people here are just so mean and obviously trying so hard to sound smart and tough. I hope at least these people feel better after they do this.
  • TheWiseCat
    TheWiseCat Posts: 297
    Guys, seriously, I have been looking for answers that this guy cannot give me. I cannot tell the whole story to my family or friends cuz it's embarrassing. I am here to ask other people's opinion. There are people here who give advice that really make sense and actually make me feel better. But I noticed, the people here who actually say I made this up are the ones who have been "trolling", judging and accusing. And what's their basis? The vodka? The margarita? The wet wipes? I know it is so easy to talk to people like you're some bad*ss over the internet. But I hope if you got nothing good to say then please just keep your words to yourselves. Some people here are just so mean and obviously trying so hard to sound smart and tough. I hope at least these people feel better after they do this.

    I just wanted to make sandwiches, not war.
    Sorry =(
  • kathyl05
    kathyl05 Posts: 67 Member
    My heart goes out to you Next time:

    2 cups tequila
    1 cup triple sec
    3/4 cup fresh lime juice
    3/4 cup sweetened lime juice
    3 cups ice
    kosher salt

    Enjoy a Margareta! We still need to know the song!
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    You should probably change your list of inspirations on your profile. :flowerforyou:
  • Guisma
    Guisma Posts: 215
    after what happend, ur conclusion was that he left u cos ur fat ? like .... serious ? ..... that was ur conclusion ?
    I dont mean to put you down , but if that was your conclusion you have alot of things to sort out
  • kathyl05
    kathyl05 Posts: 67 Member
    My heart goes out to you Next time:

    2 cups tequila
    1 cup triple sec
    3/4 cup fresh lime juice
    3/4 cup sweetened lime juice
    3 cups ice
    kosher salt

    Enjoy a Margareta! We still need to know the song!

    Sweetened lime juice? Sacrilege!:wink:
  • mytime1986
    mytime1986 Posts: 117
    You should probably change your list of inspirations on your profile. :flowerforyou:


    Yeah I agree!!!
  • dwalt15110
    dwalt15110 Posts: 246 Member
    Let me shed a little light on the wet wipes part of this. When these people are deployed to Iraq and Afghanistan, water is at a premium especially when they are out in the field. They rely on wet wipes or baby wipes to get clean. I have sent hundreds of packages of wet wipes over to units. There is nothing strange about him asking for wet wipes. This is what he became used to over the length of his deployment.

    As for the other things, you are dealing with a man who is, I believe, most likely either separated or divorced. You say that a friend introduced you. Depending upon the incidents surrounding these events, your date for the evening most likely had many personal issues coming back to play on his mind. Also, no one knows what he witnessed during that time in Afghanistan. This was not a vacation. I am wondering how long he had been back before the two of you decided to meet. It takes these people a long time to adjust to normalcy.

    All things considered, the best advice is to walk away, really run away. and not to entertain a relationship with this person. As the others have said, I didn't notice anything in your story that would lead me to believe that he rejected you because of your weight. The issues at work here are deep seeded and are going to take therapy to either resolve or even be able to live with. That being said, this is no way to start a relationship.

    What you take from this experience will define you. Remember that his actions had nothing to do with you. You were the scapegoat. Also remember that your journey to become the healthiest person you can be centers on you. There are many people here to support you in your efforts. Just make certain you are doing this for you and no one else.
  • Maidofmer
    Maidofmer Posts: 908 Member

    My brother married a girl off the internet. She tried to attack him, got arrested for assault and their divorce is pending.
    My dad married a girl off the internet. She emptied our house and bank accounts 1 year in.
    My dad got married again off the internet, she and a cop tried to frame him in an attempt to get him arrested and take over all his assets. Cop was fired and they are now divorced.

    Internet dating IS akin to death.

    Edited to add: I hate cops.

    I met my husband online. got a 3 yr old and a 4 year wedding anniversary coming up. where is death?
  • Stellar76
    Stellar76 Posts: 25
    ^^ Thank you. Yes I have been trying to really stay away from him. Even if he still sends me messages everyday, I know it's just because of his phone. I agree with you and the other people here, he must have a psychological disorder or something. Because I had not really seen anyone do something like that in public.

    Thanks again.
  • rebelate
    rebelate Posts: 218 Member
    I'm about to cook a grilled cheese sandwich, but I don't have any butter. Will a little oil on the pan work just as well?

    Because I am a glutton, and give no bothers MAYOOOOO. If you have it, put mayo on the outside of the bread instead of butter. :bigsmile: you're welcome.
  • AmbyrJayde
    AmbyrJayde Posts: 257 Member
    The problem I have is with the word "Online".

    Stick to REAL men in the REAL world.

    Umm, I met my fiance online... over two years ago, still together, living together in fact...

