Ugly skinny or pretty chubby?

I would date me, because I have it all.

You are hilarious! I know more often than not, when I see one of your posts I am going to laugh.

Always depends on the person. But if I didn't know them at all and I was just looking from a distance I'd say pretty chubby.

I notice personality first, face second, body third. Personality has to be amazing, face pleasing, body just good enough (not too picky there and I like variety anyway). I also think questions like this are silly. As if it can only be one or the other. Or as if these are the only two options.

I don't like when people say that they notice personality first.

You have no idea what their personality is like from across the room.

A nice body will get my attention, but a beautiful soul will keep me. But If I gag when I look at your face, I'm sorry we can't even be friends.

wow, this statement doesn't say much for your soul.

^^^^^^THIS

Damn...no love for us chubby ugly people yet again! :frown:

I notice personality first, face second, body third. Personality has to be amazing, face pleasing, body just good enough (not too picky there and I like variety anyway). I also think questions like this are silly. As if it can only be one or the other. Or as if these are the only two options.

I don't like when people say that they notice personality first.

You have no idea what their personality is like from across the room.

Agreed. I mean, really?? Is it even possible to notice personality first?

Maybe she had a big personality?

I know for me anyway..I may think someone is OK looking and get to know them and find them way more attractive than I did.

Well I don't go for skinny and I don't go for cubby,what to choose what to choose.hmmm........

me.

I notice personality first, face second, body third. Personality has to be amazing, face pleasing, body just good enough (not too picky there and I like variety anyway). I also think questions like this are silly. As if it can only be one or the other. Or as if these are the only two options.

I don't like when people say that they notice personality first.

You have no idea what their personality is like from across the room.

Agreed. I mean, really?? Is it even possible to notice personality first?

Maybe she had a big personality?

I knew people were going to have a problem with this. Really? You don't notice how someone behaves and talks and what they talk about? That isn't the thing that catches your interest and wanting to spend more time with them?

I notice personality first, face second, body third. Personality has to be amazing, face pleasing, body just good enough (not too picky there and I like variety anyway). I also think questions like this are silly. As if it can only be one or the other. Or as if these are the only two options.

I don't like when people say that they notice personality first.

You have no idea what their personality is like from across the room.

Agreed. I mean, really?? Is it even possible to notice personality first?

Maybe she had a big personality?

I knew people were going to have a problem with this. Really? You don't notice how someone behaves and talks and what they talk about? That isn't the thing that catches your interest and wanting to spend more time with them?

Of course I notice that, but it's not like I was blindfolded when they started talking

Exactly.

Think about what would make you approach them in the first place. THAT is the first thing that you noticed.

I notice personality first, face second, body third. Personality has to be amazing, face pleasing, body just good enough (not too picky there and I like variety anyway). I also think questions like this are silly. As if it can only be one or the other. Or as if these are the only two options.

I don't like when people say that they notice personality first.

You have no idea what their personality is like from across the room.

Agreed. I mean, really?? Is it even possible to notice personality first?

Maybe she had a big personality?

I knew people were going to have a problem with this. Really? You don't notice how someone behaves and talks and what they talk about? That isn't the thing that catches your interest and wanting to spend more time with them?

Of course I notice that, but it's not like I was blindfolded when they started talking

But, looks are a dime a dozen. The personality is what gets my attention. I also have been married for a long time and met my husband 17 years ago. so, I was thinking about what caught my attention when I first met him. He came into the room and asked if anyone wanted to go white river rafting. It was his personality and sense of adventure that caught my attention. I may not have noticed him if he had just walked in and started eating (we were in the dining hall at college).

Id go for chubby pretty and I like to think that's what I am. And your personality can make an average person gorgeous and a gorgeous person ugly.

I am not doubting that at all. I do not think they are mutually exclusive, but I almost always see someone before I talk to them. Noticing how they look first does not make it the primary importance. I think we are just approaching this subject differently.

Yeah, I agree. I think you are right about us approaching it differently.

Also, just to be clear, me stating what caught my attention does not mean that I was judging any other thoughts or opinions on it.

I also thought my husband was incredibly attractive.

Also, the question was Who would you rather date?

Everyone's different. Some go on looks first and others are attracted by the personality first, like how the person carries him or herself or what they say when they introduce themselves.

Everyone's different. Some go on looks first and others are attracted by the personality first, like how the person carries him or herself or what they say when they introduce themselves.

Agree!! Probably it is often a combination of the two.