Worst Wedding You've Ever Attended
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my sister did that. nobody, literally NOBODY could afford to go. they got married alone.
We said screw it. We are getting married on a beach in the Bahamas while on a cruise and we will invite everyone. This way the people who come will be the people who really want to be there for us. We are going to upset some people who want to be there but won't be able to go but if they really do love us, they will be happy for us and won't judge us for it. Our guest list is going to be a fraction of what it would be with a traditional wedding and the cost per person is much much less so we won't have to go into debt to do it this way.
No flames here. Lost of people choose destination weddings.
Destination weddings are boss. Just went to one on the Big Island. Everyone danced barefoot on the beach, a pig was roasted, cocktails were plentiful. It was breathtakingly beautiful. The next morning, everyone went out together for the day to tour the island, eat, drink, and celebrate. Rinse/repeat for the entire weekend. It was very memorable, and it didn't break the bank for the bride and groom.0 -
Tacky, money-seeking "games" will leave a bad taste in a guest's mouth.
"Goldfish insurance" had to be the worst thing I've ever seen. I went to an engagement party/fundraiser with my sister. In addition to a silent auction and various paid dances, the tackiest element was something called "goldfish insurance". Someone brought a bowl full of live goldfish, and they would periodically draw a guest's name out of a hat. The "winner" had to pay for the priviledge of NOT swallowing a goldfish. If they refused, other guests were expected to cough up to buy the fish a reprieve.
That's offensive for so many reasons.
These next two stories aren't about money-grabbing, but they might help you avoid some painful moments.
My mom and I attended a friend's bridal shower when I was about 12. Nobody told my poor Mom that they had, ahem, "hired help" for entertainment.
We attended a farm wedding when I was little. The only thing I remember about it was the all-night mosquito attack. :explode: :mad:
WHAT! Goldfish! People these days have these things called "stag/doe" parties which apparently are like fundraisers for the bride and groom...you pay a cover to go to the party and you drop a ton of cash at the party to win prizes but it's basically a fundraiser for the wedding...how sick and tacky. I refuse to have the dollar dance as well...There's no way in hell I'm begging people for money in any form...0 -
We said screw it. We are getting married on a beach in the Bahamas while on a cruise and we will invite everyone. This way the people who come will be the people who really want to be there for us. We are going to upset some people who want to be there but won't be able to go but if they really do love us, they will be happy for us and won't judge us for it. Our guest list is going to be a fraction of what it would be with a traditional wedding and the cost per person is much much less so we won't have to go into debt to do it this way.
No flames here. Lost of people choose destination weddings.
Destination weddings are boss. Just went to one on the Big Island. Everyone danced barefoot on the beach, a pig was roasted, cocktails were plentiful. It was breathtakingly beautiful. The next morning, everyone went out together for the day to tour the island, eat, drink, and celebrate. Rinse/repeat for the entire weekend. It was very memorable, and it didn't break the bank for the bride and groom.
Hell yea. I would do it, but we really want to be surround by all of our loved ones and if we did a destination wedding, the majority of them couldn't come....and if my dad couldn't make it to walk me down the aisle, it would be absolutely heartbreaking for me. I think destination weddings are bad *kitten* for sure! I'd get married in Europe somewhere.0 -
I'm astonished at how many of these aren't about breaches of etiquette on the part of the bride, but actually rude and ungrateful guests.
You're not at the wedding to be feted to your standards; you're there to celebrate a union between two people.
I find them quite useful actually. When/if I get married, I can consider these things and decide how much they matter to me. I'm sure that you never have a critical thought or any preferences, but I like reading these things. I don't want it to be just me and my hubby celebrating, I want everyone celebrating with us- which is why we have a wedding instead of just eloping. I would hate it if all of my guest were just politely smiling through my celebration just to make ME feel better about myself.0 -
this thread just serves to convince me that i should never get married.
it's a huge amount of money to feed & entertain a bunch of people who will spend more time complaining about the food & booze, being catty about the dress & music, and ticking off every faux pas they see than they will actually celebrating my union.
the whole thing is just one big old ball of ugly.
