Can we find a way to help my little girl stay motivated?

Just reading this now. I am the daughter. Thanks to those who have added me and said such kind words. I was feeling alone and to be honest I didnt want to bother people with my problems and I want to thank my mom for being so supportive with this (means the world to me) and this actually makes me feel more motivated to prove to some that people can get a lot of something like this. I know I am going to have my off days like today but i know i can have way more like last week which I ended up losing 7 pounds from working so hard. I need to find a way to balance my life with this and I havent quite figured it out yet but... I will.

And as for my bf and I we are great together its just he doesnt know how to support me fully. I think he wants to but he cant figured out the right way to do it.

You really arent alone

we all struggle at times...it is what you DO that makes the difference,

good luck!

I have never seen such rude people in my entire life. Maybe coming from the south I'm not accustomed to people being so hateful over someone wanting help. Motivation from others can help. I would be happy to help anyone that I can in any way. I guess it just depends on how your raised though.

I have never seen such rude people in my entire life. Maybe coming from the south I'm not accustomed to people being so hateful over someone wanting help. Motivation from others can help. I would be happy to help anyone that I can in any way. I guess it just depends on how your raised though.

Your definition of rude must vary from what most people understand it as. I don't see a single rude person. I see people telling the truth but I don't think telling the truth should be considered rude.

I have never seen such rude people in my entire life. Maybe coming from the south I'm not accustomed to people being so hateful over someone wanting help. Motivation from others can help. I would be happy to help anyone that I can in any way. I guess it just depends on how your raised though.

I was raised with apostrophe re.

I have never seen such rude people in my entire life. Maybe coming from the south I'm not accustomed to people being so hateful over someone wanting help. Motivation from others can help. I would be happy to help anyone that I can in any way. I guess it just depends on how your raised though.

I was raised with apostrophe re.

Having been born and raised in the South, I can assure everyone that we teach grammar along with a certain level of honesty. We do, however, have our pretty little things.

As for the racism comment, it is true that we have asshats in the South, but so does everywhere else. It's an unfortunate reality.

There are two books I would suggest by Tom Venuto: Burn the Fat, Feed the Muscle (currently only an e-book but I believe it is being published as a physical book later in the year) and The Body Fat Solution.

Motivation is not something I can advise about, but the books do cover motivation and goal setting as well as a lot of material on reducing body fat. Motivation probably has to come from within, but knowing "how to do it" helps - even with the knowledge of how to lose weight the right way I still gained 100 pounds after losing motivation, but the motivation returned when I said to my best mate "I should really lose some weight" and his response was "You know how to do it".

The books also apply to both sexes, and some sections might be more "aha!" than others depending on the person, so he probably will get something from the books too if he flips through one.

As far as him not knowing how to be supportive, most people wouldn't know how to be. Losing weight is different to other types of things, some people need someone to listen to them, others need someone to confirm what they are doing is right, others need someone to give them a kick in the butt, others need someone who has succeeded, others need someone who is where they are now doing the same thing, others need someone to constantly ask them about their food and exercise, others need someone who has been in a worse position and got to where they want to get... assuming his problem is he doesn't know how to be supportive your one advantage is that he could probably be a pair of ears, a butt kicker, or a nagger.

Determine the type of support/accountability you need from him, and then determine if he is the right "accountability partner". It might be, for example, he won't feel comfortable challenging you a certain way, in which case someone else might be better - the same as you might not be the best choice for him if he started weight lifting and he needed "someone who has been where I am and now look how I want to look".

As with support and accountability, you can't really motivate someone without really knowing them. By knowing someone well enough, you can pick someone that you think will be inspirational to them (no guarantees) and inspiration itself might be enough for motivation.

If motivation came solely from within, society wouldn't have need for support groups.

I think it's completely asinine to say she has to want it herself before anything else works. Obviously she WANTS it, she's doing zumba and trying her best to make good choices. The problem is her time management.

Support can make or break someone's motivation. I have seriously wanted to lose weight for years (I was suicidal for many years too because of my weight and horrible self-esteem). I developed binge eating disorder and body dismorphic disorder and nothing I ever did seemed to work which only worsened those conditions. Then I started dating my new boyfriend. He's supported me through everything, comforted me when I was depressed, and always told me how proud he was of my efforts. He's never said any discouraging things and his support has kept me going. More than that, without my zumba friends, I wouldn't find zumba as much fun and I wouldn't have stuck with it this long (hell im even going after my teaching certification!!)

Support. Means. Everything.

Without support, there is no success.
Not having support is setting yourself up for failure.

Haha! Racism? What does that have to do with what we are discussing here? I can guarantee that I'm not racist as I am raising a biracial child, but whatever. As Bambi said, if you don't have something nice to say don't say nothing at all. The woman who started this thread has the right to ask for help if she chooses, not hear cut the apron string and things of that nature.

Did...did you....just quote Bambi?

You got a problem with Bambi???!!! But really, it's true.

Jessie is a friend,
yeah I know he's been a good friend of mine...

But lately something's changed
It ain't hard to define...