    But ot the main point it didn't seem he dumped you for weight, but he dumped you cause he's crazy
  • Jaylello
    Jaylello Posts: 212 Member
    5 foot 5, 260 pounds. Sending obese soldiers to Afghanistan is a great idea.
  • rebelate
    rebelate Posts: 218 Member

    www.plentyoffish.com....or it might just be pof.com.....but be prepared to have weirdos hit you up about what they want to do to you and about the size of their junk

    So true. I had a friend who kept getting requests by guys to lick her feet. Finally she agreed and drove to a gas station where the guy got in and licked her feet for like 20 minutes. She ended up thinking it was funny and did it every weekend for a few months.

    Edit: No sex. Just feet.


    I met my partner on POF! There are a TON of wack jobs on that site, most of the time it's hilarious, but also mildly uncomfortable. ANNNND, tons of men with foot fetishes! I had a feet licker once - no sex, just feet licking. It was awkward, and I was on my phone the hold time. It makes for a good story.
  • Querida0323
    Querida0323 Posts: 5
    Ok I want to clarify, crazyness aside- since you already know they can't divorce, would you have really been okay with never marrying him?? Ok on to my comments.
    1) I'm filipino too (well american-filipino, born and raised here in the US), and to be honest... he may be associating you to her. We do tend to look similar.
    2) Don't settle for someone with soooo much baggage.. I hope you don't let your heart suffer too long over someone who isn't worth the drama. Let the professionals take over.
    3) You were really nice in watching over him and tending to him to the best of your ability.
    4) He was dangerous and I'm glad you're ok overall.
    5) I'm going to be honest. One of my good friends went through something similar: He and a girl were chatting it up long distance and started their relationship online. He flew to where she was and when he arrived, she saw him and broke up with him then and there at the airport. she wasn't attracted to him physically. Lets be honest, I know this hurts, but have done many webcamming- it's not the same as seeing them in person. He may have not been really attracted to you. Plain and simple. It sucks to hear it, but it's Honesty.

    don't cry or hurt over this too long. Life's too short. Pick yourself back up, get yourself back in health and when you start Loving yourself again, the better guys start coming around. (Hugs) Stay awesome, but only to the people who deserve it.
  • pinkraynedropjacki
    pinkraynedropjacki Posts: 3,027 Member
    While I am sorry for the way your were treated, I can't see where he dumped you because of your weight. It's not right the way he acted, but I think the weight thing is all in YOUR head sorry.
  • mytime1986
    mytime1986 Posts: 117
    I am so going to that site when I get off of work.
  • pinkraynedropjacki
    pinkraynedropjacki Posts: 3,027 Member
    This part scares me a little from you OP.

    I included the "wet wipes" part because I also thought it was his way to get rid of me. That if I went back inside the resto to get it, he could escape from me. Which exactly what happened. And why exactly I chased him.


    Wait escape? Was he being held hostage by you? Sorry but if someone wants to 'escape' then I guess you can't detain them. You are scaring me a little.
  • irishblonde2011
    irishblonde2011 Posts: 618 Member
    He did not dump you because of your weight at all. Do not get sucked back in to his games. How dare he treat you like that on a first date. Do not allow anyone to make you feel worthless. Imagine how quick things would go down hill if you were in a real relationship with this man. How embarrassing to go on like that in public. Work on yourself for yourself you will meet the right person at the right time. If your not happy with your weight change it. If you are going to meet men online meet them sooner than later. Go on a date without getting wasted so you can see what type of person they really are.
  • TheWiseCat
    TheWiseCat Posts: 297

    www.plentyoffish.com....or it might just be pof.com.....but be prepared to have weirdos hit you up about what they want to do to you and about the size of their junk

    So true. I had a friend who kept getting requests by guys to lick her feet. Finally she agreed and drove to a gas station where the guy got in and licked her feet for like 20 minutes. She ended up thinking it was funny and did it every weekend for a few months.

    Edit: No sex. Just feet.


    I met my partner on POF! There are a TON of wack jobs on that site, most of the time it's hilarious, but also mildly uncomfortable. ANNNND, tons of men with foot fetishes! I had a feet licker once - no sex, just feet licking. It was awkward, and I was on my phone the hold time. It makes for a good story.

    I always asked POF members to let me lick other things besides their feet and I just got declines. =(

    Apparently people are sensitive about their armpits.
  • TehNoms
    TehNoms Posts: 86 Member
    This part scares me a little from you OP.

    I included the "wet wipes" part because I also thought it was his way to get rid of me. That if I went back inside the resto to get it, he could escape from me. Which exactly what happened. And why exactly I chased him.


    Wait escape? Was he being held hostage by you? Sorry but if someone wants to 'escape' then I guess you can't detain them. You are scaring me a little.

    This scares me more than a little.
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