You are in control (provided you're paying for it). Do exactly as little or as much as you want
If there's love between the 2 of you and your guests love and care about you,
the details won't matter0 -
My own. My dad had a stroke the night before the wedding and no one knew until he showed up to walk me down the aisle. Everyone wanted him to go to the hospital, but he insisted that he walk me down the aisle no matter what. He could barely walk and when they said "who gives this woman?" he couldn't answer. I squeezed his hand and he yelled "I KNOW!" As soon as he gave me away, my aunts took him to the ER.
I had 125 guests at my reception, most from out of state and some from out of the country. I spent part of the time trying to make the rounds and tell everyone hello and part of the time trying to get a status update on my dad. Instead of going to my honeymoon hotel room, I spent it in the hospital in my wedding gown because I had no other clothes to change into.
BTW, my dad recovered fully from the stroke. I know....it was a bad day for my dad and I'm lucky he came through with no lasting effects. But, it certainly did ruin the wedding.0 -
Worst part I find in weddings.. standing around waiting for the endless number of photographs to be taken. It's the worst for those who are not in the photographs, or only in very few as not part of the bridal party.
Another dislike of the weddings is the seating plans! I hate being put with people I don't know as the bridal party think it is good to mix people to get to know new people, all that happens is people are polite during dinner and as soon as it is over and the evening part happens, everyone moves chairs to sit by who they want to. (maybe I'm just unsociable though :P )
Other dislikes, I could probably go on forever...
overly long speeches
speeches that try too hard to be funny
having to do the whole line of kisses/hand shakes/congrats to the whole bridal party on entry to venue
bad food (I don't understand how it is sometimes really bad when usually the bride/groom will have sampled it first and made the selection)
long waits between anything happening when there is no entertainment or anything going on to occupy the time
too many children (this is obviously just a personal preference but I don't like too many children to be at a wedding unless bride/grooms children)
choreographed dances (another personal thing, I just dislike them, the whole start slow then break into some weird rehearsed dance, I don't get it )
So, there is my list, as you can tell, I am obviously a crank when it comes to weddings
A Kindred Spirit!!!!0 -
every wedding that ended in divorce.
in my circle of family and friends we don't really care or mind the "rules" on a proper wedding - what ever the couple can afford (bar or not - good food or not - good band or not) is great and very appreciated.
it is always heart breaking when a loving couple who took vows before family, friends, and god (if you believe) ends in divorce - this is by far the worst wedding failure.0 -
If I had it to do again, I'd do a breakfast wedding with an open BARista.
Patries, Bacon, fresh fruits and a Waffle/Omelette Chef preparing them fresh.
Wedding ceremony of less than 10 minutes (no hour break for photos - do them the night before!!), reception after of not more than about an hour, then off to the airport for a noon flight to a beach somewhere.
After the bride and groom leave, the party could continue for lunch for family and close friends that came from out of town and that just want to spend time together talking and catching up instead of yelling over DJ driven music that no one really wants to hear anyway.
That would be a wedding everyone would remember as truly unique and classy.0 -
My own. My dad had a stroke the night before the wedding and no one knew until he showed up to walk me down the aisle. Everyone wanted him to go to the hospital, but he insisted that he walk me down the aisle no matter what. He could barely walk and when they said "who gives this woman?" he couldn't answer. I squeezed his hand and he yelled "I KNOW!" As soon as he gave me away, my aunts took him to the ER.
I had 125 guests at my reception, most from out of state and some from out of the country. I spent part of the time trying to make the rounds and tell everyone hello and part of the time trying to get a status update on my dad. Instead of going to my honeymoon hotel room, I spent it in the hospital in my wedding gown because I had no other clothes to change into.
BTW, my dad recovered fully from the stroke. I know....it was a bad day for my dad and I'm lucky he came through with no lasting effects. But, it certainly did ruin the wedding.
