How do you get that gap between your thighs

Even when I was in the best shape of my life I didnt have it, any ideas?

Liberal application of a cheese grater?

Seriously though, it's a silly fleeting fad that's unachievable without either a) the genetics for wide hips or b) great pain. File it under other stupid physical fashion fads like:



It's about as bonkers.

Not in the least! I have tried to battle my build for many years and I have finally came to accept it for what it is. I will not apologize for my opinion. I'm sorry if you are offended by it but is what I think. If you feel that women with muscular builds are not attractive that is your right. I am comfortable with who I am and know that I am not everyone's cup of tea.

I've always wondered what the facination with the gap is. Women are suppose to have curves and those curves don't just mean T&A!! To the ones I'm about to offend please forgive me! But to me the women who has this gap look like little boys sorry if I offended anyone. I know we all have our own ideal of what we want to look like but I hope that ideal is realistic for your body. I am 5'3'' with a natually muscular build. I will never have long lean dancers legs. Sure I can get my legs lean but they will never look like someone who is 5'11'' with a natually lean build...its just impossible. Please ladies make yourself the best you, you can be.....not the closest thing to what magazines say you should be.

<--- has a thigh gap, and curves. Measurements are 36, 25, 36.

Your comment that I look like a little boy is completely unnecessary.

Women who don't have thigh gaps are beautiful. Women who do have thigh gaps are beautiful too. There's nothing wrong with having one assuming it's just based on bone structure and nothing unhealthy was done to achieve it. I got mine when I hit 140 lbs at 5'4", so it's not like I was starving myself or even trying to get one.

I'm sorry that my opinion offended you. But that is all it was my opinion! I know too many ladies who try to achive the gap and always end up discouraged because they are not able to have it. If it is what you like, want and can attain it go for it. I just see too many women look down on themselves because they were born "wrong" in the eyes of magazines etc.

Just for proof that this is all a genetics game I'm an inch shorter than you with very similar measurments and the only way I have it is if I lean forward.

But do you not understand that you're doing the exact same thing but in reverse? I didn't try to get mine, it's genetics. You're making it sound like women who have one look "wrong" even though there's nothing we can do about it.

No, what I said was IN MY OPINION I see it that way. If you have it and you like it more power to you. I just hate seeing women try so hard and get discouraged when they can't! I personally don't like the way they look and TO ME it doesn't look like MY ideal of what I want to be. So with that lets just agree to disagree.

So you seriously do not understand how what you're saying is just as bad as what you're complaining about?

Example one: girls without thigh gaps look fat.

Example two: girls with thigh gaps look like 12-year-old boys.

You don't see that these are both offensive statements for the exact same reason? You're tearing people down for something they can't control.

Ok....let me say this. If my opinion offends you stop reading it. You are not going to change my mind on it. Just like I wouldn't change your mind on something you think. I don't appologize for how I think. Why should I? Women have constantly been told that barbie doll figures are the way to be and I have never yet heard an apology from the media or Matel nor do I expect to hear it. So if this "manly" woman's thoughts make you cringe I truely am sorry for the offense but not the thought.

Stating that you're more attracted to less hairy men is not the same as saying men with hairy chests are disgusting. Even if it's what you think, most people have a filter between their brains and mouths/fingers that prevents them from saying mean, hurtful things to others.

Stop making sense!:flowerforyou:

^ This. Focus on what you have and what you can achieve and do not waste time pining after the impossible. You can file this under that category of "things girls and young women stress about that only they notice and men are oblivious to."

I have cardio-vascular problems and on top of that I am four months into my stroke recovery. I really like your comment 'focus on what you have and what you can achieve and do not waste time pining after the impossible'

Very sensible advice and it's what I follow.

To elaborate... thigh gaps are largely down to body structure. Most anyone with wide hips will end up with a thigh gap once they've slimmed down a bit.

If Jessica Ennis and Beyonce don't need a thigh gap....neither do you. No one ACTUALLY cares about thigh gaps. You don't look at someone and go 'she's hot. but im not interested cos she hasn't got a thigh gap'.

Spoiler: a lot of photos taken of girls showing off their 'thigh gap' is actually just them leaning forwards a bit. Try it. Stand in front of a mirror, tilt your upper body forwards slightly. Tada....now you have your 'thigh gap'

Have you ever read Snow Flower and the Secret Fan? Her very detailed description of the foot binding process made me nearly throw up.

Have you ever read Snow Flower and the Secret Fan? Her very detailed description of the foot binding process made me nearly throw up.

I have...and it was grotesque.

Us women have done, or endured, all sorts of totally mad things in the pursuit of what was fashionable for bodies at the time. IMO the most important thing is being fit and healthy - nobody, but nobody has the perfect body and if we women spend our time worrying that we don't then we let life slide by in unhappiness and frustration.