How do i stop being nice?

Maybe you should get a dog or a cat. JK Get involved in something you like and you'll find someone with similar interests and then you'll know which girl to ask out!

i agree with this

you need to go out and do things that interest you - museums, art show, concerts, sporting events, etc - then you'll meet people with the same interested as you.

i met my husband at a concert at Lincoln Center - I wasn't going to go because my friend canceled out - I decided to go alone and it was the best thing i ever did.

my husband was there with his best friend - they noticed i was all alone at intermission and can by to talk to me.

at the end of the concert they waited for me and asked if i'd like to grab a bite and a drink.

we've been together for 22 years.


and whatever you decide to do please don't stop being a nice guy - nice guys are truly sexy and loving.

Aww thank you! You are so sweet. I think you are right. I do need to. But the problem is, I am a programmer and that is what I love doing. Programming. I don't play video games, I build programs for other people to enjoy. So it can be hard to find people with similar interests. I may need to get another hobby......

yes, try new things.

take a cooking class, great way to meet people - and who doesn't love a man who has moves in the kitchen.

take a course at the local college for adults - learn a new language, take an art class, etc.

at first glance people think programmers lack social skills and don't know how to communicate but the truth of the matter is.........

you're an artist, you have vision and create a beautiful product from nothing. of course you don't want to chat it up when your at the computer writing code - you're creating - do you think von Gogh or Picasso were interrupted while they created their works of art.

this skill and passion is completely understood by other artistic type of people - artists do not need their friends and mates to work in the same medium as them but they do need to be around other creative people because they understand that desire to create and that its a passion that can not be denied. it keeps you up till or hours of the night, you forget to eat, etc.

i am an artist that works with creating fabric and they making art out of it to hang on your wall - my husband is an artist - he writes and produces songs. we don't work in the same medium but we understand the passion and respect it. when he pulls an all nighter or i lock myself in the studio for the entire weekend - we don't get upset because we understand the passion.

you are an artist, you will always be an artist, you need to start socializing with other artists, and then you will find that creative soul mate that is perfect for you.

Stop thinking that it's because you're "nice." I don't know you so it's obviously hard to judge, but in my experience, the guys saying it's because they are "nice" are usually acting like *kitten* around women and may or may not even realize it because they're trying to be something they aren't. Relax and just be you.

^^^ This or if not a *kitten* then needy and WAY TO INTENSE. If you think you are nice you really need to relax rather than focussing on your datelessness instead focus on things you love to do.