That's terrible
This one takes the cake for me...seriously. I'm the biggest daddy's girl... I am so glad your dad recovered though. 0 -
If I had it to do again, I'd do a breakfast wedding with an open BARista.
Patries, Bacon, fresh fruits and a Waffle/Omelette Chef preparing them fresh.
Wedding ceremony of less than 10 minutes (no hour break for photos - do them the night before!!), reception after of not more than about an hour, then off to the airport for a noon flight to a beach somewhere.
After the bride and groom leave, the party could continue for lunch for family and close friends that came from out of town and that just want to spend time together talking and catching up instead of yelling over DJ driven music that no one really wants to hear anyway.
That would be a wedding everyone would remember as truly unique and classy.
Breakfast/brunch weddings seem to be a neat idea....I would be totally into it, but I am not a morning person and my fiancé loves booze...haha. I love bacon!!!0 -
wow... your dad must love you to the moon and back.My own. My dad had a stroke the night before the wedding and no one knew until he showed up to walk me down the aisle. Everyone wanted him to go to the hospital, but he insisted that he walk me down the aisle no matter what. He could barely walk and when they said "who gives this woman?" he couldn't answer. I squeezed his hand and he yelled "I KNOW!" As soon as he gave me away, my aunts took him to the ER.
I had 125 guests at my reception, most from out of state and some from out of the country. I spent part of the time trying to make the rounds and tell everyone hello and part of the time trying to get a status update on my dad. Instead of going to my honeymoon hotel room, I spent it in the hospital in my wedding gown because I had no other clothes to change into.
BTW, my dad recovered fully from the stroke. I know....it was a bad day for my dad and I'm lucky he came through with no lasting effects. But, it certainly did ruin the wedding.
he got you down the aisle and he made a full recovery, too?
that's not anyone's dream wedding but it certainly was a day of miracles.0 -
That is true...she got to marry her best friend, and her dad made a full recovery!0
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It will probably be the one that we will be attending in July this year....
My fiance and I are both atheists and the wedding that we will be attending is a catholic wedding..I cant wait :laugh:0 -
Mine.
Married the wrong man, realised it at the reception.
I think as long as you have that part covered, you should be ok.
This.
And I did it again.. I dont learn.
By the way.. the bar wasnt the issue. We rented out a whole lounge and got married there. :drinker:0 -
This is why I hate weddings so very much.
Some people just use it as an opportunity to judge and critique people they're supposed to care about. Never once was it mentioned about how happy the couple looked, or that it was a beautiful thing to see them starting their lives together.
Nope. Just cash bar, value of present, quality of food, even criticizing them for playing the kind of music they wanted at the dance. Oh the nerve of them...
If this is proper etiquette you can keep it. I don't care if my friends have a wedding in their backyard and make it BYOB. I'm there to see them get married and celebrate their love and lives together. Not to be catered to for gracing them with my presence.
You left your "friends" wedding in the middle of it because you didn't approve of her choice of songs. I think she did the right thing ending the relationship.
Well said.
All the weddings I've been to were cash bars (or just bars, as they're known in the UK). But as others have said that is totally normal here. Catering company's would not routinely offer all inclusive bars and if they did the costs would be astronomical. Usually the provided drinks are a welcome drink, champagne toast and a couple of bottles of wine on each table.
If someone I care about wants me to share their day with them then I will be there. If the food, drinks, music, timings, speeches, etc are not to my liking then that's my problem and not something to hold against the couple as its their day and they've planned it to their likings.
A dear friend has asked me to be her bridesmaid next year. They don't have much money and are desperately trying to save up for their first home. To me this is more important than spending a fortune on a lavish day tht would get them in debt. I am happy to buy my dress as it's for me to be there for her and I know she'd do the same for me if ever needed.0 -
Years and Years ago...the wedded couple were opening the cards in search of cash to pay the DJ. :noway:
At the same wedding I caught the bouquet and a 10 or 12 year old boy caught the garder....once again :noway: Don't let children participate in such festivities!!!0 -
Years and Years ago...the wedded couple were opening the cards in search of cash to pay the DJ. :noway:
At the same wedding I caught the bouquet and a 10 or 12 year old boy caught the garder....once again :noway: Don't let children participate in such festivities!!!
