It's extremely hard to eat healthy when your hubby doesn't.

Yes, I am in awe of what my husband can eat but he works a physical job and is normally thin so I can't eat what he eats. Over the years he is eating healthier because of me but it hasn't made a big difference in our lives. I would really encourage you to get foods that both of you can eat and he will just eat more. Just a thought.

I have the same problem at my house!

My SO and my son are always getting junk food, eating hot dogs, brownies, cakes, chips and so many more items that I don't want to eat. He went to the store a few days ago and got absolutely nothing that I wanted to eat.

Last night I went to the store with him and I picked out a lot of good food, turkey bacon, eggs, grapes, bananas, salad, spinach, avocado's, onions, tomatoes, just to name a few. He said that all of that stuff cost way too much money. I looked at him and said "Do you want me to stay fat for the rest of my life?" He said no, but that the healthy foods cost too much.

I eat breakfast after he leaves for work so that and lunch are easy ones as long as I have the food I need in the house. Dinner is a chore for me too, as he always wants potatoes, rice, rolls, bread, butter and full on flour tortilla's. Sometimes I eat about a 1/4 of a cup of something if I really want it, if not I just skip it and eat something healthier.

Good Luck to you, it does get easier.

I just want to say if you are drinking green smoothie & eating a hard boiled egg for lunch then it's no wonder you want what hubby is having. I prefer to eat real food just less of it. If you eat a pancake - Enjoy it - log it & move on. You could also make extra & freeze them so hubby can have it when you don't feel like cooking.

I think of this as a way of life & if I am depriving myself & not enjoying what I'm eating then I'm not living. So I will have what everyone else is having but less of it Good Luck

Have you tried sipping your smoothie while cooking the pancake?

Or moving him over to buckwheat pancakes with fruit rather than a standard box mix or white flour homemade version (if that is what you are using?)

I slowly started cooking with cleaner ingredients to get my husband used to them and now he can't even eat the other stuff.

Buckwheat pancakes are so delicious! Now you have me craving them! MMMMM....

All of you people saying negative things like "take responsibility for your own intake" and "sounds like an excuse, just blame the husband" really need to get a life. I'm not even married, and sometimes it's hard for me not to cheat when my boyfriend always wants to. The forums aren't made for all this negativity--aren't they for SUPPORT?

I just wanted to say solidarity sister--good job on only having one pancake, and all you can do is keep making healthy decisions for you as much as possible and hope that the trickle down affects him or that he decides himself to follow suit.

BOO YOU HATERS. People are human! lol.

Everything I have so far is not people being "haters" or being "negative. It is the truth even if it's hard.

ugh. people on here are so grossly judgmental. We don't know the dynamics of her family. I love everyone preaching that she is "not a short order cook"... but what if that is the family dynamic ("traditional" gender roles) that works for them? My husband and I have adopted traditional gender roles because it's what suits our particular set of values, and I get a great deal of satisfaction out of cooking meals for him that he enjoys. (FWIW, I'm also a successful professional who averages 11 hour work days, so a prime example that there are modern women out there who still enjoy traditional roles at home)

ANYWAY...

I do agree that OP has to be accountable for her own actions, but she acknowledges that. I know how hard willpower can be when my husband has a pig out session, or even just generally scoops up larger portions than I can have (but that I seriously want!). I would suggest working towards healthier recipes of the things he loves. I make these pancakes and use SF syrup, and we love them: http://allrecipes.com/recipe/whole-wheat-blueberry-pancakes/ (add cinnamon & vanilla). Or, would your husband be agreeable to making pancakes a weekend only treat? Also, make silver dollar size instead of average size pancake. He can still eat as much as he wants, but you can still have 1 without feeling as guilty.

My guy likes eggs and meat for breakfast, so we've switched to egg whites and turkey sausage. Sometimes with a whole wheat english muffin.

I know it can be hard to shift the eating mentality of others, but if your husband is willing to work with you it will benefit you both in the long run.

First of all, thank you so much for all your replies. If I follow my plan for today, I should still be calorie deficient. I don't want to say I can't have something and deprive myself, that's just setting myself up for failure realistically. And yes, somethings can be fixed healthier, but I have yet to ever taste anything healthier that tasted as good as the original. I know I should have more will power and probably in a little more time I will, but right now I am still new to this and it's not like I'm eating pancakes every day. I do have some will power, but it's a work in progress. Plus, I deal with other personal issues in my life that make all this harder for me than the average person. I'm not looking to drop 100 pounds, probably 40 at the most, but at least 25-30. I am going to try to do the best that I can do, but I'm not going to make myself miserable either. Small changes as I go. And yes, I don't think one small pancake one day is gonna kill me. Again, thank you for all your comments, I really appreciate them!

My tastes started to change and the healthy versions actually do taste better to me. You may feel that way too some day!

Good luck!

This is one of the big reasons why I had to move out of my parents' home and into my own apartment.

No one at home eats healthily and there's junk food all over the place. My siblings are also very big on buying takeout and sodas and stuff like that.
They don't care about healthy stuff or have any real respect for my weight loss. When I'm peacefully trying to eat my salad and drink my water, they're waving cookies and candies in my face, talking about "just have one just have one, no one ever got fat from one cookie or one candy or one hamburger."
But for me, one turns into two because it tastes so good, and then I have one more because it couldn't hurt and I hate odd numbers so let me just have one more and before I know it, I've overdone it.
I know that I can't control myself so I really can't be surrounded by things that don't fit into my plan day in and day out. Once in a while is okay, but I can't keep them in the house. I just don't have that kind of willpower, and I don't think I will ever form it. To me, there's nothing wrong with that, as long as you figure out how to work around it.

