Significant other's thoughts on your weight loss

I've dated three guys since I started my weight loss journey:

Guy #1 I was with for several years prior. He thought I was losing weight to be "controlling." Needless to say, he was a very unhealthy eater and did NOT support my healthier lifestyle decisions.

Guy #2 I dated for six months. He was actually the same weight as me. He was never overly critical of my weight, but I constantly felt like he was judging me when I splurged at Chipotle or went and got icecream. This was troublesome because... well, I love to eat. That being said, this same guy (despite being rather thin) was in just horrible shape.

Guy #3 is a bit heavier and muscular. He is happy with how I look now and insists that I don't need to lose anymore weight. I believe his exact phrasing was, "If you lose anymore weight you won't be interested in a guy like me anymore." :noway: No way... he could weigh 300 lbs and I'd still be crazy about him.

What has been your significant others thoughts about your weightloss. My husband doesn't want me to lose anymore weight but i have 20 more pounds for my first major goal and another 20 pounds til my ultimate goal. The funny thing is that he met me when I was 50 pounds lighter but now seems to think that is too small. :ohwell:

This sounds like my husband. He kept saying I didn't need to lose weight, he doesn't like skinny girls. I told him my goal was to get back in my favorite jeans I used to wear all the time when we were dating. He didn't believe I couldn't still wear them, so I tried to put them on and showed him that they no longer went over my hips. He said "they must have shrunk in the wash"

But now that I've lost the weight, he likes it. Sometimes he even talks me into exercising if I'm feeling lazy and don't want to. He never says I need to exercise, just something like "You know you'll just complain later if you don't". Which is true, but his way of saying "I like what that's doing to your body".

My Boyfriend is awesome about telling me I look great. He is supportive in respects to me accomplishing my goals. Sometimes he doesnt know he is offering me things I absolutely cannot eat (because he isnt aware of nutrition or fitness at all- he can eat whatever!), but as soon as I say No way- he is very understanding. He used to get slightly offended but once he started to see some of my results- something changed. He knows I am happy and that makes him happy.

Smart guy ;-)

My hubby started off with much negativity. I've tried to get it all off for all our
years together, 12+. So he has grown cynical. Around the time I hit onederland
he completely changed. Talking to his family in how proud he is of me. Telling
me I get more beautiful to him everyday. He is an amazing support now. Which
I completely need.

We both gained allot of weight after we married he says his weight doesn't bother him but then makes comments about needing to lose weight and refers to himself at times as fat. He's not fooling me lol. He just simply isn't ready to put the junk down yet. I lost my weight and then some. I'm about 20-25 lbs lighter than I was when we met he says he's proud of me and I look great but then also has said I'm too thin and look better w about 20 added :-/ he confuses me!

I will say he has not been my biggest support through this which saddens me but it's the truth

My husband is supportive in his own way.
He doesn't mind my weight and his main concern is my happiness. In this case that leaves him torn. He hates that my dislike of my body makes me unhappy...he wants me to be happy the way I am. He loves my legs how they are and he wants me to, as well. At the same time, if getting in shape will make me happy, he wants that.

So I get mixed forms of support But overall, I couldn't be happier.

I like others here, get mixed signals from my hubby. When we met, I was about 15 pounds lighter than I am now. In fact I pointed this out to him a week or so ago when I was telling him that I wanted to lose weight. He apparently didn't notice it was that much. He told me that he's fully behind me, whatever I want to do.
At the same time, I'm trying to cook healthier and have a meal plan each week and try to stick to it for both of us. However, he is always talking about needing chips or cupcakes, how we're out of cupcakes, he wants to make cupcakes, has to buy stuff to make cupcakes. The last thing I want in the house is 2 dozen freakin' cupcakes!! If it's not cupcakes, it's other crap food. Argh!! For him, he doesn't have to worry about what he eats since he's in the military and does PT every morning (plus damn his genetics, the men in his family are all thin). It also doesn't help that he wants to eat early. He'd love to eat dinner at 5:30 when I get home if it was possible, but I'm not hungry that early. I've told him that I want to work out when I get home from work but I know he wants to eat at that time. So instead he tells me to work out in the mornings. We've had the conversation before that I can't do morning workouts because it just makes me tired for the rest of the day. I'm not sure why he won't just deal with having a snack when he gets home to hold him over for dinner. (He always snacks after dinner, so it's not him being worried about the extra calories). So instead, I have to rush home everyday to make dinner (otherwise when he cooks it's always pasta...and not very good, whether it's pasta or not) because he has to eat early. So that leaves me in a wierd spot because I don't want to workout after eating a big meal. I'm almost at the point where I want to tell him that he's on his own for dinner so I can do my own thing. I love him but I'm kind of ready for him to deploy again so I can do this weight loss thing without his "help".

My husband used to be very unsupportive. He'd make comments about "eating with the family" or critique what I was doing. He'd get irritated if he cooked something horrible and I declined to eat it.

One day I got sick of it and called him out and told him he wanted me fat because it made him feel more secure. I told him I felt he was undermining me because he was worried if I looked better, I'd leave him or whatever. That shut him up and he's actually gotten on the bandwagon with me and lost 50 pounds of his own. Now that we've got our entire family eating better and being active, it's a lot easier for me to stick with my goals. It's made a huge difference getting us all on the same page.

That's AMAZING that he could be that honest with you! Wow, good for you two!

I'm the smallest my boyfriend has even seen me, and I think he likes it this way, but he's been really stressed lately so we haven't spent as much time together now that he's in school again.

but he's always told me as long as I am happy with my weight, he will be happy with my weight.

It's not the weight loss itself that my husband is supportive of. He wouldn't have minded either way. He's mainly just happy that I'm healthier, more able to do the things I want to do, and happier. He also loves the fact that I'm doing it healthily, and using common sense - no bs fad diets or shakes or pills or whatever. He actually brags about it, haha As far as practical support, he's very good at encouraging me if I need some motivation, but not shaming me or making me feel guilty. He's also really good at reminding me to listen to my body, and take rest days if it seems like I need them. I love how supportive he's been.