This may be vain and petty...but

ecoldbrook
ecoldbrook Posts: 20
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This may be vain and petty...but I was recently talking to one of my friends (whose constantly trying to lose 10-15lbs) about how this whole weightloss thing was going for me. I told her that I had changed things up recently and started lifting heavy things because I didn't want to be 'skinny fat,' still fluffy but in a normal weight range.

She gives me a side eye and says, 'why bother its not like you are going to be skinny anyway...'

I guess my face must have shown something (wtf, most likely) because she quickly followed it up by saying, 'well, its not like I'll ever be skinny either.'

And so now my petty motivation is to be 'skinnier' than she is. Its vain and petty and slightly terrible, but there it is. People need to play things in their head before they speak out loud. Seriously.
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  • Joreanasaurous
    Joreanasaurous Posts: 1,384 Member
    Sounds like something I would do as well. Go for it!
  • MightyDomo
    MightyDomo Posts: 1,265 Member
    I would have given her the same glance and said "b*tch, what? I am definitely not going to be fat forever."

    No one should be able to say that to you, you will fight for what you want and when you are fighting for it then it is never a losing battle. As long as you never give up you will lose the weight you want to lose and be fan-freaking-tastic!
  • sozisraw
    sozisraw Posts: 418 Member
    Ha ha you have found your motivation! Revenge, yer just do it!
  • treesha450
    treesha450 Posts: 321 Member
    not vain or petty in my opinion. HONEST !! I love it and I hope you get skinnier then her then you can give her your old "fat clothes" because your swimming in them and they will fit her.
  • Southern_Belle_LA
    Southern_Belle_LA Posts: 931 Member
    "Don't let people who have given up on their dreams talk you out of yours!"
  • missshyeviolett
    missshyeviolett Posts: 310 Member
    She frankly wouldn't be my friend anymore. What a bit**y comment!
  • furniem
    furniem Posts: 145 Member
    Karma comes when you least expect it and it will come back around to her when you are strutting around in your skinny jeans and showing off your muscles! Go girl! Prove her wrong!
  • Beastmode454
    Beastmode454 Posts: 340 Member
    yea that was uncool of your "friend" she probably see's you gaining confidence and making a change in life and she is probably jealous..
  • KatC_88
    KatC_88 Posts: 101 Member
    Show her up! But dont let her comment get you in a negitive way! Just use it as motivation :)
  • Iron_Lotus
    Iron_Lotus Posts: 2,295 Member
    I think I would have slapped her lol I would do the same thing.
  • godsgrl33
    godsgrl33 Posts: 307 Member
    Yeah, I'm not sure if she's even a friend. Is this like the whole "frienemy" thing? If any of my friends ever said that, they would not be a friend anymore. Honestly, don't let revenge be your motivator. You need to do this for you, not anyone else. And, you need to let her know that this hurt your feelings. She may not even remember she said it, or realize how hurtful this could be. And, I would not talk to her anymore about the whole weight loss thing, either. This would just open the door for more hurt.
  • ecoldbrook
    ecoldbrook Posts: 20
    It is definite motivation! And I have decided that talking to her about healthy lifestyle changes and weightloss are not conducive to us continuing as friends...oh well. Some people just let you down.
  • retiree2006
    retiree2006 Posts: 951 Member
    Once you lose it and build up those muscles, next time she comments be sure to thank her and let her know she was your inspiration. Sweet!
  • MissJacquelineN
    MissJacquelineN Posts: 175 Member
    I believe it's the 'Bit*h, it's on!' look. I use it often.
  • Georgianbaygirl67
    Georgianbaygirl67 Posts: 97 Member
    Kick her *kitten* girl!
  • mytime1986
    mytime1986 Posts: 117
    So what if its petty.. I agree you go for the gold! i hate when people say things like that too!!
  • AlongCame_Molly
    AlongCame_Molly Posts: 2,835 Member
    Sounds like you already decided to do it for YOU, so no harm if you happen to show a jealous bizznatch a thing or two while you're at it! :wink:
  • Pixi_Rex
    Pixi_Rex Posts: 1,676 Member
    Some of the best motivation for me comes from things like that.
  • MadameLAL
    MadameLAL Posts: 108
    Do your own thing, and try not to make this about other people. Also, make it a point never to talk about weight, fitness or looks again.
  • jakesfitness
    jakesfitness Posts: 123 Member
    a few years ago my girlfriend (at the time) asked me what would happen if some guy started hitting on her or causing trouble if i would fight him. i was always kind of a skinny little guy, and when i said i would fight him she just started laughing at me, for at least 30 45 seconds before she realized how freakin insulting it was... we broke up last year and ive been posting updated on my facebook about my progress since i started lifting and she deleted and blocked me... victory!
  • FarAway02
    FarAway02 Posts: 211
    Most people have some kind of 'petty' motivational reason that contributes to doing what they're doing.

