Significant other's thoughts on your weight loss
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Man I wish my husband was happy with my weight. Almost daily he comments on my weight. I no longer eat in front of him. The last time I did, I had a piece of toast with almond butter on it for breakfast and he says to me, Boy you sure like to eat! He wants me to lose weight and I'm trying but he just isn't supportive. I worked out 3 times today for crying out loud. I'm 15 pounds overweight because I had surgery this winter and well, that's no excuse, but that's what happened.0
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Mine is the wonderful man in the ticker who lost about 80lbs and never said anything about me losing weight,,,until I was ready....now he is my biggest fan and roots me on!0
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Lets just say that I hope I can lose all this baby weight before we end up having another LOL
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I honestly don't like to discuss it with my husband. He is naturally thin, can eat whatever he wants and not gain a pound. He doesn't understand how difficult the process can be because he's never had to go through it. So discussing my weight loss and the process with him, the ups and downs, can sometimes be frustrating. However, he completely supports my efforts, and always congratulates my successes, and that's really all I need from him.
Sounds just like my hubby!0 -
I think he's happy with it. We married when I was at my heaviest so I'd say he loves me hehe.0
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"Dont lose too much weight, you know I love chubby girls"0
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However, he's a bit upset that the "girls" are a little smaller now too. He'll get over it
Too funny. My husband says the same thing!!!!!
My gf's happy because she kinda likes smaller boobs. Lol! I'm the one who's unhappy that the girls are a little smaller ~0 -
Mine seems to want me to lose weight and get in shape yet he hates it when I'm logging and doesn't want me to leave to go to the gym. :noway: But he has been very complimentary of the changes in my body so far so I guess I can't really complain.0
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When I was with my ex, I was at my peak of being in shape. I was 110 pounds, gym 6 days a week and just really had my **** together, including my confidence.
The entire time we dated he told me to stop going to the gym and complained about how much hotter I would be if I weren't so skinny.
And I thought he was wonderful WHY...?0 -
My hubs is awesomely supportive, makes my protein smoothies every morning, never tries to police what I eat, and tells Me he loves Me no matter what
This is the first time in our 20 year relationship I have weighed less then him If h packs my lunch or dinner he puts a sticky note on it with measurements 0 -
I wish mine was. He likes me thick (I guess). I am doing this to feel better. Not so much to lose weight. I asked him to pick me up something 2 days in a row (he has my van) and did he? Nope. So I will do it today (he worked late last night). It would be nice for some support.0
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My husband is totally supportive.
He comments how much better I look in my clothes now.
I would like to lose another 10 pounds, but he said not too thin.
I have some nice clothes and want to fit comfortably in them.
He doesn't want me losing too much weight, He might have to buy me a whole new wardrobe. Ha0 -
I wish he noticed...0
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Let's just say I'm lucky I have my tubes tied :bigsmile:0
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Man I wish my husband was happy with my weight. Almost daily he comments on my weight. I no longer eat in front of him. The last time I did, I had a piece of toast with almond butter on it for breakfast and he says to me, Boy you sure like to eat! He wants me to lose weight and I'm trying but he just isn't supportive. I worked out 3 times today for crying out loud. I'm 15 pounds overweight because I had surgery this winter and well, that's no excuse, but that's what happened.
What a *kitten*! And 15 lbs. is not very much! Why do you put up with that?0 -
My boyfriend is very supportive of my efforts. He is a little TOO involved at times...lol...and makes comments about eating certain foods or asking me if I've worked out etc. (I just gently remind him that I'm doing this for me and not him.) But, he knows I want it as much as he does. He doesn't want me to lose very much...he just wants me to work on toning up my muscles. When he knows I've had a good week/month, he compliments me and says he really notices how tight my legs or bum is getting...or says I look really good in an outfit. It encourages me. I'm hoping to lose about 17 to 27 pounds (want to get between 140 to 130).0
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I lost 50 pounds over the past few years, and that basically broke up my marriage. My ex-husband was extremely threatened by the fact that I was thinner and had more self-confidence. I am now eight months into a relationship with my new boyfriend, who is thrilled by how I look but doesn't quite understand why I need to work so hard to maintain it by running, working out, and tracking calories. He also has binging tendencies (though is pretty fit himself), and I'm constantly telling him why it's a BAD idea to get a cake and eat with him in one day.0
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Man I wish my husband was happy with my weight. Almost daily he comments on my weight. I no longer eat in front of him. The last time I did, I had a piece of toast with almond butter on it for breakfast and he says to me, Boy you sure like to eat! He wants me to lose weight and I'm trying but he just isn't supportive. I worked out 3 times today for crying out loud. I'm 15 pounds overweight because I had surgery this winter and well, that's no excuse, but that's what happened.
What a *kitten*! And 15 lbs. is not very much! Why do you put up with that?