Oh gross.0 -
Attended a wedding where the groom was a recent widower...his painted old lady bride was determined to get her hooks into him ASAP and she didn't waste any time. Poor old "Squeak" was practically dragged down the aisle.
His dearly departed wife was named Lucille and she was a hoarder, albeit a neat one. She had everything from fancy clothing to exquisite serving dishes and the tacky new bride made use of everything she could. Rather shocking to see her marry Squeak wearing one of Lucille's gowns and to see the wedding table set with Lucille's china.
We, the guests, were all quite appalled by the spectacle.
When it came time for the bride and groom to dance their first dance as a married couple, the brown goo hit the fan! You see, Squeak's grandsons approached the deejay and asked him to play "the couple's favorite song" for the wedding dance.
The newlyweds took to the floor and the music began to play a song by Kenny Rogers. The song?
"You Picked a Fine Time to Leave Me, Lucille." :bigsmile:
It was the highlight of the entire wedding debacle. Throughout the venue, snorts of laughter could be heard and Squeak was one of the loudest gigglers.
The worst wedding? Well, maybe the tackiest. The new Mrs. Squeak was a wretched old woman and ended up making Squeak's life miserable, cutting him off from family and friends.
Poor Squeak passed away not long after the wedding and there was definitely a suspicion of foul play.0 -
.... the groom never showed up :grumble:
How horrible is it that I would love to be at a wedding where someone gets left at the alter. I know that has got to be a terrible feeling but that is the twisted brain I have...
ETA: okay, maybe not someone I love. Maybe if I'm a plus one sometime. It's like when you HAVE to look at a car accident or watching the blooper reels.0 -
The groom not showing up is just sad...0
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Never been to one....other than my own and there was nothing bad about it.0
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My (our) wedding was really nice. We paid less than $8000 for a 150 guest wedding at the cathedral and a nice sit down dinner at a Victorian mansion which doubled as an event center. We had a horticulture student / friend do up our flowers, another friend took the pictures, my MIL helped me bake all the cakes (we had a German dessert table instead of a tiered cake) and we worked to keep the costs down for the invites, programs, center pieces and dresses. We did pay for 2 kegs of beer, the wine and the champagne toast. We got married in September - it was a good decision considering the Iowa summers - who would get married during an Iowa summer?!?
My sister got married in Vegas and it was awesome!! It was at the Rio Hotel. The chapel was beautiful, the ceremony was lovely, and they saved enough money on the wedding that they flew out all their immediate family and paid for the hotel rooms to boot.
My cousin had his reception at the county fair ground - best wedding reception ever! Great food, big dance floor, good band and 17 kegs. It was epic.0 -
I went to one where some of my boyfriend's friends was getting married.
The wedding was ok, but the reception was awful.
They had it in a big concrete civic center. There was no food, nothing to drink (not even if you were willing to pay), the tables and chairs were hard wood and they were going around asking people to donate money into a cup to help pay for the wedding. Oh and you could dance with the bride for 1.00$.
Unbelievable.0 -
So, I am planning my wedding and have been researching proper wedding etiquette like a hawk.
Tell me the worst wedding you've ever attended and why.
I'll start...
I went to my "friend's" wedding last summer, in which she had several etiquette breaches, starting with the invitations. I, fortunately, was invited to the entire wedding- ceremony, reception, and dance....my cousin, a mutual friend, was invited to just the dance part...(rolls eyes)
I also had a long term boyfriend and he was not listed on the invitation, which I thought must have been a mistake, so I called and asked if I could bring him- which she said was fine....but 2 weeks before the wedding, she told me not to.
Well, I showed up at the wedding...the ceremony was nice...but afterwards we had to wait almost THREE HOURS to eat! and it was a CASH BAR! I didn't bring any money to the wedding, so I couldn't drink anything...huge bummer...