    I'm definitely looking forward to the day where a certain ex of mine realises how HOT the thing is that he tried to throw away :p

    Just make sure it isn't the ONLY reason you're doing what you're doing. I'm doing this to be healthy, to feel more energetic, to have clearer skin, to be fit and active, to be able to keep up, to not shy at physical activities, to feel (more) confident and to give my future self a better chance and being healthy and active for longer.

    Keep all that in mind TOO.
  • Goddessmaker1
    Goddessmaker1 Posts: 114 Member
    I guess I don't believe in revenge. I would have said my piece respectfully and removed her from my life. I don't get down with toxic people.
  • nika_bolinhos
    nika_bolinhos Posts: 42
    Revenge is an amazing motivation. I use it all every time a "pretty" lady behaves like a *****.
    But I think I'm worse, I love to cook and make sweets, so if a skinny person is mean to me I pretend I didn't care and start being "very nice" by feeding them very fattening things. I know it's terrible, but if you find out what their achilles heel of fatty foods is you can usually at least get a comment after a couple of weeks, thinks like "I have no self control, I don't know how you do it" make my day. I suppose I should be happy that I work mostly from home and my social circles are formed by terribly nice people.
    What can I do, I just love people admitting they are not perfect after treating me like trash, that is all I ask :)
  • ashleyisgreat
    ashleyisgreat Posts: 586 Member
    Haha, do it up! You're already losing weight and you seem to be motivated with or without the comments of a jealous friend, but I say that if it gives you that little extra boost, then it's perfectly fine.
  • beckyboop712
    beckyboop712 Posts: 383 Member
    Go For it!! I think I'd rather that motivator than the one I have....to get my mother off my back about my weight. Hey, it's annoying enough that I'll do it just to make her shut up. Don't get me wrong, I love her dearly but I've had it with her nagging.
  • PriceK01
    PriceK01 Posts: 834 Member
    Living well is the best revenge. Kick her *kitten*!
  • RedSkinFox
    RedSkinFox Posts: 23 Member
    Some of the best motivation for me comes from things like that.

    Here here
  • HealthWoke0ish
    HealthWoke0ish Posts: 2,078 Member
    Haha.

    Welp, count me in as someone who's now rooting for you! :)

    Good luck.:drinker:
  • ashleyisgreat
    ashleyisgreat Posts: 586 Member
    a few years ago my girlfriend (at the time) asked me what would happen if some guy started hitting on her or causing trouble if i would fight him. i was always kind of a skinny little guy, and when i said i would fight him she just started laughing at me, for at least 30 45 seconds before she realized how freakin insulting it was... we broke up last year and ive been posting updated on my facebook about my progress since i started lifting and she deleted and blocked me... victory!

    That's so awesome. You know you struck a chord when they delete *and* block you.
  • 4_Lisa
    4_Lisa Posts: 362 Member
    Great motivator for sure, keep playing that conversation in your head whenever you lose sight of the end goal... LOL

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