boyfriend trouble. help a girl out?

Run away. Find someone that treats you with respect and gives a damn about how you feel.

To OP: Sounds like a numpty, move on.

Now I'm not a particularly jealous girlfriend, but he really pushes it. When he mentions a friend, it has to be "my really hot friend" or "this girl who I can't believe doesn't think she's pretty" or "she's pretty much the fittest girl here". He's already admitted to flirting with other girls but justifies it as being ok because "it's only a joke". He also told me about how he dream cheated on me "once with two girls at once lol".

It's called grooming behavior. He is trying to get you in bed with other women. He is trying to both set the stage and illicit a response from you to open that door.

Move on.

This was my first thought too!
but as others have said, maybe he is really immature and insecure, might be doing this to provoke a reaction from you.
Some people think making you jealous is cute...:noway:

In any case, have you brought this up with him and told him it bothers you? (ah just read, update to come)

You are a beautiful, young lady..you deserve somebody who will love and respect you!!

OP, if he makes you feel this bad about yourself, find someone who fills you with confidence about all your good qualities instead. Don't waste more of your time thinking there's anything you can do about this guy. Forget him and find someone that calls YOU hot all the time instead of his girl friends.

Drop him like a hot potato. He has no respect for you and will cheat on you.

I think you should find someone who is a man instead of a douchecanoe.

This!

And I am glad that I am not the only one that says douchecanoe!!

You do not sound insecure and I can't think of anyone that I know who would tolerate that behavior. You absolutely CAN call him out and you should. I'm not one who thinks you can change a person so I would move on, but you can always talk to him about how you feel if you want to give him a shot to make some changes.

I think you should find someone who is a man instead of a douchecanoe.

:drinker:

Brilliant, no more need be said.

No he does not have to tell you when he thinks another woman is "hot". It is disrespectful, and in my opinion, a way to slowly diminish your self esteem. If you love him and he loves you, ask him why he feels the need to tell you these things.

If the answer seems genuine to you, stick with it. If the answer is "what is your problem, are your jealous, insecure, etc?" that tells you what he is about. At that point it's your choice to stay with him.

Remember though, you cannot complain about what you permit. Respect each other and be happy or decide not to block your blessings and move him aside for a man who will talk about how hot you are.

^^^ THIS! all of this! exactly this!

I agree with some of the posters who suggested that we really may need more context about your guy. My husband and I are ridiculously happy together, and neither one of us are the jealous type. We are constantly talking about the hot woman he saw, or the hot guy I saw... we'll point them out to each other and see what we think. Now, unlike what it sounds like in your situation, it's something that we are both comfortable with, and sometimes we even use what we've learned about each others' likes and dislikes and men and women we've found hot to fuel fantasies or dirty talk to keep our sex life exciting. But the key is that it has to be something that you talk about together - unless you tell him how you feel about it, he won't necessarily know that it bothers you. Maybe he really thinks that you are hotter that the woman he's looking at, but doesn't realize that he needs to reinforce that idea with you. Maybe he's actually insecure and is trying to get a rise out of you to reinforce the fact that you are still attracted to him...

Anyway, the best course of action is to talk to him. If he really seems insensitive to the fact that it bothers you, or can't understand your point of view, or if he's not willing to change his behavior, then it's time to move on. But if he's responsive to your request for him to stop his behavior, then he's a keeper!

I look forward to hearing your update!

With guys like this out there how the hell am I single?

I was actually thinking he was trying to lower your self-esteem so that if he were to cheat on you could be like "there's tons of other girls that are better than you and your lucky to be with me" or some stupid crap like that.


Either way hope that you find happiness, your significant other should never make you feel anything less than amazingly special.

You don't sound insecure, he sounds like a disrespectful douchenozzle, move on!

trust your gut

Drop him like a hot potato. He has no respect for you and will cheat on you.

I knew a hot potato once. He was cocky, arrogant, and completely full of himself.


Then he realized no one could touch him. Not more than a second at least.


When that realization hit he grew desperate and lonely. He tried to find comfort in the arms of other people rather than looking inward at himself. He turned to drugs, alcohol, food, you name it. Nothing could fill the void.

This is how his story ended . . . .