It's extremely hard to eat healthy when your hubby doesn't.

I feel for you though, my super skinny husband eats cookies every night after dinner. I don't want to cut him off from cookies since he can afford the calories so we comprimise - he's only allowed to buy cookies that that I don't like and therefore aren't tempted to eat!

I do the same thing to my husband, I love chips and he wants to buy chips he has to buy Doritos, it's the only kind I don't like lol

My husband would not respond well if I told him what he is and isn't allowed to do. I'm not his mom or boss. And I'd hate for him to tell me what I am allowed to do.

He does it because he loves me. If he can have his chips and not tempt me a the same time, that's what he will do.

All of you people saying negative things like "take responsibility for your own intake" and "sounds like an excuse, just blame the husband" really need to get a life. I'm not even married, and sometimes it's hard for me not to cheat when my boyfriend always wants to. The forums aren't made for all this negativity--aren't they for SUPPORT?

I just wanted to say solidarity sister--good job on only having one pancake, and all you can do is keep making healthy decisions for you as much as possible and hope that the trickle down affects him or that he decides himself to follow suit.

BOO YOU HATERS. People are human! lol.

Thank you. These types of comments are extremely discouraging. I don't know who people think they're helping with this crap.

I feel bad for some of the husbands after reading this thread. My husband works very hard to put food on our table and to give us a good life so damn right I will gladly fix him pancakes. I am responsible for what food goes in my mouth. If I want a pancake I have a pancake and i take full responsibility for it.

Stop blaming your husband for your lack of self control!

The part about you being responsible about what goes in your husbands mouth is a bit of a stretch but other than that I agree with you. So many people are quick to be 'That son of a b***h making you cook breakfast' when I saw it more of a sweet gesture that she made breakfast and they both sat down to eat it together.

i dont think some of u understand that when youre just starting out trying to lose weight and eat right it is not easy. if i cook pancakes for my man, im an addict so i must have pancakes as well. until i slowly find my way to eating healthy then its too hard to not have one. when youre an addict u must have that drug. so dont say shes blaming the husband. its an addiction and we're supposed to be here to help her not put her down. some of u are so damn rude!

I'd say if one is at the point where they realize they'll have no control over temptation due to addiction, they should stay away from the 'fix' for a while. Which would mean don't make the pancakes, maybe even go so far as to suggest he eat them out of the house (restaurant).

I know how that is! My husband grew up on "southern comfort food" ie: fried potatoes corn bread beans fried chicken etc. and up until 2 months ago that's what I ate too and we have 4 kids who are very picky to say the least. Well, when I started this new, healthy lifestyle I still cook them their meals and make myself a healthier version OR a salad with tons of veggies and a lean meat on top (grilled/baked fish, chicken, shrimp or turkey ham ) and that's been working really well. I do have bad days everyone does, but I always try to leave a little wiggle room on my calories, so if I cook something supper yummy for them I can taste it with feeling guilty, then have my, supper yummy as well, healthier meal Its all about how bad you want it (weight loss) its 70% diet and 30% exercise.
You have to get to the point where you say fitting into those size 6 jeans is going to be so much sweeter than any pancake or cupcake or anything in between

I feel bad for some of the husbands after reading this thread. My husband works very hard to put food on our table and to give us a good life so damn right I will gladly fix him pancakes. I am responsible for what food goes in my mouth. If I want a pancake I have a pancake and i take full responsibility for it.

Stop blaming your husband for your lack of self control!

That's all ok if you have agreed that role while your husband works. I think a lot of the posters work just as hard as their spouses outside of the home so it's not their job to take all the responsibility for cooking as well. I think quite rightly a few people are questioning a husband's right to demand the wife does the cooking.

To me, those roles are a personal decision. I will be the cook for us, he can barely turn on the stove. However, he is willing to do other household tasks I don't like very much, like laundry. It's not that I'm his slave and must cook for him, it's just how we've deciding to do things.

My husband does not eat healthy at all and has been less than supportive of what I am doing, however... The bottom line is this YOU and only YOU are accountable for what you put in your body. I make breakfast usually 3 times every day. (My kids get up at different times for school) I am almost always making pancakes or waffles or toast and frying eggs and bacon. If i feel like eating it... I do. If I feel like its not worth it that day... I don't. But I certainly never blame my kids for wanting those things for breakfast. The first thing I had to learn was accountability. I always had an excuse... I had 2 babies in 1 year(not twins 11 months apart both c-sections and mind you this was 5/6 years ago) How can I be expected to exercise?? I am too busy, its too hard, I don't have the stamina or willpower.... blah blah blah. Well guess what? It is way harder to be fat! I hate every day of it!! I want to go up in the play place at mcdonalds and get my kids if they get hurt.... I want to run around at the park with them, I want to play soccer with them, I want to ride bikes with them! I want to buy clothes that don't look like I am trying to hide something (because I am) I want to buy a Medium shirt... So since I want want want... I work work work my *kitten* off. I have lost 27 lbs and am no where near done, but it is MY RESPONSIBILITY and no one elses what I do with this body ive been given... It is a gift and I have started treating it as such.

My husband would not respond well if I told him what he is and isn't allowed to do. I'm not his mom or boss. And I'd hate for him to tell me what I am allowed to do.

He does it because he loves me. If he can have his chips and not tempt me a the same time, that's what he will do.