Moving is obviously not an option for OP, but I guess I'm just saying that I understand and feel for her.
I guess my advice would be to make yourself a small pancake. Whole grain if you can.
Then eat it nice and slowly, and savor every bite as much as possible. Then move on with your day. It won't derail you, you can have your pancake, he can have his, and everyone will be happy.

And yes, somethings can be fixed healthier, but I have yet to ever taste anything healthier that tasted as good as the original.

Then you need to get better recipes.

I've tasted plenty of things that were just as good as (sometimes better than) the originals. It sounds like you're still at the beginning of this journey, and that's fine - we all have to start at step 1 and work our way up. However, if you're ready to commit to this for good, then learn to experiment with healthier options, try new things, and seek out new ways of eating. Be proactive in what you want. It won't all work out, but that's the point in trying new things - you'll find what works for you. However, walking in with the assumption that you'll never have something as good as the junky version you're used to is just setting yourself up for failure. Keep trying. You may be surprised what you'll find. The longer I cook for myself and try other options, the less the old ones appeal to me. After all, plain old pancakes get awfully boring once you've tried coconut flour lemon poppy pancakes or almond meal pancakes or, even better, almond meal WAFFLES. With fresh strawberry sauce. Holy crap. Why would I ever go back to boring old white flour pancakes with crappy fake pancake syrup?

(By the way, a pancake or two isn't that high in calories anyway, if you keep the syrup in check. For me, the problem is more that I can eat a thousand calories worth of pancakes and be hungry again an hour later because there's nothing in them but sugar, and it does nothing to actually fill me up in any sort of long term sense. Therefore, even though the pancakes themselves might be fine, I eat more calories that day because I end up ravenously hungry way too soon. They're basically just wasted calories for me. The recipes I've found to replace them don't necessarily have less calories per pancake, they just have more staying power so I don't need to eat again so soon. And probably a little bit more nutritional value.)

You can do this. Ask your husband for support. Tell him you need to cut back on the pancakes for a while, and maybe try a few alternative options. My husband was skeptical at first of my "experiments," but we've had enough of them be successful that now he gets excited when I'm trying something new. I think we eat way better now than we ever did before when I was just cooking the same old conventional crap.

And, yeah, if he doesn't like what you're cooking, he can make himself a bowl of cereal. There is a point where you have to draw the line. In my experience, when offered that alternative, the husbands tend to jump on board anyway.

Offer to make your husband whatever you are making for yourself, a green smoothie....if he doesn't want that, he's on his own. You aren't a make-to-order cook!

I guess im old fashion i think u should make the breakfast ur husband wants. You just have to learn that temptation will always be around. And if u do want one pancake just have it. Better than gorging on them later.

First of all, thank you so much for all your replies. If I follow my plan for today, I should still be calorie deficient. I don't want to say I can't have something and deprive myself, that's just setting myself up for failure realistically. And yes, somethings can be fixed healthier, but I have yet to ever taste anything healthier that tasted as good as the original. I know I should have more will power and probably in a little more time I will, but right now I am still new to this and it's not like I'm eating pancakes every day. I do have some will power, but it's a work in progress. Plus, I deal with other personal issues in my life that make all this harder for me than the average person. I'm not looking to drop 100 pounds, probably 40 at the most, but at least 25-30. I am going to try to do the best that I can do, but I'm not going to make myself miserable either. Small changes as I go. And yes, I don't think one small pancake one day is gonna kill me. Again, thank you for all your comments, I really appreciate them!

I really like these. I make them with non-fat greek yogurt and usually have to add either a splash of milk or water to thin the batter since it's super thick, but they are so tasty...

http://www.everydaybelle.com/2011/06/greek-yogurt-pancakes/

All of you people saying negative things like "take responsibility for your own intake" and "sounds like an excuse, just blame the husband" really need to get a life. I'm not even married, and sometimes it's hard for me not to cheat when my boyfriend always wants to. The forums aren't made for all this negativity--aren't they for SUPPORT?

I just wanted to say solidarity sister--good job on only having one pancake, and all you can do is keep making healthy decisions for you as much as possible and hope that the trickle down affects him or that he decides himself to follow suit.

BOO YOU HATERS. People are human! lol.

It's not negativity. It's tough love. Some people need to be told that they are looking at things wrong. Blaming the husband is the wrong outlook. She needs to look inward and find her will power and motivation, especially since she feels she has to cook her husband a separate meal for breakfast.

THIS. It's doable, people.

It is hard but you just have to work through it. I do the majority of the cooking for my family, but lucky for me when I ask what he wants for dinner his answer is "food". So he and the kids eat what I eat. My struggle is he eats cookies every night. He eats 1/2 a package every night. I keep strong though but if I want a cookie I eat a cookie. I just move to the other sofa so I am less tempted.

Same with my mum. Worst thing is, I work in a cafe and she comes and gets lunch off me that I make for her.
Like a full toasted chicken focaccia with double cheese (real) and aoili. Along with a fresh muffin (we make them ourselves) that I made. Then I carry it in the car on the way home and munch on my salad while inhaling aoili. Sigh. Yea it sucks, but we gotta do what we gotta do... And also she is obese, so it's kind of off putting when I remember that.