And then the food was horrendous...the chicken was so dry that I didn't even finish it- which is a big deal for me because I am a pig and will eat anything set in front of me...
And then the dance started and all they played was theme songs to Star Wars, Ghost Busters, and Star Trek....
I left at that point...I had enough of that. I had such a bad time and it was really boring with having very few people there that I knew.
And then she deleted me on FB a week later, I am assuming due to me not bringing her a big fancy gift. I tried talking to her to see what was up but she ignored phone calls and texts.
What's your worst wedding story?
wow, what a c-unit your "friend" is. Too bad you can't get your gift back from that betch.0 -
I don't think I have a horror story to rival any here but since I do wedding cakes from time to time I have learned a few things I'm mentally storing away for when my kids get married. I always encourage my brides to do all the ceremonial stuff at the reception as soon as possible. Fling your bouquet, toss the garter, make some toasts and cut the cake pretty early on. Then the cake can be plated up and the guests can get it as soon as they're done eating. Older people and those with young children often have to leave before all those ceremonial things are done and if you don't cut your cake until long after dinner you may be taking most of it home!
Also, for your bridal party and anyone helping beforehand, have some food! I've helped with weddings where people get there to set up very early in the day and work all day long to get things all ready and situated but have NOTHING to eat! Then I have helped with weddings where the bride and groom provided trays of sandwiches or those roll up wrap things from Costco, bags of chips or trays of cookies and fruit or veggie trays along with some bottled water that people could help themselves to. I still think loving and happy thoughts toward those people!
My own wedding would be considered a boring one as the ceremony and reception were both at a church. We did this on purpose because they wouldn't allow alcohol. My dad was an alcoholic and I wanted ONE occasion in my whole life to not be ruined by his drinking. Maybe everybody else was bored but I didn't leave my own wedding in tears and I hope most of them understood why we did it that way. We got married in 1991 and my pictures have big hair and big, poofy sleeved bridesmaid dresses! I still wonder what I was thinking on some of the choices I made. :P0 -
No alcohol for the guests but the wedding party got to drink. A reception with a huge dance floor but no music. The bride just handed the flowers to her sister instead of doing the traditional toss because she wanted her sister to get married and "didn't want to chance someone else getting it".0
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My first one0
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I went to one where some of my boyfriend's friends was getting married.
The wedding was ok, but the reception was awful.
They had it in a big concrete civic center. There was no food, nothing to drink (not even if you were willing to pay), the tables and chairs were hard wood and they were going around asking people to donate money into a cup to help pay for the wedding. Oh and you could dance with the bride for 1.00$.
Unbelievable.
WTH?!?!?!!?
Yea, that dollar dance is tacky in my opinion. It's popular in my neck of the woods, but we aren't doing it at my wedding. My fiancé thinks it's tacky as well. My guests can dance with me for FREE!0 -
Apparently, with every party she throws she volunteers everyone to do ****, from what I hear. She appoints tasks to people. I get it if you're on a budget and all, but some people shouldn't have parties. If you can't be a gracious or generous host, then maybe just tone it down and not have a party.
Well, different people, different traditions, obviously. Around here, you volunteer your help if the party isn't at a professional venue (hotell, restaurant, etc) - and even then there may be tasks that need looking after. It's quite all right to be asked to help, and it's a sign of being a person they trust, someone close enough that they can turn to you for assistance.
It's considered better to have as many people as possible come together, meet and enjoy, than to insist on paying for everything.
Actually, my worst wedding was when my boyfriend was the best man. It was all very correct, in a huge, lovely hotel, lots of everything, and good food. I didn't know anybody but the bride, groom and my boyfriend, and they made sure to make him dance attendance to them without me (the bride disliked me severely, enough that she refused to come to our wedding a couple of years later.)
Reading the comments here, I realise that the money spent, the formalities in advance, the ceremonies and the efforts made, would have made that wedding a perfect wedding according to the descriptions here. For me, it was the worst one ever.0
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