Ditto on the *kitten*. That's quite sad really and I'm sorry for you.0 -
As long as I'm happy, he's happy. Because when I'm happy, I'm naked more often.0
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My husband was the one who got me started with working out at a gym.
He IS a little worried seeing my constant likes on Facebook of bodybuilding pages and women I admire for entering the bodybuilding contests, but I don't think I have the commitment or dedication needed to get a body like that.
And if I did and he didn't like it, he can kiss my muscle-butt. =B0 -
Technically don't have a SO, Im separated from my hubby and working my way towards a divorce. he knows about my weightloss but to him it seems unimportant. when we were together he thought it was ridiculous (another reason im divorcing him haha)
I do however have a very supportive family, kids and friends. My kids are small but since I started my journey im more active with them and they seem to like that (just this morning we went for a walk and I think I took it better than they did LOL)
My family congratulates me and encourages me. My mother congratulates me on every pound and as ive mentioned before I think ive rubbed off on her a bit as I see her making healthy choices.
OH and my ex hubbies family whom I remain close to all are very supportive and think what im doing is great
I would just LOVE to see the look on my husbands face when I come to a point where im smaller than ive ever been...
passing his gf right on up HAHA.0 -
I've dated three guys since I started my weight loss journey:
Guy #1 I was with for several years prior. He thought I was losing weight to be "controlling." Needless to say, he was a very unhealthy eater and did NOT support my healthier lifestyle decisions.
Guy #2 I dated for six months. He was actually the same weight as me. He was never overly critical of my weight, but I constantly felt like he was judging me when I splurged at Chipotle or went and got icecream. This was troublesome because... well, I love to eat. That being said, this same guy (despite being rather thin) was in just horrible shape.
Guy #3 is a bit heavier and muscular. He is happy with how I look now and insists that I don't need to lose anymore weight. I believe his exact phrasing was, "If you lose anymore weight you won't be interested in a guy like me anymore." :noway: No way... he could weigh 300 lbs and I'd still be crazy about him.0 -
My husband and I are a total Team in our lifestyle change journey!! We workout 5 days a week together, on the day he can't come work out with me due to work, he'll still swing by and visit me if he gets a time break. We do our meal planning, grocery shopping, meal prepping, cooking, and even after-cooking dishes together.
He's extremely supportive of every single victory i have, be it on the scale, nailing a heavier lift, running five seconds faster than last time, etc. I honestly couldn't ask for a better support system from him!!!
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What has been your significant others thoughts about your weightloss. My husband doesn't want me to lose anymore weight but i have 20 more pounds for my first major goal and another 20 pounds til my ultimate goal. The funny thing is that he met me when I was 50 pounds lighter but now seems to think that is too small. :ohwell:
This sounds like my husband. He kept saying I didn't need to lose weight, he doesn't like skinny girls. I told him my goal was to get back in my favorite jeans I used to wear all the time when we were dating. He didn't believe I couldn't still wear them, so I tried to put them on and showed him that they no longer went over my hips. He said "they must have shrunk in the wash"
But now that I've lost the weight, he likes it. Sometimes he even talks me into exercising if I'm feeling lazy and don't want to. He never says I need to exercise, just something like "You know you'll just complain later if you don't". Which is true, but his way of saying "I like what that's doing to your body".0 -
I wish he noticed...
I feel your pain :ohwell:0 -
My Boyfriend is awesome about telling me I look great. He is supportive in respects to me accomplishing my goals. Sometimes he doesnt know he is offering me things I absolutely cannot eat (because he isnt aware of nutrition or fitness at all- he can eat whatever!), but as soon as I say No way- he is very understanding. He used to get slightly offended but once he started to see some of my results- something changed. He knows I am happy and that makes him happy.
Smart guy ;-)0 -
OH and my ex hubbies family whom I remain close to all are very supportive and think what im doing is great I would just LOVE to see the look on my husbands face when I come to a point where im smaller than ive ever been...
passing his gf right on up HAHA.
oh sweet revenge0 -
My hubby started off with much negativity. I've tried to get it all off for all our
years together, 12+. So he has grown cynical. Around the time I hit onederland
he completely changed. Talking to his family in how proud he is of me. Telling
me I get more beautiful to him everyday. He is an amazing support now. Which
I completely need. 0 -
I'm lucky to have a super supportive husband. He loved me younger & smaller, pregnant, at my heaviest, and now still loving me throughout my weight loss. He just loves me smiling. :happy:
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We both gained allot of weight after we married he says his weight doesn't bother him but then makes comments about needing to lose weight and refers to himself at times as fat. He's not fooling me lol. He just simply isn't ready to put the junk down yet. I lost my weight and then some. I'm about 20-25 lbs lighter than I was when we met he says he's proud of me and I look great but then also has said I'm too thin and look better w about 20 added :-/ he confuses me!
I will say he has not been my biggest support through this which saddens me but it's the truth0
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