That is much different than saying what your husband is "allowed" to do. I incorrectly took yours words as literal. Sorry.

i dont think some of u understand that when youre just starting out trying to lose weight and eat right it is not easy. if i cook pancakes for my man, im an addict so i must have pancakes as well. until i slowly find my way to eating healthy then its too hard to not have one. when youre an addict u must have that drug. so dont say shes blaming the husband. its an addiction and we're supposed to be here to help her not put her down. some of u are so damn rude!

Actually, I'm pretty sure we all understand. We all started on this journey at some point. We're all just giving our own opinions and helping the OP think outside the box. I remember when it was hard to resist stuff like that. Now I can usually say, no, it's not worth it to me, it doesn't fit my goals, my goals are more important. And sometimes I'll say, I'm going to have that ice cream (my addiction), not regret it, and move on. I'm not perfect, my diet will never be 100% perfect, but I'm accepting that. It's totally a mindset shift. But sometimes it takes some tough love to help others help themselves. If it's important, you'll find a way to reach your goals, no excuses. I think that's what most people are trying to say - take responsibility for yourself, don't make excuses. Yes, it's hard, but if it were easy, everyone would be at their goal.

i dont think some of u understand that when youre just starting out trying to lose weight and eat right it is not easy. if i cook pancakes for my man, im an addict so i must have pancakes as well. until i slowly find my way to eating healthy then its too hard to not have one. when youre an addict u must have that drug. so dont say shes blaming the husband. its an addiction and we're supposed to be here to help her not put her down. some of u are so damn rude!

Actually, I'm pretty sure we all understand. We all started on this journey at some point. We're all just giving our own opinions and helping the OP think outside the box. I remember when it was hard to resist stuff like that. Now I can usually say, no, it's not worth it to me, it doesn't fit my goals, my goals are more important. And sometimes I'll say, I'm going to have that ice cream (my addiction), not regret it, and move on. I'm not perfect, my diet will never be 100% perfect, but I'm accepting that. It's totally a mindset shift. But sometimes it takes some tough love to help others help themselves. If it's important, you'll find a way to reach your goals, no excuses. I think that's what most people are trying to say - take responsibility for yourself, don't make excuses. Yes, it's hard, but if it were easy, everyone would be at their goal.

Well said, I totally agree.

I also struggled with this, but have made it better by only cooking food that I can eat. So, if I can fit pancakes into my day, I will make them. If I can't, then they can make them themselves or eat whatever I am making. Also, we keep a huge stash of granola bars for just this issue.

My husband and two kids love to eat all the things I can't, and that's fine.....to an extent. :P

My husband loves to bring snacks to bed. Popcorn, ice cream, a cupcake...etc. He's always been athletic though and is on his feet all day so he never seems to gain a pound. However, I've made him start eating his late night snacks in the living room away from me, instead of bringing it in the bedroom. Heh.

I've started sneaking healthy ingredients into things I normally make, and he hasn't noticed yet. We're kind of staying away from eating out right now, until there's another special occasion that comes up. I just can't control myself when I smell all that food!

My little rant. Take this morning for instance. I usually have a green smoothie for breakfast, but hubby wants buttermilk pancakes, so I'm cooking pancakes. I can't fix pancakes and not eat one, it's just too hard. I don't have that kind of will power, at least not yet. So oh well, all I know is I'll just have to try to eat good the rest of the day. I'll have my smoothie & hard boiled egg for lunch and fix chicken breast for dinner. Food is the toughest thing for me to deal with, especially when hubby is always eating bad stuff in front of me or having me fix it.

My hubby eats whatever he wants. I eat what I should. I say "no, thanks" and he respects that. He does a lot of the cooking, especially breakfast, and he just gives me less than what he eats.

He is not forcing things down your throat, so it's important you develop a stronger will power and say NO and stick to it.

Sorry to be harsh, but that's really what needs to happen - you are ultimately responsible for what YOU put in YOUR mouth, not what you serve HIM.

For starters, there is nothing super unhealthy about a pancake, especailly if you only ate one - if you want a pancake, have a pancake - I know there are different schools of thought on here about clean eating and an all-or-nothing mentality but for most of us, that's super unrealistic! if a pancake fits into your plan and you really want it then have the damned thing!

Of course your other option is if your husband wants pancakes and you don't want to be tempted tell him to make his own pancakes or find himself a diner - you're his wife, not a short order cook!

I feel for you though, my super skinny husband eats cookies every night after dinner. I don't want to cut him off from cookies since he can afford the calories so we comprimise - he's only allowed to buy cookies that that I don't like and therefore aren't tempted to eat!

i agree with this is you want a pancake eat your pancake! Lucky my can eat everything normal weight boyfriend is very considerent and does not buy candy anymore and eat my healthy cooking with joy or this would be so much harder for me. In the evening i am usually making him extra portion of carbs (i am insulin resistend and on low carb diet from dr) after 3 months they dont even tempt me anymore

I feel bad for some of the husbands after reading this thread. My husband works very hard to put food on our table and to give us a good life so damn right I will gladly fix him pancakes. I am responsible for what food goes in my mouth. If I want a pancake I have a pancake and i take full responsibility for it.

Stop blaming your husband for your lack of self control!

That's all ok if you have agreed that role while your husband works. I think a lot of the posters work just as hard as their spouses outside of the home so it's not their job to take all the responsibility for cooking as well. I think quite rightly a few people are questioning a husband's right to demand the wife does the cooking.

I work two jobs myself (neither of which are sedentary). I just feel bad that women today treat there husbands the way they do. No wonder divorce is so common. Not saying that the man is always innocent it just seems that women want to rant and rave any time their husband doesn't act exactly like they want, and don't get me started on women trying to change men.